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[velvetwyrme]

okay hear me out

defrag = unfuck

cus to "fuck something up" is to made mistakes or complicate things a lot so mental defragging is like uncoiling and simplifying brain things

hey anon you'll be delighted to know that thats. exactly what it means.

in computing defragging/defragmentation is something that is done to file systems to clean and sort them :D!!

[rainbow-sunshine-unicorn]

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[bennetsbonnet]

Don't you think that Darcy was selfish with his family legacy by marrying Elizabeth for love since her lack of money and connections would inevitably affect Pemberley's coffers and the dowries of his future offspring?

Selfish is absolutely not a word that I'd associate with Mr Darcy when it comes to Pemberley. While he was undoubtedly selfish in many other ways, I think it's pretty clear based on what Mrs Reynolds tells Elizabeth and the Gardiners during their visit that he took his obligations as master very seriously and, consequently, he would never have done anything to jeopardise the estate's continued prosperity. He took his responsibility seriously in that department, perhaps to the detriment of his ability to give a good account of himself and make a good first impression on others (not that I'm excusing his behaviour!! He was awful!!) but I think there is perhaps an explanation for his apparent contradiction in appearing as a kind, generous master in Derbyshire vs conceited snob in Hertfordshire.

Darcy was very, very well off. I don't think it's inevitable at all that Elizabeth's lack of wealth would've adversely affected Pemberley's coffers whatsoever. Sure, he could've gained all the De Bourgh wealth and of course Rosings Park with all its expensive glazing if he had married Anne but... in not marrying her, Darcy was not rendered a pauper by any stretch of the imagination. His wife could've brought absolutely nothing and it wouldn't have made an impact, really. An income of ten thousand per year is not an insignificant sum. Plus there's all of the interest that a figure would've generated, that's a little complicated and we don't need to get into that but if he managed his money well (which by all accounts he did) then it would've increased year upon year, therefore leaving his and Elizabeth's children in a strong financial position.

As for the figure of ten thousand pounds itself, I'm not fond of simply translating it into today's money for scale because that doesn't tell the whole story so I won't do that.

Rather, here is an interesting breakdown of the finances for a year of a family with an income of £500:

(Here's the source for the above table, also featuring some more insight into finances!)

That table gives you some idea of the relative costs of a household. When you see that rent and taxes set them back 'only' £50 and the two maid-servants earned £15 for an entire year... it helps to put into perspective just how much money an income of £10,000 was!

Plus, when you consider that Jane Austen herself had an allowance of only twenty pounds per year and ultimately only earned £350 in her lifetime for all of her writing, whereas a lawyer earned £1500 a year and even that income, for a comparably high paid profession, is still far less than Darcy's clear ten thousand... it's very obvious he didn't need to marry for money at all. By all accounts his father ran the estate well and Darcy had followed in his footsteps. So, he'd absolutely earned the right to marry for love by being a good master. If he'd neglected Pemberley and needed a rich wife, like Anne, to balance the books but still put his obsession with a comparatively poor woman with fine eyes first, and married Elizabeth despite knowing Pemberley would go to rack and ruin then, yes! that's selfish! But that wasn't his reality.

Also, while you can look at Elizabeth bringing no large dowry and only really herself to the marriage as a bad thing, I would argue that actually merely viewing her contribution through the lens of her worth in terms of cold hard cash is somewhat simplistic and that, perhaps, such a view brings the baggage of the modern capitalist society that we (well, a lot of us) live in, to an era that it doesn't belong in. Women back then who were mistresses of large estates, such as Pemberley, essentially undertook full-time jobs they didn't earn salaries for. Sure, it wasn't truly arduous, intense, back-breaking work, but there was a lot of planning and management to be done; such as organising the staff (in conjunction with a housekeeper), visiting tenants, interior design, formulating menus, budgeting for clothes/linens, sewing items for the poor and doing their own version of networking with other wealthy families of respectable lineage (with social calls and hosting dinners).

So you see, it's not as simple as 'Elizabeth was poor so she brought nothing,' nor was her background necessarily a hindrance, because coming from the family she did would've taught her a great deal about economy, which was such a valuable skill to have as it could allow women to advance their positions in society by looking wealthier than they actually were. Knowing how to economise was vitally important, in a society where so much mattered on snap judgments people made about the clothes you wore, how many servants you kept and whether you had your own carriage or needed to hire one... if you could make an annual budget of £350 look like £500, that was an impressive, sought after skill. I'm not saying Elizabeth would've needed to economise to that extent, but it isn't as simple as 'more money = more worth.'

It would have been better for Darcy (and he was intelligent, I think he would've realised this long before he met her) to have had a wife from a less affluent background but who knew how to make a budget stretch, rather than have a wife from a rich family with a taste for the finer things in life who carelessly spent money on frivolous purchases. THAT would be true selfishness to his children, jeopardising their future with a mother who couldn't, or rather wouldn't, economise and leaving Pemberley in a worse state than it was when he inherited it. I can't imagine Elizabeth spending beyond her means, not when she would've frowned upon such behaviour by Kitty and Lydia and have watched her mother waste money, as 'Mrs Bennet had no turn for economy,' (Ch. 50). Such prudence with money would have been a very desirable trait in a wife. He would've felt secure she wouldn't overspend and ruin his estate. So, although she wasn't wealthy, she was still a catch in so many ways.

And I also want to point out that though I've been commenting on her lack of wealth, Elizabeth wasn't poor! She was of the same class just at a lower end than Darcy (but most people were, compared to him). His problem with marrying her was never about her family's comparative lack of wealth, his concern was with their behaviour and lack of eminent connections, as we learn during his first proposal. Though the Bennets and Longbourn were at the lower end of income for an estate and Pemberley was definitely in the upper echelon, Longbourn was a decent sized estate itself! Elizabeth would've known something about estate management.

Plus, that first proposal shows us that she absolutely wasn't after his money. A good marriage with a prosperous husband was important for a woman in Elizabeth's situation, yes; it was necessary in order to save her from the misery that would unfold after Mr Bennet's demise, but she had shown that she wasn't overawed by his money. In fact, I think it was a hindrance to her ever forming a good opinion of him rather than a help. That's probably what Darcy had been looking for his entire life, someone who genuinely loved him for him and not his wealth! Though he found it out in perhaps not the nicest of fashions, ultimately his dreadful first proposal made him even more certain that when she accepted him, she did it because she truly loved him, not because of any financial considerations.

Anyway, to wrap up: no, I don't think Darcy was selfish in the slightest when it came to Pemberley, nor that a lack of money from Elizabeth would have had a detrimental impact on Pemberley's coffers nor their future offspring.

His children (even if there were lots of them!) with Elizabeth would have been absolutely fine and had impressive dowries even if had to come entirely out of their father's wealth. Plus, even if the Darcy children were ever in a situation where they were cash poor, to be associated with such a family and an estate would open many doors for them, given the weight their name would've carried in important circles. Darcy was fastidious, he would have considered all of this before his marriage.

Ultimately, he earned his love match and happy marriage by not behaving like a Wickham and throwing money down the drain, and Elizabeth should be viewed as contributing an awful lot to the marriage in other ways than merely through the lens of money, which overlooks the hours of work she would put in to running an estate such as Pemberley.

Elizabeth and Darcy were a brilliant match in many ways and even their wealth disparity, though considerable as they were at very different ends of their class, by no means undermined that fact.

[bo-katan]

Please... I really need to know... is that Naboo seen in Kleya and Luthen's flashback? QwQ

Yes, it is!

[the-catboy-minyan]

the state of israel won’t exist in 100 years time

meow 🐄

[userparamore]

paramore was not the first female led band to win best rock album..

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[m4ndysk4nkovich]

i hate it when people have no media literacy and can’t form their own opinions… i don’t understand how you can’t form your own opinions and need to just copy and paste them from other people and if you wanna come on my blog and talk about shit you clearly know nothing about don’t even bother like pls just go back to reddit and leave me alone

[hpdfag]

you seem so cool :0 i love your aesthetic n stuff ^^ i haven’t seen the show you’re from though , or game ?? i looked it up and still don’t know T-T should i watch/play it ? :>

can i have the signoff 🍝 ?

aaah thank you so much!! i put a lot of effort into curating everything here... and its a game!

specifically it's the second game in the danganronpa series, though there is an anime (two if you count the dr1 anime adaptation) i wouldn't reccomend starting with it. if you do want to get in to the series id say start with the first game or watch the anime adaptation for it, then play through sdr2! my acc definitely isnt spoiler free for the games but i dont post much about the big twist of sdr2 except in vague terms and in a way that i do believe wouldnt reveal anything thatd ruin it LOLOL

and id say if youre up for it go for it, theyre definitely very dark games and have aged lets say ah. Poorly. in some aspects. but overall the story being told is a fascinating one that i really enjoy. theyre definitely commitments though, most playthroughs of dr1 ive seen on youtube take about 20 hours (though theyre usually also commentating) and it takes me a solid week to get through sdr2 (about a trial a day minus chapter 6 which is really difficult for me for more personal reasons) and im basically skimming with how many times ive played it LOLOL

[gayestcowboy]

hey this may be a weird question so feel free to never answer but how did you go about gaining weight? you're so happy with it and i think it may be for me too but i wouldn't know the first step towards that happiness so,,

i’m gonna be so honest it just happened naturally when i went on testosterone. i didn’t drastically change my diet or exercise, if anything i ended up getting more exercise from walking all over my campus (i started t before i started college), and i definitely need to eat more than i used to, but nothing drastic. it’s just how my body reacted to having more testosterone. i didn’t expect it at all going into it, although i’m very glad it happened, but some people lose weight on hrt and some people dont have a weight change ag all, it just depends on the person. since i did literally nothing to gain weight other than hrt, and obviously i have no idea whether hrt is something you even remotely want to do, and hrt isn’t even a guarantee your weight will change at all, i cant do much other than share my own experience 😭 but i wish you luck in whatever you end up doing, and i hope you enjoy your body!

and this might be a weird answer, but if you feel comfortable, you could always try poking around in a weight gain fetish community somewhere online. it’s not really something i’m into so i can’t say whether or not anything will come from it, but i know it exists and it’s a group of people who know how to gain weight, and i’m sure some of them post about how they do it. i won’t give out any more medical advice on tumblr, and i hesitate to ask if anyone else has any advice, but i’m sure the very best thing you could do is talk to a medical professional about it, and just make sure to take good care of your body no matter how much you weigh. weight and health will never measure your worth as a person, but you should always try and take care of your body as best you can. and eat your veggies 👍

[theinfinitedivides]

totally obsessed with king the land and i need to rant about it somewhere and i figured this would be a fun place because i love your takes and can i start off by saying i've haven't seen someone as down bad as gu won in a really long while. to think he realized his feelings because he took a quiz a few weeks back and look at where he is now, confessing his love on a rooftop to the woman he falls in love with more and more every second.

ep 10 was honestly one of the most fulfilling romantic escape episodes i've ever seen in a show, like the locations were stunning, the chemistry was chemistrying like crazy and god the way won looks at sarang? the way he smiles so wholeheartedly? it's like she helped him rediscover what happiness and love feels like.

one thing i really loved from the earlier eps is how won always gives in and tries new things with sarang and realizes how much he enjoys it. also, the way sarang's grandma is such an important figure to both sarang and won now makes me so happy. i love how won takes all of her advice to heart and actually works on his communication.

i also absolutely loved how this week's eps focused on them just being in love and enjoying their dating era, the quality time and the constant need to touch each other and express their affection is something so precious. can't wait to see what's in store for them in the weeks to come. 🥹

i cannot tell you how honored i am to be the recipient of this little love letter to KTL bc you!!!! you get it anon!!!! i'm going to be addressing some of your points but i should warn you that it will be all over the place so i hope that doesn't confuse you once you get around to reading this sksksksk

first off, i think Won automatically gravitates towards Sa Rang's halmeoni bc in some ways she is that mother figure for him. we still haven't been told exactly what happened to his mother btw, but considering the age gap between him and his half-sister Hwa Ran you would think that after eomma "disappeared" (using that term for now) Hwa Ran would have stepped in. their relationship is so, so f*cked up, however, that she's never actually treated him as her actual sibling (as seen by her dangling the pocketwatch his mother gave him out the window/breaking it by letting it go. he still carries it around, even after all of that.) and so there is no love lost between the two of them. she has always viewed him as a competitor, someone to be wary against in her struggle for their father's company, and even though Halmeoni acts as if he is also one (for Sa Rang's hand) the way they interact says differently. (there's so much to unpack about why that is, namely the way that Gu Il Hoon treats his children and the lessons he's instilled in them, but that's not the point rn and i don't have energy to write that essay today)

so when Hwa Ran tells him not to try anything in terms of the company bc he won't be able to do anything substantial anyway, he listens, bc that fear has been bred into him. he's learned early not to expect anything akin to affection from her, learned that the only reason he's allowed to come so close is bc she knows his weaknesses (ep 3 publicity interview/panic attack anyone?) and uses them to keep him on a leash so he doesn't get in her way and he's tired. he says as much when he tells her '나 싸우고 싶지 않았어' — 'i didn't want to fight' during their convo in the lounge in ep 8 (have some slightly unrelated commentary on that scene here, although in the more recent eps after meeting Sa Rang he has begun to buck against her incessant emotional abuse). but when Halmeoni tells him to do something, he listens, bc he knows, instinctively, that whatever she's telling him is not going to sabotage his relationship with Sa Rang. she's not out to get him, and she does not loathe his entire existence—she is treating him like the grandson she does not have, and she in turn is the mother that he has been deprived of for so long.

(frankly i think the best way to describe Hwa Ran and Won's dynamic with the influence of their father coming into play is uh. 'but business is business! / and business runs in the family' from Amanda Palmer's Runs In the Family. fair warning the video is a bit all over the place and the lyrics may be triggering but i highly recommend listening to the song if you haven't already)

building off of that, i think Sa Rang is also another outlet of love for him that is making up for what he has lacked. the way she and her circle of friends, much like her halmeoni, treat him when he is around (even after a bit of a false start in the first episodes) is in contrast to his sister as well—it's implied, albeit not explicitly, that he has the tendency to attach himself to people other than her once they show him any kind of care (standing up for Sang Sik taking him with him from the internship after Sang Sik tried to help him adjust in case he got in trouble, for instance). he trusts them even if he doesn't say it, since he does not trust her, and in some ways the kind of fear he has around Hwa Ran has been rechanneled into the need to keep his eyes on Sa Rang, bc he is afraid he might lose her. and he does not want to lose her, bc he has loved someone, for once, almost as much as he has loved his mother. and so once he realizes that that is what it is he tries to tell her as much, every chance that he gets, and we get to see that in the touches and glances and the small things that he does, an opening up to her as best he knows how. i spoke more about that here, but one of the best comparisons to their relationship that i can think of (other than Mitski's Come Into the Water and KK's Aankhon Mein Teri that i have already made a post about) is this line from Lee Hae Ri's gorgeous song Maybe that she sang for the OST of Her Private Life ('어쩌면 그게 사랑 일지도 몰라 / 반복되는 일상 / 그 속에 나를 보듬어 준 네가 / 조용히 떨리는 심장이 말해 / 너를 보고 싶다고 말하래' — 'maybe it [this feeling] is love / you who've cared for me in my repetitive everyday life / my quietly trembling heart tells me to say that i miss you'), bc that is just Won telling Sa Rang in the pool in the gloriousness that is ep 10 that he missed seeing her face in so many words and God. God them!!!!! laying face down on the ground and sobbing they're too much for me

despite all of this i know something has to give in the upcoming episodes, though, and while i am not asking for heavy angst (no devastating messy breakup arc i am on my knees begging at this point) i do hope we get to explore more of that kind of dynamic between Sa Rang and Won and get a cathartic moment for him while we're at it. (if you're not going to send him to therapy to address his childhood trauma [possible panic attack trigger i see you in the ep 11 preview] then let the man cry ffs) looking forward to whatever they do as much as you are, anon <333

[ingo-ingoing-ingone]

Would it be alright to ask you advice on curating my fandom experience? Regarding avoiding b///kshippers and the like, unfortunately. I don't know who else to ask, unless you or your followers know of someone? I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable.

I guess so, yeah! Would be easier if you're off anon, admittedly, or on discord or the like. I'm not sure what specific info I can give tbh?

I can give some general advice though

Block people if you don't like them, and mute/block terms you don't like. Use filters liberally.

This is the internet, things that should not exist unfortunately do, and we cannot change what others do. It's not worth your time and energy or mental health to try and change other's minds on this, i promise.

Personally, I prefer to block and mute individual people instead of filter tags or block terms. I'd rather catch and block the source, so I can keep certain people from interacting with my blogs or fics. Some people would simply rather not see anything at all, so block and filter anything associated with it. It's genuinely up to each person.

But remember this IS and will always be the internet. The unfortunate truth is that you WILL see stuff you don't want to, sometimes in the least likely of places. Sometimes people won't tag. Sometimes it'll ruin your day. But if you wanna engage with fandoms and media online, you have to know this, and you have to be able to decide when the risk is not worth it.

It sucks, it really sucks that this is how it is, but it is :(

But yeah! Know what works for you! Block people! Block tags! That's genuinely the best thing to do, and at the end of the day almost all you CAN do. At least it's a powerful tool.

Good luck anon! If you need more specific advice you can ask, though it's no guarantee i'll have an answer

(Oh, another thing I suggest is, if it's a fandom like submas that has big presences in other languages, if you cannot speak those languages find the tag for the ship or whatever it is you don't like IN THAT LANGUAGE and block it

In english, if I see ship art I don't want to see, I can easily read the tag and block the artist. In japanese, I cannot read the tags, so blocking the tags helps me not see it because as we all know, sometimes it's hard to recognize what's a ship art piece and what isn't!

It's not foolproof, but it definitely helps me avoid artists I cannot read the tags of, and find artists that don't create stuff like that! because I personally love finding cool art from all over the world, despite not being able to read it.)

[quixot1sm]

as someone who also ships isshu but hates confrontation I'm so greateful you're willing to entertain all those stupid arguments so the rest of us can just send links to your posts

oh trust me im a nervous creature by nature and i hate it too! but im also very easily frustrated by people being confidently wrong about my longest and deepest special interest thus i have to be nert's strongest soldier

[vinegar-on-main]

you: hey, anywhere between 85 and 99% of all jews; fuck off, you're not welcome. No service for jews in this establishment. also you: but for clarity, jew-haters are also not welcome.

I really, really wish you could have elaborated on the offending posts, cause I would love to know when I reblogged that.

I’d like to think I’m accepting of everyone, and knowing that where I posted such hateful things is good so I can reevaluate my position on them.

I didn’t mean to hurt or push away anyone.

I’m sorry

[femwizard]

God the fucking timeline is sending me

(& Leme preface this with the important context that I didn’t research this & am drawing baseless theory on an off handed comment on another post)

So there’s the debate abt Jewish people being “indigenous” to Israel because their roots date back further than the Palestinians. This is a bad argument & there are better educated people making this point more eloquently than me.

But looking at this history, and the stories we tell ourselves in our own religious ceremony, a lot of times it talks about how our people were chased off their land by the Roman’s, or during the crusades, or were enslaved by Egypt (who at the time was allied with rome? I know cleopatra & that one emperor were fucking)

& where does the spirit of colonialism & the seat of christian power go after the fall of rome? That’s right, England. & who set up the settler state of Israel? Who else, but England.

I just think it’s funny how European colonial powers chased us off our land, enslaved us & subjected us to genocide, & are now using us as pawns to chase others off the same land they chased us off centuries ago, and instead of our community coming together to denounce this increasingly hypocritical and disgusting mission, so many (older, but not old old) Jews in my life have essentially said “well we suffered so now we are entitled to make others suffer”

[shangsclaws]

I'm going to be honest, Shang tsun, not mt ultimate favorite... BUT THAT DRIPPPPPPPPPPPPPP. He didn't come to play

u r so real for this

[workingforitallthetime]

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