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Don’t Take It Personal

Last week for Wednesday Wisdom, I briefly spoke about how important it is to ask for help and not to be ashamed to do so.  This week, I’m going to speak about another side of that.  

Sometimes we are the person who offers the help or is asked for the help repeatedly.  Two things: 1. Don’t allow people to burn you out and 2. Don’t take it personal when someone doesn’t accept your help.  These two things, I was and sometimes still am extremely guilty of doing.  However, I am more conscious and I understand better that not everyone thinks like me.  Therefore, not everyone will operate the way I do. 

I understand now that some people ask for help that they don’t really want... or that they don’t know how to accept.   And then some people are simply ASKholes.  They ask, ask, ask with no actual intent of taking your help or advice but more so to waste your time.  Some even try to wear you down until you agree with their crazy logic.  But again... that’s for another time.  Lol. 

Use wisdom and a great deal of patience to handle certain individuals and situations that seem to frustrate you.  These can be your coworkers or family members (family usually are the ones that frustrate us the most). Understand that you can’t want to help the person more than they want to help themselves.  You never know where someone is in their lives or what is causing them to behave the way they do.  Control yourself, that’s ultimately the greatest help to any and everyone. And remember... don’t take it personal! 

-Riss💕 

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Just Ask...

In today's society where it is a "dog eat dog" world for the most part, asking for help or even receiving help is something that is either done sparingly or given sparingly.  However, it so necessary to have someone in your corner that can help or assist you in some way or another.  Help doesn't necessarily have to be about money either.  Because believe me, just like most people, when someone says "hey I need a favor..." the first thing that may go through my mind (depending on the person) is "ok how much is this going to cost me? *insert rolling eyes emoji* lol".  Its normal too.  Because a lot of times we do not hear from people unless they need something.  

On another note... sometimes, we wont ask for help because we do not want to feel or seem like a burden to someone else either.  This was, and sometimes still is, one of my biggest issues.  I don't avoid asking for help because of pride.  I usually don't ask for it because of the fear of rejection or because I don't want to inconvenience anyone.  I never want anyone to give or do anything for me because they feel obligated.  I would much rather the help be offered because its more likely that the person is doing it out of the kindness of their heart.  But even that can get tricky lol.  I will save that discussion for another time though!

I have learned the hard way that a closed mouth doesn't get fed.  And yes... we like to feel like we accomplished all that we accomplished on our own and that we don't owe anyone anything but we all need someone and we need to speak up when we do.  I suggest that you find yourself a group of individuals that have the same heart as you so that when you go to them in a time of need, they don't make you feel like a charity case.  Also, place yourself around people that can actually add and teach you something so that you can grow.  That is one of the biggest forms of help that we can get.  As we ask for help, lets help ourselves by placing ourselves in a position where help can be found.  

-Riss💕

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Lesson Learned!

The word "hindrance" according to Webster's dictionary is: a person or thing that interferes with or slows the progress of someone or something.  And I made it my business to never be a hindrance to others, however, I was not quite compensated the way I should have been.  Trying not to be a hindrance to others has hindered me... in a plethora of ways.  Too many to name honestly.   Trying to please everyone will quickly put you in bondage and you will find yourself unfulfilled, unsatisfied, and unhappy. 

I had to learn that not everyone will be satisfied and trying to please everyone is impossible.  I also had to learn that some people just want to be dissatisfied so they can find someone or something to blame so they can continue to complain about everything and everyone.  Its actually quite sad and a miserable life to live.  I was surrounded by these type of people at a point in my life and I too became miserable because I felt like I was always walking on eggshells.  I tried so hard not to offend anyone that I just stopped being me.  I used to be carefree.  I used to laugh a lot... even at things that I probably should not have laughed at haha.  I began to miss that person I once was and had to do a re-evaluation of my life and relationships.  I realized that trying not to make mistakes is a mistake within itself and that mistakes help me to grow and cultivate the gifts, talents, and abilities that were given to me.  Holding back who I am for the sake of not holding back the person(s) around me wasn't fair to me.  Nor is it fair to those that may look to me for inspiration.  

No one is perfect!  My trials and errors may help someone learn what not to do and being afraid to make the errors will leave you stagnant in so many areas.  So word of advice... do not dim your light just so you won't outshine others.  It does not help anyone and you will become bitter because of it.  Shine!

Riss💕

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Life or Death

Someone posted on Facebook "GoFund Me isn't a Life Insurance policy!" and it got me to thinking.  I've already had these thoughts prior to seeing the post but the fact that so many other people have been having the same thoughts inspired me to write about it.  

No one plans on dying but it's an inevitable reality that everyone will.  Some sooner than others and for various reasons nonetheless.  And I also understand that a lot of people do not have life insurance policies because of the cost and/or because of blatant ignorance and selfishness.  Some people can afford life insurance policies but simply do not get them and then when they die, they leave all the expenses to the family of survivors.  Do y'all know how much stress that causes?  It's likely to cause other health issues and deaths.  It's insane.  

Some people do not care enough to create generational wealth and I understand that, but that doesn't mean you have to purposely leave your family in generational debt.  As I stated before, some don't know or can't afford policies, but those of us that do really need to take responsibility.  Educate those around us that do not know how to get a policy or what kind would be necessary.  Give people options.  Don't hold the information in and end up going to the grave with it... pun intended lol!  I know a few ways myself.  Some that do not even require you to break bank to be covered!  Wisdom is useful!  And if you'd like to know, just give me a shout... I'm more than willing to share.  Because quite frankly... it's literally a matter of life or death! 

 Hope you've enjoyed!  Be sure to like, comment, share and subscribe! It is greatly appreciated!  

-Riss 💕 

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Change of Plans!

So I've decided to do something a little different than what I originally set out to do.  I started the Word of the Day section of my blog for readers to have something new daily, to attract new readers and traffic to my blog, and to hold myself accountable.  But I've learned that more content doesn't necessarily keep readers and subscribers engaged and it also puts a lot of pressure on me to pump out new content daily.  My brain literally wasn't working fast enough and I'm sure some of my regular readers probably felt overwhelmed with emails.  So I've decided that I will begin a Wednesday Wisdom campaign rather than Word of the Day.  It will give me time to put together good things to read and share and it will also prevent readers from getting tired or annoyed with me LOL!  This decision alone was a wise one so I felt that it was befitting to share my first go at "Wednesday Wisdom" on an actual Wednesday afternoon!  Stay tuned and be sure to subscribe, like and share!  It is greatly appreciated and I don't take it lightly!  Later worDNerds! 

 -Riss💕

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