#now im having to do research bc i'm not hyperfixating on the topic like i was all those years ago

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brb making a goddamn essay to convince my shrink i have adhd

[asking-jude]

I'm just a bit of a mess,. i think i have adhd. I've done lots of research n stuff n everything, and I mean EVERYTHING fits, the rsd, the executive dysfunction, hyperfixations, etc. but i can't really go anywhere or get checked, bc in my place it's really really hard to get a psychiatrist or a therapist, and when I told my parents they said I'm just too scared or that I'm faking it. and it just feels so frustrating bc i constantly hate me "faking" but it's the best explanation imo 1/? -💛🌿

(ask continued) ...i feel so fake bc no one thinks I actually have problems, bc I'm "too smart" or just too "hypochondriac" but i know that this all makes sense, it's all me, and it explains why I feel so differently from my peers, but i also dont want to disrespect the adhd community bc I'm self diagnosing/not official. i used to be hyper focused on school before, and get amazing grades, but now I'm honestly burnt out, and i have no motivation, I'm constantly demotivated 

and i always feel burnt out and im forgetful and I'm careless and im stupid, but it must be that I'm "just not trying hard enough bc we know you're smart, you're just too distracted with social media and you're faking being r*tarded for attention or to get extensions and stuff" and i feel like such utter trash but it's true, isnt it? i don't even know anymore.

Hello, I am so, so sorry that people are invalidating your feelings and experiences. It must be incredibly difficult to have to deal with negative opinions and lack of support on top of everything else you are going through. I want to tell you that, despite what others are saying, your struggles are very real and valid. You are not a mess; you are just misunderstood and hurting. Rather than seeing it as something being wrong with you, you should try to see it as your brain being wired differently. I am not qualified to confirm your self-diagnosis, but I can suggest some ways to go about lessening your ADHD symptoms. First and foremost, it is so important that you get proper sleep, eat a nutritious diet, and exercise sufficiently. These things can greatly impact mental health. Moreover, individuals with ADHD often find it helpful to stay manage their symptoms by keeping a planner with to-do lists and schedules. Break your day down into small chunks of time. This can help declutter your mind by getting any tasks or ideas you have onto paper. In addition to decluttering your mind, it is also important to declutter your physical space. This will help calm the mind and increase productivity/wellbeing. Practicing self-care is also of utmost importance. Attend to your physical/mental needs and be sure to incorporate activities that make you happy into your daily routine. Here are some more extensive tips on how to cope with ADHD: https://www.additudemag.com/dealing-with-adhd-80-coping-strategies/ https://www.additudemag.com/slideshows/13-adhd-coping-skills-for-organization-time-management/ https://psychcentral.com/blog/12-best-tips-for-coping-with-adhd/ https://www.nami.org/About-Mental-Illness/Mental-Health-Conditions/ADHD/Support You mentioned that it is difficult to find professional help in your area, so I highly suggest you try out online therapy. Some popular virtual counseling services are TalkSpace and BetterHelp. These provide regular, individualized support for people who do not readily have access to in-person services. I also recommend you read the following article to figure out which type of therapy is right for you and how to access it: https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/therapy/how-do-i-find-a-therapist-near-me/ I've also attached some links on finding ADHD/mental health support groups, both online or near you: https://chadd.org/affiliate-locator/ https://www.meetup.com/topics/adhd/ https://www.webmd.com/add-adhd/adhd-online-community https://add.org/adhd-support-groups/ https://addcoach4u.com/us-adhd-support-groups-list/ It sounds like this is really taking a toll on you. If these feelings become especially overwhelming, you should reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Line at 1-800-273-8255 or the Crisis Text by texting HOME to 741741 (in the U.S.). These are 24/7 services for individuals who need someone to listen and support them through whatever they need, whether that be difficult times or suicidal thoughts. Once again, I am so sorry that you are going through this. You are so strong for persevering in spite of these unfortunate circumstances. Believe in yourself and keep fighting. Things will get better, I promise. Stay strong, and I wish you all the best. Much love, Siriveena

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