#plilisexual

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AndroKalosFe: being attracted to men but willing to engage in acts with women (despite minimal or no attraction towards women themselves) for any reason. See also minkalosfem.

Perioriented: A person whose romantic and sexual orientations 'match' (ex: paroromantic parosexual, pliliromantic plilisexual).

-ap

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Okay so I've been through extreme near death trauma and since then, dont really express much attraction. I use sex and sexual activity to cope, but dont care on my partners gender at all. I'm not really attracted to anyone. I'm also extremely repulsed by romance and close friendships. What would my sexual, romantic, alterous, platonic, and sensual orientations be? Some would say its pan and others would say ace so I'm really not sure thanks for any help!

Sexual attraction =/= sexual action; if you don’t feel attraction, you can call yourself asexual regardless of how much sex you have. But it’s your orientation, so the choice is yours.

Here are a few terms that might fit your sexual orientation:

A-: “Experiencing no attraction. (Asexual, aromantic, aplatonic, analterous, asensual, aqueerplatonic).”

Aspectus-: “Where a person can appear to have an attraction, but in reality they do not feel that attraction at all. They tend to act in ways that most people would assume allo people do.A case would be an aspectusexual person likes to flirt, make sexual jokes, and look sexy, but they're doing so because they enjoy it, not because they have the goal of attracting someone for a sexual relationship. Ultimately they are still aspec.“

Caed-/Caedo-: “A feeling that one was previously able to experience a particular kind of attraction, but that ability was lost due to trauma.“

Caligo-: “On the A- spectrum, defined as feeling attraction that is very weak or vague, almost nonexistent, like a vapor, fog, or mist. “

Cass-: “Feeling utterly indifferent to your orientation, as though it does not matter or is not a significant part of your identity. “You might feel attraction, you might not, meh, maybe you like girls, or nonbinary people, ehh, who cares though?””

Cupio-: “Not feeling a type of attraction, but desiring interaction that goes with it regardless.“

Gray-: “Being between a- and allo-; feeling attraction rarely, vaguely, or weakly.“

Icula-: “Being A- (aromantic, asexual, etc) but being open to sexual acts, romantic acts, etc.“

Klape-: “When you feel as though your ability (or potential) to experience attraction has been taken away from you due to abuse, trauma, neurodivergency, illness, or any other similar factor, including any combination of them.“

Nanox-: “A person who rarely feels attraction or feels attraction so small to the point where that attraction is almost nonexistant (depending on how its used, i.e a nanoxsexual person rarely feels sexual attraction) A blanket term for nanoxsexual, nanoxmantic, nanoxplatonic, nanoxsensual, nanoxalterous, and nanoxqueerplatonic.X is replaced by the persons orientation, for example, nanox would be nanopan, nanoxsexual would be nanohomosexual, etc.“

Novi-: “Feeling complicated attraction or lack thereof in such a way that it is difficult or impossible to fit into one word or term.“

Plilisexual: “The opposite of apothisexual, an asexual who isn't repulsed by sex.“

Pomo-: “An orientation where one denies or does not fit any labels for a particular kind of attraction.  For example, someone who is pomosexual may or may not feel sexual attraction, but is not interested in specifying whether they feel it, and to whom.‘Not straight’. A label for not wanting or needing a precise label.”

As for your romantic orientation, you may want to use one of these:

Apothi-: “An orientation defined by repulsion. Whether or not they feel a type of attraction is irrelevant to them due to their repulsion towards the idea of being in that kind of relationship.”

ARC-: “The general term for a person who feels averse, repulsed, or conflicted towards sex, romance, etc.“

Alterous attraction is usually said to be between romantic and platonic, or desiring emotional closeness without it being romantic or platonic. You don’t say anything about it on your ask, but from the rest of it, I'll assume you don’t feel alterous attraction. You can just not label your alterous orientation, or say you are analterous if asked, if you really feel no alterous attraction.

Platonic attraction has two different definitions; some use it in place of queerplatonic attraction, which is sort of like... desiring emotional closeness without it being romantic, or wanting a commited platonic relationship. It’s hard to explain. The other definition is, well, if you have desire to have friends or not. If you use this second definition, you can either be alloplatonic or aplatonic. Again, it seems like you are aplatonic if I’m basing this on your ask, but I can’t be sure just with that information. You can also just not label platonic orientation, since most people don’t care for it.

Sensual attraction has several different meanings. People agree it’s an attraction regarding acts that aren’t sexual but that are intimate, but depending on the person, they will describe different acts that sensual attraction covers. Actions such as the desire to kiss, caress, cuddle, hold hands and sensual touches may be considered sensual attraction, but some people just consider them sexual or romantic attraction. From this ask, I have no clue if you desire this kind of touch or if you would just do it because of your coping. I recommend labeling your sensual orientation as something I listed for your sexual orientation, as something gender-based if you really do feel such attraction and don’t just do those actions regardless of attraction (such as pansensual, omnisensual, polysensual, etc.) or just not label it at all.

Hope this helps!

~ Tath

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