#nvcs

[huayno]

last one i swear but this is what happens when you have a conflict resolution system squarely opposed to any sense of right and wrong (except for speaking wrong). evil evil evil modality and of course incredibly violent—no one ever has bad intentions, no one has ever truly done anything wrong, everyone's feelings have equal importance—if you ever have a grievance that's because of how you interpreted the world. god.

[princesscatherinemiddleton]

Miss Catherine Middleton attended the wedding of Nicholas van Cutsem and Alice Hadden-Paton at The Guards Chapel, Wellington Barracks | August 14 2009

[dedbutalsoaliv]

Okay guys I have something!!! My video game Nightview city (see previous posts if you click on my account) is gonna do a contest to see who can make the best game poster.

This contest is open to ANYONE!! Just play the game and make a poster :)

We’ll be waiting

Btw- if you win this, the poster will be used at a national level to gain support for the game

[safo-2000]

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[seeyatellite]

“According to Marshall Rosenberg, "no conflict exists at the level of human needs" because all humans share the same fundamental needs, and conflict only arises when people clash over the different strategies they use to meet those needs.”

~ Google’s AI on Nonviolent Communication

[dino-boyo-agere]

I bought an amazing LCD writing tablet on wish and I can only recommend it.

It's fun and a great tool, especially for nvc!!

As a person that goes semi-verbal, not only when regressed, this has helped me greatly!!

I bought the smallest size for 4€ the biggest costs 12,50€

.ﾟ.*･｡ﾟ×ﾟ｡･».ﾟ°･⁠✧ ↓ DNI ↓ ✧･° ﾟ.«･｡ﾟ×ﾟ｡･*.ﾟ.

[princesscatherinemiddleton]

Miss Catherine Middleton attended the wedding of Nicholas van Cutsem and Alice Hadden-Paton at The Guards Chapel, Wellington Barracks | August 14 2009

[flexbringer]

Identity politics would really benefit from nonviolent communication

[seeyatellite]

Dominance hierarchies want empty, emotionally detached puppets.

Feelings are a language of life.

People don’t make good slaves when they’re connected to life.

[nuvatra]

هل تعاني من سوء الفهم أو النزاعات المتكررة في علاقاتك؟ 😥 قد تكون طريقة تواصلك هي السبب! "التواصل اللاعنفي" (NVC) لمارشال روزنبرغ يقدم نموذ��ًا بسيطًا وقويًا للتعبير عن نفسك بصدق وفهم الآخرين بعمق. يعتمد على 4 خطوات: الملاحظة، الشعور، الحاجة، الطلب. تعلم كيف تحول محادثاتك من اللوم والدفاع إلى #التعاطف والتفاهم. اكتشف لغة الحياة 👇 https://nuvatra.blogspot.com/

[15spd]

わかりやすい。NVC.

“北村さんが高校生に講演した際「いらいらしたこと」を問うたら女子高生が自嘲して「彼氏にヤリ逃げされた」とみんなの前で言った。北村さんは「どんな気持ち？」とたたみかけた。彼女は「むかつく→二股だった→悔しい→悲しい」ときて、最後「大切にしてほしかった」と泣いた。自分でも驚いたという。 北村さんは「怒りやいらいらは２次感情」と言う。「その怒りの奥底には”わたしを認めて、大切にして、肯定して”という柔らかな１次感情がある」。言葉にできないからこそ暴力に発展する。誰が子どもの奥底の小さな悲しい声を聞くのか。親が、子どもの悲しさや弱さを受け止めないと、行き場がなくなる”

—

Twitter / Makiko　Miyajima (via tsundere) (via shrineroof, clione)

2010-01-26

(via gkojay) (via neos21)

(via theemitter) (via yaruo)

[healingwgabs]

Being treated with fairness, respect, peace, and understanding is so important to me. Find myself connecting to these needs quite often so soothe

[madeiranroll]

[how-to-stop-hurting]

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[rotationalsymmetry]

And sometimes they're called "I statements" because they don't even have to contain "feel" and usually don't. "I'm lonely" means the same thing "I feel lonely."

i think one of the most misunderstood and misused "therapy speak" things is I Statements.

I Statements aren't just about starting with "I feel...." they are about identifying, specifically, the emotions you're dealing with, and acknowledging your subjective experience instead of making objective claims about the other person that you can't possibly know.

"i feel like you hate me" is not an I statement. "you hate me" is not an emotion. "i feel insecure in our relationship" or "i feel vulnerable," or even "i'd like affirmation," those are I Statements. you can't just slap "i feel" before an accusatory sentence and call it good. you need to actually pay attention to the spirit of the idea too.