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[xdy]

I miss a sense of community

2020. The world was rocked by COVID-19. My life right before then was an unmitigated disaster personally. Relationships were toxic, and bad decisions were made. The company I worked for had to find ways for us to work from home so we couldn't spread the virus. Luckily, I didn't contract it. After a while, our team thrived in the work-from-home setup and occasionally went to the office to shoot campaigns revolving around health safety. At this point, I was already fed up with the negativity of the people around me, myself included.

2022. I have been with the company for 5 years and I was a beacon of light, a source of inspiration and laughter. The life of the party. That's just who I am. As an extrovert, a people pleaser, and a peacekeeper. I was fed up with the petty fights. The adamant fawning. "Plastikan". And my salary isn't going up as I thought it was supposed to. I worked so hard and did so many innovations. Always going the extra mile. Always thinking outside of the box. But the recognition is not enough. The team culture is still toxic. I can't keep up the mask anymore.

So I left.

I was bitter. I needed a change so badly. At this point, I have been convinced that I can work in the comfort of my own home. So there must be jobs out there that have less toxic people, can work from home, and have a higher salary. My self-diagnosed depression had been going on for years. Even after I got the perfect job that fit my preference at the time. I'm still doing it and I'm very grateful for it.

Now I feel alone.

Don't get me wrong. I'm not 100% alone. I have a good support system. She was the true light that guided me out of the darkness. Along with our cats. They are truly my saviors. In 2024, she convinced me to go to the gym and right then I turned a 180 on my life for the better.

I still feel lonely now but I have come a long way. I got rid of bad habits and replaced them with good ones. I repaired some of my relationships and left some of them.

Ever since I left the previous company, I never exercised my extroversion. I miss having a lot of people around and feeding off their energy.

That could be the cost of being selfish. These are the consequences of my actions and decisions. I never have been the one to reach out. I was forced to do it because of work duties but personally, I didn't actively do it. It costs to be out of touch. Aside from my best friends, who are miles away, I have no sense of community to practice on. I feel that I have no purpose.

I hope I find it soon.

[xdy]

I think women want us to be careful with their careless hearts.

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Words Matter: Why Your Tongue Needs God's Control

Have you ever walked away from a conversation replaying your words, wishing you had said less—or said it differently? If I were to answer that question, yes, I have. We've all experienced that slap-in-the-face moment where we feel like we should have said something differently or even used a different tone of voice.

You see, our words carry weight. They can breathe life or inflict deep wounds, strengthen relationships or sow division. As believers, we are called to reflect Christ not only in our actions but also in our speech. Yet, too often, our words are careless, reactive, or driven by emotion rather than the Spirit. We might excuse it by saying, “That’s just how I talk,” or “I didn’t mean anything by it,” but the truth is—our words reveal the condition of our hearts.

Are you experiencing this area in your walk with God right now? Do you feel convicted about the sin of lacking self-control in your speech? Then this post is for you. Let's explore why our tongues need God’s control, what Scripture says about the power of speech, and how we can surrender our words daily to bring glory to Him.

"Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof" - Proverbs 18:21 (KJV)

Why We Struggle to Control Our Tongue

Controlling our tongue is one of the hardest disciplines in the Christian walk—and God's word doesn’t shy away from saying so. Trust me it has been a tough area in my walk with God and it still is. So Why is it so difficult to control our tongues?

1.Anger In Response

Anger is one of the leading reasons we struggle to control our tongue. When emotions run high, we���re more likely to speak impulsively, letting frustration or hurt drive our words instead of wisdom. This impulsivity can lead to regrettable comments or harsh criticisms that can damage relationships and escalate conflicts. In moments of anger, the desire to express one’s feelings often overshadows the need for thoughtful communication.

As a result, we may lash out, saying things we don't truly mean and failing to listen to the perspectives of others, which only exacerbates the situation and makes it harder to find resolution.

"He that is soon angry dealteth foolishly: and a man of wicked devices is hated" - Proverbs 14:17 (KJV)

Anger can often bypasses self-control and leads to regretful speech. Without inviting God into our emotions, anger can quickly turn our tongue into a weapon instead of a tool for peace.

2. We Speak Before We Think

This is a common thing we all tend to do. In our fast-paced, reaction-driven world, it's easy to speak impulsively, often acting on emotion instead of thoughtful consideration. Whether we're venting in frustration, responding to criticism, or trying to make a point during a heated discussion, we frequently let words fly before pausing to pray or reflect. This tendency can result in misunderstandings or hurt feelings, as we may not fully convey our thoughts or intentions.

"Seest thou a man that is hasty in his words? there is more hope of a fool than of him" - Proverbs 29:20 (KJV)

The pressure to respond quickly, combined with the overwhelming flow of information in our daily lives, makes it crucial to develop the practice of taking a moment to breathe and think before we communicate.

3. Cultural Norms Encourage Loose Speech

From gossip-filled entertainment to sarcastic humor, and online rants, our culture normalizes careless, hurtful, and critical speech. We're surrounded by examples of people speaking their minds without accountability. Over time, we can become desensitized and begin justifying our own harsh or unloving words.

Before I got saved, I was always engaging in gossip with this group of "friends" that I used to have in high school. However, in a turn of events, I ended up being the one who was being gossiped about. Gossiping was one of the few sins that made me realize that I was a sinner in need of a Savior.

When we are surrounded by a group of people who not only gossip but also have arrogant speech, it can affect our walk with Christ. Whether it is a certain person, Tv show, or even an influencer, It is important that we abstain from the things that engages and encourages loose or careless speech.

4. Pride and Self-Justification

Sometimes, we speak harshly because we want to prove a point, defend ourselves, or be heard in the cacophony of conflicting voices around us. In moments of frustration or anger, pride convinces us that our opinion matters more than how we deliver it, leading us to prioritize our emotions over respect for others. This harshness often clouds our ability to communicate effectively, reducing the likelihood of understanding and fostering genuine connections.

"Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones" - Proverbs 16:24 (KJV)

We forget that the impact of our words can linger far beyond the moment, affecting relationships and altering perceptions in ways we might not immediately recognize or appreciate. These words can sow seeds of doubt, resentment, or misunderstanding, ultimately creating barriers where there once was connection. This leaves us to wonder if winning an argument is worth the cost of lost empathy and respect. In such moments, we find ourselves in a precarious balancing act, where the need to express our opinions and assert our viewpoints can sometimes overshadow the need for kindness and understanding.

The Heart-Tongue Connection

It’s easy to think of our words as isolated slips of the tongue, but in reality, they are windows into our hearts. Our speech isn’t just a communication tool—it’s a reflection of our inner life. What we consistently say reveals our true beliefs, feelings, and priorities.

"O Generation of vipers, how can ye, being evil, speak good things? for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh" - Matthew 12:34 (KJV)

Controlling our tongues isn’t just about biting back harsh words or avoiding gossip; it’s about allowing God to transform our hearts. If our hearts are filled with anger, pride, bitterness, or fear, those things will eventually spill out in our speech. But when our hearts are surrendered to the Holy Spirit, our words will begin to reflect love, patience, humility, and grace.

A heart that is submitted to God will not produce words that destroy. If we want to speak life, we need to first invite the Lord to purify our hearts. Real change in our words begins with real change within.

"Set a watch, O LORD, before my mouth; keep the door of my lips" - Psalm 141:3 (KJV)

Why We Should Invite God Into Our Speech

As you can see,our words matter because they have the power to build up or tear down, to reflect Christ or to reflect our flesh. Our speech can be a tool for healing or a weapon that wounds. Because of this incredible weight, we can’t afford to speak carelessly or out of our own emotions. We need God’s help.

Inviting God into our speech is not about being perfect—it’s about being surrendered. On our own, we’re prone to speak from pride, impatience, frustration, or fear. But when we yield our words to the Holy Spirit, He empowers us to speak with wisdom, grace, and truth. Our speech becomes more than just communication—it becomes ministry.

"But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment. For by thy words thous shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned" - Matthew 12:36-37 (KJV)

As believers, our words are a witness. What we say and how we say it tells the world something about who Jesus is to us. When we invite God into our speech, we allow Him to use our words to encourage the weary, speak peace into conflict, share the gospel, and reflect His character.

In short, we invite God into our speech because we want our mouths to glorify Him. Our conversations should be filled with love, seasoned with grace, and rooted in truth that Christ truly lives in us.

Practical Steps of Letting God Control Your Tongue

Letting God control your tongue doesn’t happen by accident—it’s a daily choice to walk in step with the Holy Spirit and allow Him to shape both your heart and your speech. Here are some practical steps to help you align your words with God’s will:

1.Start Your Day Off With Prayer

Begin each morning by asking God to guard your mouth and guide your words, allowing you to express kindness and wisdom throughout the day. Taking a moment for a simple, sincere prayer can help center your thoughts and emotions, setting the tone for a more Spirit-led day where you are mindful of your interactions and the impact your words have on others. If you want to learn more about how prayer changes everything, you can learn more by checking out my blog post here.

By inviting divine guidance into your daily communication, you pave the way for more meaningful connections and a tranquil spirit.

"Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer" - Psalm 19:14 (KJV)

2. Pause Before You Speak

Train yourself to pause and ask: “Is this kind? Is it true? Is it necessary?” Taking that brief yet powerful moment of reflection can significantly alter the impact of your words. By considering kindness, truth, and necessity, you cultivate a habit of mindfulness that not only helps prevent hurtful or careless words from slipping out but also fosters deeper, more meaningful connections with those around you.

"He that hath knowledge spareth his words: and a man of understanding is of an excellent spirit" - Proverbs 17:27 (KJV)

This practice encourages you to think about the feelings and perspectives of others before responding, ultimately promoting a more compassionate dialogue when interacting with friends, family, and colleagues. In a world often filled with haste, ensuring that your communication aligns with these three fundamental questions can enhance understanding and emotional safety in your relationships.

3. Fill Your Heart With God's Word

Since your words reflect your heart, regularly filling your heart with Scripture will naturally begin to transform your speech in profound ways. By immersing yourself in the rich truths of the Bible, you cultivate a mindset that values wisdom, kindness, and grace. Memorize verses that speak of these virtues, allowing them to resonate deeply within you.

"Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee" - Psalm 119:11 (KJV)

As you meditate on such Scripture, you'll find that not only do your thoughts begin to shift, but your interactions with others become more positive and uplifting. Let the Word renew your mind and purify your speech, shaping your conversations and guiding your responses in both challenging and joyful situations. This ongoing process will lead to a more authentic expression of love and understanding in all your relationships.

4. Confess And Repent When You Fall Short

No matter how much we love God or desire to speak with grace, we all fall short in our words. We speak too quickly, react out of anger, gossip without thinking, or say things we later regret. However, the beauty of the gospel is that failure isn’t the end—forgiveness and restoration are always available when we come humbly before God.

"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" - 1 John 1:9 (KJV)

Confession is not about shame—it’s about agreeing with God that our words were wrong and inviting Him to cleanse and transform us. It’s an act of surrender and a step toward healing.

When we repent, it means to turn away from destructive speech and to choose to walk in the Spirit. It’s asking God not just for forgiveness, but for transformation—so our future words reflect His character more and more.

When you fall short, don’t hide it or excuse it. Bring it into the light. Pray honestly. Ask for God’s mercy and, if necessary, apologize to those you may have hurt. In doing so, you reflect humility, grow in grace, and give the Holy Spirit room to reshape your heart and tongue.

5. Surround Yourself with Godly Influences

What you listen to, read, and who you spend time with will shape how you speak, influencing not only your vocabulary but also the tone and mannerisms you adopt. Choose friends, mentors, and content that encourage wholesome, Christlike speech, as these influences can nurture a more uplifting and positive way of communicating with others. The more you walk with those who demonstrate self-control, the more self-control you will have over your words.

"He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed" - Proverbs 13:20 (KJV)

By deliberately curating the sources of inspiration in your life, you can develop a speech pattern that reflects your moral convictions and serves as a beacon of light in the conversations you partake in, thereby creating an environment that fosters mutual support and uplifting dialogue among your peers.

6. Practice Speaking Life Daily

Make it a habit to intentionally speak encouragement, blessing, and truth over others. Whether it’s a kind word to a friend or a prayer for a stranger—let your speech reflect God’s love. This also presents a great opportunity to practice speaking with grace, especially when engaging with someone who disagrees with you on a certain topic or someone who doesn't yet exhibit the Fruit of the Spirit of self-control over their tongue. Every day offers a new chance to uplift those around you; small gestures of kindness can make a significant difference in someone’s life.

Consider how a simple compliment or heartfelt message can inspire hope and joy, creating ripples of positivity. Strive to foster an atmosphere of support and compassion, where your words serve as a balm to the weary and as a guide to the lost. By consciously choosing to speak life into every situation, you not only enrich the lives of others but also cultivate a deeper sense of purpose and fulfillment within your own heart.

Conclusion

Our words are not just noise—they are powerful tools that can either bring life or cause harm. As followers of Christ, we are called to a higher standard in the way we speak. Not because we’re perfect, but because we serve a God who transforms hearts, and from that transformation, our speech begins to change.

So my fellow reader, I encourage you to take a moment each day to invite God into your speech. Before you speak, text, or post—pause and ask, “Will these words reflect the heart of Christ?”

Read and reflect on God's Word. Ask the Lord to reveal to you what your speech has been like lately. Allow His Word to shape your heart and transform your tongue. And if you fall short, don’t hide—run to God, confess, and permit Him to continue His work in you

Your words matter. Let them glorify the One who speaks life into you.

Source: Words Matter: Why Your Tongue Needs God's Control

[xdy]

A poem--minus sobriety.

I wonder how sometimes I admire that smile that light up a fire It's a mystery on how it came up All I know that it happens to lift my spirits up.

Don't take it to technically I'm just only trying to link us up. I can probably write a song right now that I had a cup of coffee and I hope it wouldn't spill like the words I'm typing here I hope you stay still.

There was you that I've been thinking about when I'm not around you. Thinking about the words to say the next time that I'll see you. I may collapse now 'cause I really miss you But I'm not breaking down because you're happy too.

I hope I could pull you from where you are dwelling bring you here into my world, I hope that you won't mind it.

[xdy]

It's ironic that the girl who has the sweetest, most beautiful smile in the world has the most tears on her pillow.

[xdy]

Hey! I love to think that you're smiling while reading this.

Because I do anything to make that smile appear again. Even though I'm away, I hope this message convey my never ending display of affection. The attraction--of me, to you. I couldn't help but think--of the time I'll see that smile again. With my eyes, I hope it's soon enough. You wouldn't know that I miss you because I don't tell. I'm cold. Days, weeks, months, I haven't told. I haven't spoken much because I've been busy. You know, the world is spinning and it feels so iffy. There's still you. Stay awesome. You're welcome. There's something more than just the smile that makes your face. What is it? The way it makes my heartbeats and breaths race.

[xdy]

I just want to spend some significant insignificance with you.

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Words Matter: Why Your Tongue Needs God's Control

Have you ever walked away from a conversation replaying your words, wishing you had said less—or said it differently? If I were to answer that question, yes, I have. We've all experienced that slap-in-the-face moment where we feel like we should have said something differently or even used a different tone of voice.

You see, our words carry weight. They can breathe life or inflict deep wounds, strengthen relationships or sow division. As believers, we are called to reflect Christ not only in our actions but also in our speech. Yet, too often, our words are careless, reactive, or driven by emotion rather than the Spirit. We might excuse it by saying, “That’s just how I talk,” or “I didn’t mean anything by it,” but the truth is—our words reveal the condition of our hearts.

Are you experiencing this area in your walk with God right now? Do you feel convicted about the sin of lacking self-control in your speech? Then this post is for you. Let's explore why our tongues need God’s control, what Scripture says about the power of speech, and how we can surrender our words daily to bring glory to Him.

"Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof" - Proverbs 18:21 (KJV)

Why We Struggle to Control Our Tongue

Controlling our tongue is one of the hardest disciplines in the Christian walk—and God's word doesn’t shy away from saying so. Trust me it has been a tough area in my walk with God and it still is. So Why is it so difficult to control our tongues?

1.Anger In Response

Anger is one of the leading reasons we struggle to control our tongue. When emotions run high, we’re more likely to speak impulsively, letting frustration or hurt drive our words instead of wisdom. This impulsivity can lead to regrettable comments or harsh criticisms that can damage relationships and escalate conflicts. In moments of anger, the desire to express one’s feelings often overshadows the need for thoughtful communication.

As a result, we may lash out, saying things we don't truly mean and failing to listen to the perspectives of others, which only exacerbates the situation and makes it harder to find resolution.

"He that is soon angry dealteth foolishly: and a man of wicked devices is hated" - Proverbs 14:17 (KJV)

Anger can often bypasses self-control and leads to regretful speech. Without inviting God into our emotions, anger can quickly turn our tongue into a weapon instead of a tool for peace.

2. We Speak Before We Think

This is a common thing we all tend to do. In our fast-paced, reaction-driven world, it's easy to speak impulsively, often acting on emotion instead of thoughtful consideration. Whether we're venting in frustration, responding to criticism, or trying to make a point during a heated discussion, we frequently let words fly before pausing to pray or reflect. This tendency can result in misunderstandings or hurt feelings, as we may not fully convey our thoughts or intentions.

"Seest thou a man that is hasty in his words? there is more hope of a fool than of him" - Proverbs 29:20 (KJV)

The pressure to respond quickly, combined with the overwhelming flow of information in our daily lives, makes it crucial to develop the practice of taking a moment to breathe and think before we communicate.

3. Cultural Norms Encourage Loose Speech

From gossip-filled entertainment to sarcastic humor, and online rants, our culture normalizes careless, hurtful, and critical speech. We're surrounded by examples of people speaking their minds without accountability. Over time, we can become desensitized and begin justifying our own harsh or unloving words.

Before I got saved, I was always engaging in gossip with this group of "friends" that I used to have in high school. However, in a turn of events, I ended up being the one who was being gossiped about. Gossiping was one of the few sins that made me realize that I was a sinner in need of a Savior.

When we are surrounded by a group of people who not only gossip but also have arrogant speech, it can affect our walk with Christ. Whether it is a certain person, Tv show, or even an influencer, It is important that we abstain from the things that engages and encourages loose or careless speech.

4. Pride and Self-Justification

Sometimes, we speak harshly because we want to prove a point, defend ourselves, or be heard in the cacophony of conflicting voices around us. In moments of frustration or anger, pride convinces us that our opinion matters more than how we deliver it, leading us to prioritize our emotions over respect for others. This harshness often clouds our ability to communicate effectively, reducing the likelihood of understanding and fostering genuine connections.

"Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones" - Proverbs 16:24 (KJV)

We forget that the impact of our words can linger far beyond the moment, affecting relationships and altering perceptions in ways we might not immediately recognize or appreciate. These words can sow seeds of doubt, resentment, or misunderstanding, ultimately creating barriers where there once was connection. This leaves us to wonder if winning an argument is worth the cost of lost empathy and respect. In such moments, we find ourselves in a precarious balancing act, where the need to express our opinions and assert our viewpoints can sometimes overshadow the need for kindness and understanding.

The Heart-Tongue Connection

It’s easy to think of our words as isolated slips of the tongue, but in reality, they are windows into our hearts. Our speech isn’t just a communication tool—it’s a reflection of our inner life. What we consistently say reveals our true beliefs, feelings, and priorities.

"O Generation of vipers, how can ye, being evil, speak good things? for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh" - Matthew 12:34 (KJV)

Controlling our tongues isn’t just about biting back harsh words or avoiding gossip; it’s about allowing God to transform our hearts. If our hearts are filled with anger, pride, bitterness, or fear, those things will eventually spill out in our speech. But when our hearts are surrendered to the Holy Spirit, our words will begin to reflect love, patience, humility, and grace.

A heart that is submitted to God will not produce words that destroy. If we want to speak life, we need to first invite the Lord to purify our hearts. Real change in our words begins with real change within.

"Set a watch, O LORD, before my mouth; keep the door of my lips" - Psalm 141:3 (KJV)

Why We Should Invite God Into Our Speech

As you can see,our words matter because they have the power to build up or tear down, to reflect Christ or to reflect our flesh. Our speech can be a tool for healing or a weapon that wounds. Because of this incredible weight, we can’t afford to speak carelessly or out of our own emotions. We need God’s help.

Inviting God into our speech is not about being perfect—it’s about being surrendered. On our own, we’re prone to speak from pride, impatience, frustration, or fear. But when we yield our words to the Holy Spirit, He empowers us to speak with wisdom, grace, and truth. Our speech becomes more than just communication—it becomes ministry.

"But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment. For by thy words thous shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned" - Matthew 12:36-37 (KJV)

As believers, our words are a witness. What we say and how we say it tells the world something about who Jesus is to us. When we invite God into our speech, we allow Him to use our words to encourage the weary, speak peace into conflict, share the gospel, and reflect His character.

In short, we invite God into our speech because we want our mouths to glorify Him. Our conversations should be filled with love, seasoned with grace, and rooted in truth that Christ truly lives in us.

Practical Steps of Letting God Control Your Tongue

Letting God control your tongue doesn’t happen by accident—it’s a daily choice to walk in step with the Holy Spirit and allow Him to shape both your heart and your speech. Here are some practical steps to help you align your words with God’s will:

1.Start Your Day Off With Prayer

Begin each morning by asking God to guard your mouth and guide your words, allowing you to express kindness and wisdom throughout the day. Taking a moment for a simple, sincere prayer can help center your thoughts and emotions, setting the tone for a more Spirit-led day where you are mindful of your interactions and the impact your words have on others. If you want to learn more about how prayer changes everything, you can learn more by checking out my blog post here.

By inviting divine guidance into your daily communication, you pave the way for more meaningful connections and a tranquil spirit.

"Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer" - Psalm 19:14 (KJV)

2. Pause Before You Speak

Train yourself to pause and ask: “Is this kind? Is it true? Is it necessary?” Taking that brief yet powerful moment of reflection can significantly alter the impact of your words. By considering kindness, truth, and necessity, you cultivate a habit of mindfulness that not only helps prevent hurtful or careless words from slipping out but also fosters deeper, more meaningful connections with those around you.

"He that hath knowledge spareth his words: and a man of understanding is of an excellent spirit" - Proverbs 17:27 (KJV)

This practice encourages you to think about the feelings and perspectives of others before responding, ultimately promoting a more compassionate dialogue when interacting with friends, family, and colleagues. In a world often filled with haste, ensuring that your communication aligns with these three fundamental questions can enhance understanding and emotional safety in your relationships.

3. Fill Your Heart With God's Word

Since your words reflect your heart, regularly filling your heart with Scripture will naturally begin to transform your speech in profound ways. By immersing yourself in the rich truths of the Bible, you cultivate a mindset that values wisdom, kindness, and grace. Memorize verses that speak of these virtues, allowing them to resonate deeply within you.

"Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee" - Psalm 119:11 (KJV)

As you meditate on such Scripture, you'll find that not only do your thoughts begin to shift, but your interactions with others become more positive and uplifting. Let the Word renew your mind and purify your speech, shaping your conversations and guiding your responses in both challenging and joyful situations. This ongoing process will lead to a more authentic expression of love and understanding in all your relationships.

4. Confess And Repent When You Fall Short

No matter how much we love God or desire to speak with grace, we all fall short in our words. We speak too quickly, react out of anger, gossip without thinking, or say things we later regret. However, the beauty of the gospel is that failure isn’t the end—forgiveness and restoration are always available when we come humbly before God.

"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" - 1 John 1:9 (KJV)

Confession is not about shame—it’s about agreeing with God that our words were wrong and inviting Him to cleanse and transform us. It’s an act of surrender and a step toward healing.

When we repent, it means to turn away from destructive speech and to choose to walk in the Spirit. It’s asking God not just for forgiveness, but for transformation—so our future words reflect His character more and more.

When you fall short, don’t hide it or excuse it. Bring it into the light. Pray honestly. Ask for God’s mercy and, if necessary, apologize to those you may have hurt. In doing so, you reflect humility, grow in grace, and give the Holy Spirit room to reshape your heart and tongue.

5. Surround Yourself with Godly Influences

What you listen to, read, and who you spend time with will shape how you speak, influencing not only your vocabulary but also the tone and mannerisms you adopt. Choose friends, mentors, and content that encourage wholesome, Christlike speech, as these influences can nurture a more uplifting and positive way of communicating with others. The more you walk with those who demonstrate self-control, the more self-control you will have over your words.

"He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed" - Proverbs 13:20 (KJV)

By deliberately curating the sources of inspiration in your life, you can develop a speech pattern that reflects your moral convictions and serves as a beacon of light in the conversations you partake in, thereby creating an environment that fosters mutual support and uplifting dialogue among your peers.

6. Practice Speaking Life Daily

Make it a habit to intentionally speak encouragement, blessing, and truth over others. Whether it’s a kind word to a friend or a prayer for a stranger—let your speech reflect God’s love. This also presents a great opportunity to practice speaking with grace, especially when engaging with someone who disagrees with you on a certain topic or someone who doesn't yet exhibit the Fruit of the Spirit of self-control over their tongue. Every day offers a new chance to uplift those around you; small gestures of kindness can make a significant difference in someone’s life.

Consider how a simple compliment or heartfelt message can inspire hope and joy, creating ripples of positivity. Strive to foster an atmosphere of support and compassion, where your words serve as a balm to the weary and as a guide to the lost. By consciously choosing to speak life into every situation, you not only enrich the lives of others but also cultivate a deeper sense of purpose and fulfillment within your own heart.

Conclusion

Our words are not just noise—they are powerful tools that can either bring life or cause harm. As followers of Christ, we are called to a higher standard in the way we speak. Not because we’re perfect, but because we serve a God who transforms hearts, and from that transformation, our speech begins to change.

So my fellow reader, I encourage you to take a moment each day to invite God into your speech. Before you speak, text, or post—pause and ask, “Will these words reflect the heart of Christ?”

Read and reflect on God's Word. Ask the Lord to reveal to you what your speech has been like lately. Allow His Word to shape your heart and transform your tongue. And if you fall short, don’t hide—run to God, confess, and permit Him to continue His work in you

Your words matter. Let them glorify the One who speaks life into you.

Source: Words Matter: Why Your Tongue Needs God's Control

[xdy]

I love paying attention to you.

Even when you're absolutely doing nothing.

'Crazy' isn't the right word, but it's the first word that comes to mind. 

[xdy]

I've just been to the worst wedding a photographer could cover.

2AM Reporting time. Bale, para akong nagtrabaho ng graveyard, morning shift at mid-shift. Biyahe lang at tanghalian ang pahinga.

Taal, Batangas ang location. Out-of-town. Ayaw na ayaw kong sa probinsya nagcocoverage.

Walang coordinator. 

Late sa church ang groom dahil sa parents.

Kulang sa "family" pictures.

Kulang sa "abay" pictures. 

Umulan. 

Yung simbahan nirerenovate, may mga hayup na kawayan sa gitna ng altar at maingay yung mga karpintero. 

Lumakas ang ulan.

Mainit sa loob ng simbahan.

Madilim sa loob ng simbahan.

Naghahabol ng pictorial kasi may kasunod na ikakasal. 

Nasisira yung camera ng isa kong kasama. 

Ang tamad ng mga lightman. 

May singaw ako kaya mahirap magsalita mas lalo na't sumigaw.

Dahil sa ulan at dahil may kasunod na ikakasal, wala nang saboy ng flower petals at bigas.

Walang experience ang mga emcee sa reception.

Unprofessional ang mga waiter. May nakita akong isa, kitang-kita yung jersey niya na pangloob. May isa pa na nakatapon ng juice sa bata. Nag-sorry lang sabay alis, umiiyak pa yung bata. Hindi na binalikan. 

'Yung mga singer wala sa tono.

'Yung DJ walang kwenta. Seriously.

Hindi planado ng maayos ang kasal.

Hindi pa ubos ang mga guests, nagpapack-up na yung mga waiter. 

Naglalaro't nagkukulitan pa.

'Yung couple, sa photobooth na tumambay ng mga 15 minutes. Bwisit! Sana hindi na lang sila nag-hire ng tulad ko.

Nawala na ang ulan. Sobrang init naman.

Nawala na rin yung payong ko.

Umulan ulit ng malakas bago nakauwi.

Badtrip.

[xdy]

Hey. Damn you.

The way you walk. The way you talk. The way your hair fall over your shoulders. The way you yell over my name and wave swiftly to keep me wanting you more than any other. The way your presence unintentionally makes me weaker any time of day. The way every thought of you make me day-dream while walking then bump on someone and say sorry. The way your smile so contagious.

Damn you. The whole you; For being so rude getting away with everything I want.

Everything I want, you.

[xdy]

Lucid Dreaming experience.

It happened to me even before I read about it on 9gag. The first time wasn't the most pleasant one because it surprised me and I thought I was dying. I thought I was having a "bangungot" but eventually my body reverted back to normal state.

I've done it voluntarily since. Yes, voluntarily. I practice it but only very few times because I still don't know what will happen to me if I failed 'getting back' to my body. It really works if you're very tired. The first time I tried to go "out-of-body" is when I simply laid down and stared at the ceiling for several minutes not closing my eyes. Then voices started to scream and whisper at the same time and same loudness. Suddenly I can't feel my body anymore. For a moment, I can move my eyes but I really can't move any part of my body. Then I'd let myself go. Close my eyes and off to dreamland. It's the space between daydreaming and dreaming. Dreaming half-asleep. It's really floating away from your body. I could move my fingers but my body will not listen because I'm away from it. I couldn't feel anything physically. Everything is blurred. Soul eyes. The only sound I hear is ringing. I want to scream at first but in a few tries, I would want to just whisper. And I'm floating. Out of control. Out of body. I'm still afraid I can't go back when I did it but I still practice it.

It might sound good but I think it's risky because you're going out of control of your body. So if you purposely freeze your involuntary body functions, you're having an appointment with Death. Fuck you, I'm not going to teach you how to go out of body.

I advise you not to do it though. Don't believe in that 9gag shit. So if you don't want to die of "bangungot", drink some alcoholic beverage before you sleep then sleep with your body face-down. Out-of-body experience didn't work for me when I'm face-down.

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Words Matter: Why Your Tongue Needs God's Control

Have you ever walked away from a conversation replaying your words, wishing you had said less—or said it differently? If I were to answer that question, yes, I have. We've all experienced that slap-in-the-face moment where we feel like we should have said something differently or even used a different tone of voice.

You see, our words carry weight. They can breathe life or inflict deep wounds, strengthen relationships or sow division. As believers, we are called to reflect Christ not only in our actions but also in our speech. Yet, too often, our words are careless, reactive, or driven by emotion rather than the Spirit. We might excuse it by saying, “That’s just how I talk,” or “I didn’t mean anything by it,” but the truth is—our words reveal the condition of our hearts.

Are you experiencing this area in your walk with God right now? Do you feel convicted about the sin of lacking self-control in your speech? Then this post is for you. Let's explore why our tongues need God’s control, what Scripture says about the power of speech, and how we can surrender our words daily to bring glory to Him.

"Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof" - Proverbs 18:21 (KJV)

Why We Struggle to Control Our Tongue

Controlling our tongue is one of the hardest disciplines in the Christian walk—and God's word doesn’t shy away from saying so. Trust me it has been a tough area in my walk with God and it still is. So Why is it so difficult to control our tongues?

1.Anger In Response

Anger is one of the leading reasons we struggle to control our tongue. When emotions run high, we’re more likely to speak impulsively, letting frustration or hurt drive our words instead of wisdom. This impulsivity can lead to regrettable comments or harsh criticisms that can damage relationships and escalate conflicts. In moments of anger, the desire to express one’s feelings often overshadows the need for thoughtful communication.

As a result, we may lash out, saying things we don't truly mean and failing to listen to the perspectives of others, which only exacerbates the situation and makes it harder to find resolution.

"He that is soon angry dealteth foolishly: and a man of wicked devices is hated" - Proverbs 14:17 (KJV)

Anger can often bypasses self-control and leads to regretful speech. Without inviting God into our emotions, anger can quickly turn our tongue into a weapon instead of a tool for peace.

2. We Speak Before We Think

This is a common thing we all tend to do. In our fast-paced, reaction-driven world, it's easy to speak impulsively, often acting on emotion instead of thoughtful consideration. Whether we're venting in frustration, responding to criticism, or trying to make a point during a heated discussion, we frequently let words fly before pausing to pray or reflect. This tendency can result in misunderstandings or hurt feelings, as we may not fully convey our thoughts or intentions.

"Seest thou a man that is hasty in his words? there is more hope of a fool than of him" - Proverbs 29:20 (KJV)

The pressure to respond quickly, combined with the overwhelming flow of information in our daily lives, makes it crucial to develop the practice of taking a moment to breathe and think before we communicate.

3. Cultural Norms Encourage Loose Speech

From gossip-filled entertainment to sarcastic humor, and online rants, our culture normalizes careless, hurtful, and critical speech. We're surrounded by examples of people speaking their minds without accountability. Over time, we can become desensitized and begin justifying our own harsh or unloving words.

Before I got saved, I was always engaging in gossip with this group of "friends" that I used to have in high school. However, in a turn of events, I ended up being the one who was being gossiped about. Gossiping was one of the few sins that made me realize that I was a sinner in need of a Savior.

When we are surrounded by a group of people who not only gossip but also have arrogant speech, it can affect our walk with Christ. Whether it is a certain person, Tv show, or even an influencer, It is important that we abstain from the things that engages and encourages loose or careless speech.

4. Pride and Self-Justification

Sometimes, we speak harshly because we want to prove a point, defend ourselves, or be heard in the cacophony of conflicting voices around us. In moments of frustration or anger, pride convinces us that our opinion matters more than how we deliver it, leading us to prioritize our emotions over respect for others. This harshness often clouds our ability to communicate effectively, reducing the likelihood of understanding and fostering genuine connections.

"Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones" - Proverbs 16:24 (KJV)

We forget that the impact of our words can linger far beyond the moment, affecting relationships and altering perceptions in ways we might not immediately recognize or appreciate. These words can sow seeds of doubt, resentment, or misunderstanding, ultimately creating barriers where there once was connection. This leaves us to wonder if winning an argument is worth the cost of lost empathy and respect. In such moments, we find ourselves in a precarious balancing act, where the need to express our opinions and assert our viewpoints can sometimes overshadow the need for kindness and understanding.

The Heart-Tongue Connection

It’s easy to think of our words as isolated slips of the tongue, but in reality, they are windows into our hearts. Our speech isn’t just a communication tool—it’s a reflection of our inner life. What we consistently say reveals our true beliefs, feelings, and priorities.

"O Generation of vipers, how can ye, being evil, speak good things? for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh" - Matthew 12:34 (KJV)

Controlling our tongues isn’t just about biting back harsh words or avoiding gossip; it’s about allowing God to transform our hearts. If our hearts are filled with anger, pride, bitterness, or fear, those things will eventually spill out in our speech. But when our hearts are surrendered to the Holy Spirit, our words will begin to reflect love, patience, humility, and grace.

A heart that is submitted to God will not produce words that destroy. If we want to speak life, we need to first invite the Lord to purify our hearts. Real change in our words begins with real change within.

"Set a watch, O LORD, before my mouth; keep the door of my lips" - Psalm 141:3 (KJV)

Why We Should Invite God Into Our Speech

As you can see,our words matter because they have the power to build up or tear down, to reflect Christ or to reflect our flesh. Our speech can be a tool for healing or a weapon that wounds. Because of this incredible weight, we can’t afford to speak carelessly or out of our own emotions. We need God’s help.

Inviting God into our speech is not about being perfect—it’s about being surrendered. On our own, we’re prone to speak from pride, impatience, frustration, or fear. But when we yield our words to the Holy Spirit, He empowers us to speak with wisdom, grace, and truth. Our speech becomes more than just communication—it becomes ministry.

"But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment. For by thy words thous shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned" - Matthew 12:36-37 (KJV)

As believers, our words are a witness. What we say and how we say it tells the world something about who Jesus is to us. When we invite God into our speech, we allow Him to use our words to encourage the weary, speak peace into conflict, share the gospel, and reflect His character.

In short, we invite God into our speech because we want our mouths to glorify Him. Our conversations should be filled with love, seasoned with grace, and rooted in truth that Christ truly lives in us.

Practical Steps of Letting God Control Your Tongue

Letting God control your tongue doesn’t happen by accident—it’s a daily choice to walk in step with the Holy Spirit and allow Him to shape both your heart and your speech. Here are some practical steps to help you align your words with God’s will:

1.Start Your Day Off With Prayer

Begin each morning by asking God to guard your mouth and guide your words, allowing you to express kindness and wisdom throughout the day. Taking a moment for a simple, sincere prayer can help center your thoughts and emotions, setting the tone for a more Spirit-led day where you are mindful of your interactions and the impact your words have on others. If you want to learn more about how prayer changes everything, you can learn more by checking out my blog post here.

By inviting divine guidance into your daily communication, you pave the way for more meaningful connections and a tranquil spirit.

"Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer" - Psalm 19:14 (KJV)

2. Pause Before You Speak

Train yourself to pause and ask: “Is this kind? Is it true? Is it necessary?” Taking that brief yet powerful moment of reflection can significantly alter the impact of your words. By considering kindness, truth, and necessity, you cultivate a habit of mindfulness that not only helps prevent hurtful or careless words from slipping out but also fosters deeper, more meaningful connections with those around you.

"He that hath knowledge spareth his words: and a man of understanding is of an excellent spirit" - Proverbs 17:27 (KJV)

This practice encourages you to think about the feelings and perspectives of others before responding, ultimately promoting a more compassionate dialogue when interacting with friends, family, and colleagues. In a world often filled with haste, ensuring that your communication aligns with these three fundamental questions can enhance understanding and emotional safety in your relationships.

3. Fill Your Heart With God's Word

Since your words reflect your heart, regularly filling your heart with Scripture will naturally begin to transform your speech in profound ways. By immersing yourself in the rich truths of the Bible, you cultivate a mindset that values wisdom, kindness, and grace. Memorize verses that speak of these virtues, allowing them to resonate deeply within you.

"Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee" - Psalm 119:11 (KJV)

As you meditate on such Scripture, you'll find that not only do your thoughts begin to shift, but your interactions with others become more positive and uplifting. Let the Word renew your mind and purify your speech, shaping your conversations and guiding your responses in both challenging and joyful situations. This ongoing process will lead to a more authentic expression of love and understanding in all your relationships.

4. Confess And Repent When You Fall Short

No matter how much we love God or desire to speak with grace, we all fall short in our words. We speak too quickly, react out of anger, gossip without thinking, or say things we later regret. However, the beauty of the gospel is that failure isn’t the end—forgiveness and restoration are always available when we come humbly before God.

"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" - 1 John 1:9 (KJV)

Confession is not about shame—it’s about agreeing with God that our words were wrong and inviting Him to cleanse and transform us. It’s an act of surrender and a step toward healing.

When we repent, it means to turn away from destructive speech and to choose to walk in the Spirit. It’s asking God not just for forgiveness, but for transformation—so our future words reflect His character more and more.

When you fall short, don’t hide it or excuse it. Bring it into the light. Pray honestly. Ask for God’s mercy and, if necessary, apologize to those you may have hurt. In doing so, you reflect humility, grow in grace, and give the Holy Spirit room to reshape your heart and tongue.

5. Surround Yourself with Godly Influences

What you listen to, read, and who you spend time with will shape how you speak, influencing not only your vocabulary but also the tone and mannerisms you adopt. Choose friends, mentors, and content that encourage wholesome, Christlike speech, as these influences can nurture a more uplifting and positive way of communicating with others. The more you walk with those who demonstrate self-control, the more self-control you will have over your words.

"He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed" - Proverbs 13:20 (KJV)

By deliberately curating the sources of inspiration in your life, you can develop a speech pattern that reflects your moral convictions and serves as a beacon of light in the conversations you partake in, thereby creating an environment that fosters mutual support and uplifting dialogue among your peers.

6. Practice Speaking Life Daily

Make it a habit to intentionally speak encouragement, blessing, and truth over others. Whether it’s a kind word to a friend or a prayer for a stranger—let your speech reflect God’s love. This also presents a great opportunity to practice speaking with grace, especially when engaging with someone who disagrees with you on a certain topic or someone who doesn't yet exhibit the Fruit of the Spirit of self-control over their tongue. Every day offers a new chance to uplift those around you; small gestures of kindness can make a significant difference in someone’s life.

Consider how a simple compliment or heartfelt message can inspire hope and joy, creating ripples of positivity. Strive to foster an atmosphere of support and compassion, where your words serve as a balm to the weary and as a guide to the lost. By consciously choosing to speak life into every situation, you not only enrich the lives of others but also cultivate a deeper sense of purpose and fulfillment within your own heart.

Conclusion

Our words are not just noise—they are powerful tools that can either bring life or cause harm. As followers of Christ, we are called to a higher standard in the way we speak. Not because we’re perfect, but because we serve a God who transforms hearts, and from that transformation, our speech begins to change.

So my fellow reader, I encourage you to take a moment each day to invite God into your speech. Before you speak, text, or post—pause and ask, “Will these words reflect the heart of Christ?”

Read and reflect on God's Word. Ask the Lord to reveal to you what your speech has been like lately. Allow His Word to shape your heart and transform your tongue. And if you fall short, don’t hide—run to God, confess, and permit Him to continue His work in you

Your words matter. Let them glorify the One who speaks life into you.

Source: Words Matter: Why Your Tongue Needs God's Control

[xdy]

I try to be complex but sweet as a cake I try to make you feel but I complicate I try to be the one but I'm backing down I try to be the hero but I'm the first to drown

Sometimes I want to say I'm in love with you. But I couldn't because I'm weak. This is me being pitiful. Boohoo. I should have just kissed you on the cheek.

I miss you.

I would have promised you this: That you're the only one I'd protect

You were right there. In front of me. Damn perfect.

[xdy]

Ala una.

Medyo lasing ako.

Naiisip ko na naman yung pagiging single ko. Single din siya.

Wala naman akong magawa kasi may phobia siya sa mga manliligaw. Stuck ako sa pagiging friends. 'Ika nga, pwede na akong bansagan na "Friendzone king". Pero medyo nakakasawa na yung mga ginagawa ko ng tatlong taon na pagiging single. Walang kausap na papakinggan ka pero 'yung papakinggan ka na gusto kang hagkan para malaman mong ika'y hindi nagiisa. Sumusuporta sa iyo. Binibigyan ka ng lakas ng loob. Binibigyan ka ng rason para tumuloy sa buhay. Kahit saglit lang na pag-alala. Pero 'yung isang 'yon na kusang lumalapit. Naghahanap ng mga katangian mo na hindi mo sinasabi sa iba. 'Yung isa na 'yon na hahanapin ka kasi kailangan ka niya ng kausap. 'Yung isa na 'yon na marinig lang ang tinig ng boses mo ay buo na ang araw ninyong dalawa. Gusto ko lang balikan yung naramdaman ko dati nuong meron pa. 'Yung may nag-aalala.

'Yung isa na 'yon. Sana nandiyan lang siya, matiyagang naghihintay. 

[xdy]

Amorous when drunk.

The mohterfukcer who finds somebody to flirt with when alcohol intoxicates his brain.

But then fuck I'm bipolar. At the end of the day I would not even believe that I was looking for something that I wouldn't want. Or do I?

I wish it was that easy but these stories and confessions are making it rot. I'm not fucking a random girl just for looks and rep. I'm in it for the benefit of having someone to run to. Not an imaginary character that you made up and talk to whenever you're feeling lonely. Fuck my guy friends. They're not the ones who cuddle or get cheesy with when you feel alone. They're just with you whenever you want to have a good time but never on your alone time--reflecting time. They can make my brain laugh but may not make my heart smile. Your soul recollection. There's a certain guy limitation that we use an alcoholic gathering to clear it all out. Fuck it. You would forget it eventually. It will only sink skin-deep that you could ignore it very easily. That's why people stick to relationships. Dependence on what you have. Another soul that links to yours. I never wanted to reflect only for myself but in another person, particularly of the opposite sex, which has the ability to understand me the way I am, the way I'm being and the things that I currently do. 

[xdy]

Jeepney Ride Crush.

I was alone trying to hop on a jeepney to go to wherever I signal, jeeps stop; one with less people in it, I didn't falter

Just as I entered the prized vehicle there was this girl. Her illuminated face with the glare all around her She didn't even bother to look at me as I enter I found a seat with the isle between us on the center 

There was this time that I fell some kind of awkwardness I couldn't describe it. Not that I can't confess From the start of the engine, my eyes was on her I hope she notices, I hope not. The interest I express, may worth a shot.

She's so beautiful and that winded black hair Even if she won't care, she looks just as fair The way that hair flies with the wind During the whole ride, my eyes were pinned

Look at me, checking her out Maybe she's the one but I had a doubt It's just a ride, take few minutes or so I hope soon she won't go

Catching glances, she's trying to look I look away then pretend my head shook Bashful me, I'm stunned by her beauty Why is this happening; I don't know, really

One time she caught me off my glimpse That's how I realize I'm the king of wimps I tried to smile and then I saw her blush I hope I could see her again, my Jeepney ride crush 

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Words Matter: Why Your Tongue Needs God's Control

Have you ever walked away from a conversation replaying your words, wishing you had said less—or said it differently? If I were to answer that question, yes, I have. We've all experienced that slap-in-the-face moment where we feel like we should have said something differently or even used a different tone of voice.

You see, our words carry weight. They can breathe life or inflict deep wounds, strengthen relationships or sow division. As believers, we are called to reflect Christ not only in our actions but also in our speech. Yet, too often, our words are careless, reactive, or driven by emotion rather than the Spirit. We might excuse it by saying, “That’s just how I talk,” or “I didn’t mean anything by it,” but the truth is—our words reveal the condition of our hearts.

Are you experiencing this area in your walk with God right now? Do you feel convicted about the sin of lacking self-control in your speech? Then this post is for you. Let's explore why our tongues need God’s control, what Scripture says about the power of speech, and how we can surrender our words daily to bring glory to Him.

"Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof" - Proverbs 18:21 (KJV)

Why We Struggle to Control Our Tongue

Controlling our tongue is one of the hardest disciplines in the Christian walk—and God's word doesn’t shy away from saying so. Trust me it has been a tough area in my walk with God and it still is. So Why is it so difficult to control our tongues?

1.Anger In Response

Anger is one of the leading reasons we struggle to control our tongue. When emotions run high, we’re more likely to speak impulsively, letting frustration or hurt drive our words instead of wisdom. This impulsivity can lead to regrettable comments or harsh criticisms that can damage relationships and escalate conflicts. In moments of anger, the desire to express one’s feelings often overshadows the need for thoughtful communication.

As a result, we may lash out, saying things we don't truly mean and failing to listen to the perspectives of others, which only exacerbates the situation and makes it harder to find resolution.

"He that is soon angry dealteth foolishly: and a man of wicked devices is hated" - Proverbs 14:17 (KJV)

Anger can often bypasses self-control and leads to regretful speech. Without inviting God into our emotions, anger can quickly turn our tongue into a weapon instead of a tool for peace.

2. We Speak Before We Think

This is a common thing we all tend to do. In our fast-paced, reaction-driven world, it's easy to speak impulsively, often acting on emotion instead of thoughtful consideration. Whether we're venting in frustration, responding to criticism, or trying to make a point during a heated discussion, we frequently let words fly before pausing to pray or reflect. This tendency can result in misunderstandings or hurt feelings, as we may not fully convey our thoughts or intentions.

"Seest thou a man that is hasty in his words? there is more hope of a fool than of him" - Proverbs 29:20 (KJV)

The pressure to respond quickly, combined with the overwhelming flow of information in our daily lives, makes it crucial to develop the practice of taking a moment to breathe and think before we communicate.

3. Cultural Norms Encourage Loose Speech

From gossip-filled entertainment to sarcastic humor, and online rants, our culture normalizes careless, hurtful, and critical speech. We're surrounded by examples of people speaking their minds without accountability. Over time, we can become desensitized and begin justifying our own harsh or unloving words.

Before I got saved, I was always engaging in gossip with this group of "friends" that I used to have in high school. However, in a turn of events, I ended up being the one who was being gossiped about. Gossiping was one of the few sins that made me realize that I was a sinner in need of a Savior.

When we are surrounded by a group of people who not only gossip but also have arrogant speech, it can affect our walk with Christ. Whether it is a certain person, Tv show, or even an influencer, It is important that we abstain from the things that engages and encourages loose or careless speech.

4. Pride and Self-Justification

Sometimes, we speak harshly because we want to prove a point, defend ourselves, or be heard in the cacophony of conflicting voices around us. In moments of frustration or anger, pride convinces us that our opinion matters more than how we deliver it, leading us to prioritize our emotions over respect for others. This harshness often clouds our ability to communicate effectively, reducing the likelihood of understanding and fostering genuine connections.

"Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones" - Proverbs 16:24 (KJV)

We forget that the impact of our words can linger far beyond the moment, affecting relationships and altering perceptions in ways we might not immediately recognize or appreciate. These words can sow seeds of doubt, resentment, or misunderstanding, ultimately creating barriers where there once was connection. This leaves us to wonder if winning an argument is worth the cost of lost empathy and respect. In such moments, we find ourselves in a precarious balancing act, where the need to express our opinions and assert our viewpoints can sometimes overshadow the need for kindness and understanding.

The Heart-Tongue Connection

It’s easy to think of our words as isolated slips of the tongue, but in reality, they are windows into our hearts. Our speech isn’t just a communication tool—it’s a reflection of our inner life. What we consistently say reveals our true beliefs, feelings, and priorities.

"O Generation of vipers, how can ye, being evil, speak good things? for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh" - Matthew 12:34 (KJV)

Controlling our tongues isn’t just about biting back harsh words or avoiding gossip; it’s about allowing God to transform our hearts. If our hearts are filled with anger, pride, bitterness, or fear, those things will eventually spill out in our speech. But when our hearts are surrendered to the Holy Spirit, our words will begin to reflect love, patience, humility, and grace.

A heart that is submitted to God will not produce words that destroy. If we want to speak life, we need to first invite the Lord to purify our hearts. Real change in our words begins with real change within.

"Set a watch, O LORD, before my mouth; keep the door of my lips" - Psalm 141:3 (KJV)

Why We Should Invite God Into Our Speech

As you can see,our words matter because they have the power to build up or tear down, to reflect Christ or to reflect our flesh. Our speech can be a tool for healing or a weapon that wounds. Because of this incredible weight, we can’t afford to speak carelessly or out of our own emotions. We need God’s help.

Inviting God into our speech is not about being perfect—it’s about being surrendered. On our own, we’re prone to speak from pride, impatience, frustration, or fear. But when we yield our words to the Holy Spirit, He empowers us to speak with wisdom, grace, and truth. Our speech becomes more than just communication—it becomes ministry.

"But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment. For by thy words thous shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned" - Matthew 12:36-37 (KJV)

As believers, our words are a witness. What we say and how we say it tells the world something about who Jesus is to us. When we invite God into our speech, we allow Him to use our words to encourage the weary, speak peace into conflict, share the gospel, and reflect His character.

In short, we invite God into our speech because we want our mouths to glorify Him. Our conversations should be filled with love, seasoned with grace, and rooted in truth that Christ truly lives in us.

Practical Steps of Letting God Control Your Tongue

Letting God control your tongue doesn’t happen by accident—it’s a daily choice to walk in step with the Holy Spirit and allow Him to shape both your heart and your speech. Here are some practical steps to help you align your words with God’s will:

1.Start Your Day Off With Prayer

Begin each morning by asking God to guard your mouth and guide your words, allowing you to express kindness and wisdom throughout the day. Taking a moment for a simple, sincere prayer can help center your thoughts and emotions, setting the tone for a more Spirit-led day where you are mindful of your interactions and the impact your words have on others. If you want to learn more about how prayer changes everything, you can learn more by checking out my blog post here.

By inviting divine guidance into your daily communication, you pave the way for more meaningful connections and a tranquil spirit.

"Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer" - Psalm 19:14 (KJV)

2. Pause Before You Speak

Train yourself to pause and ask: “Is this kind? Is it true? Is it necessary?” Taking that brief yet powerful moment of reflection can significantly alter the impact of your words. By considering kindness, truth, and necessity, you cultivate a habit of mindfulness that not only helps prevent hurtful or careless words from slipping out but also fosters deeper, more meaningful connections with those around you.

"He that hath knowledge spareth his words: and a man of understanding is of an excellent spirit" - Proverbs 17:27 (KJV)

This practice encourages you to think about the feelings and perspectives of others before responding, ultimately promoting a more compassionate dialogue when interacting with friends, family, and colleagues. In a world often filled with haste, ensuring that your communication aligns with these three fundamental questions can enhance understanding and emotional safety in your relationships.

3. Fill Your Heart With God's Word

Since your words reflect your heart, regularly filling your heart with Scripture will naturally begin to transform your speech in profound ways. By immersing yourself in the rich truths of the Bible, you cultivate a mindset that values wisdom, kindness, and grace. Memorize verses that speak of these virtues, allowing them to resonate deeply within you.

"Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee" - Psalm 119:11 (KJV)

As you meditate on such Scripture, you'll find that not only do your thoughts begin to shift, but your interactions with others become more positive and uplifting. Let the Word renew your mind and purify your speech, shaping your conversations and guiding your responses in both challenging and joyful situations. This ongoing process will lead to a more authentic expression of love and understanding in all your relationships.

4. Confess And Repent When You Fall Short

No matter how much we love God or desire to speak with grace, we all fall short in our words. We speak too quickly, react out of anger, gossip without thinking, or say things we later regret. However, the beauty of the gospel is that failure isn’t the end—forgiveness and restoration are always available when we come humbly before God.

"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" - 1 John 1:9 (KJV)

Confession is not about shame—it’s about agreeing with God that our words were wrong and inviting Him to cleanse and transform us. It’s an act of surrender and a step toward healing.

When we repent, it means to turn away from destructive speech and to choose to walk in the Spirit. It’s asking God not just for forgiveness, but for transformation—so our future words reflect His character more and more.

When you fall short, don’t hide it or excuse it. Bring it into the light. Pray honestly. Ask for God’s mercy and, if necessary, apologize to those you may have hurt. In doing so, you reflect humility, grow in grace, and give the Holy Spirit room to reshape your heart and tongue.

5. Surround Yourself with Godly Influences

What you listen to, read, and who you spend time with will shape how you speak, influencing not only your vocabulary but also the tone and mannerisms you adopt. Choose friends, mentors, and content that encourage wholesome, Christlike speech, as these influences can nurture a more uplifting and positive way of communicating with others. The more you walk with those who demonstrate self-control, the more self-control you will have over your words.

"He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed" - Proverbs 13:20 (KJV)

By deliberately curating the sources of inspiration in your life, you can develop a speech pattern that reflects your moral convictions and serves as a beacon of light in the conversations you partake in, thereby creating an environment that fosters mutual support and uplifting dialogue among your peers.

6. Practice Speaking Life Daily

Make it a habit to intentionally speak encouragement, blessing, and truth over others. Whether it’s a kind word to a friend or a prayer for a stranger—let your speech reflect God’s love. This also presents a great opportunity to practice speaking with grace, especially when engaging with someone who disagrees with you on a certain topic or someone who doesn't yet exhibit the Fruit of the Spirit of self-control over their tongue. Every day offers a new chance to uplift those around you; small gestures of kindness can make a significant difference in someone’s life.

Consider how a simple compliment or heartfelt message can inspire hope and joy, creating ripples of positivity. Strive to foster an atmosphere of support and compassion, where your words serve as a balm to the weary and as a guide to the lost. By consciously choosing to speak life into every situation, you not only enrich the lives of others but also cultivate a deeper sense of purpose and fulfillment within your own heart.

Conclusion

Our words are not just noise—they are powerful tools that can either bring life or cause harm. As followers of Christ, we are called to a higher standard in the way we speak. Not because we’re perfect, but because we serve a God who transforms hearts, and from that transformation, our speech begins to change.

So my fellow reader, I encourage you to take a moment each day to invite God into your speech. Before you speak, text, or post—pause and ask, “Will these words reflect the heart of Christ?”

Read and reflect on God's Word. Ask the Lord to reveal to you what your speech has been like lately. Allow His Word to shape your heart and transform your tongue. And if you fall short, don’t hide—run to God, confess, and permit Him to continue His work in you

Your words matter. Let them glorify the One who speaks life into you.

Source: Words Matter: Why Your Tongue Needs God's Control

[xdy]

Tom

Late night. Dim bedroom, lit vaguely by a smartphone. Jesse is alone in her apartment playing an app called My Talking Tom.

  "What's your name?" Jesse asked, smiling. The cat on the screen put a paw over its ear as if was listening and it replied "What's your name?" in a higher noted version of Jesse's voice.

  "Tom" she said.

"Tom" it said.

  She giggled and put the phone down while she looked for something to drink.

  She drank from a glass of water. A slight, and rather ominous gush of wind passed through that brought her a chill. That same wind blew her calendar in front of her and she saw she had an appointment early in the morning.

  She picked up her phone to set the alarm up but as she unlocked the phone Tom was the first to appear on the screen.

  "Goodnight Tom" she said.

"Goodnight Jesse" it said in a low, demon-like voice.

  Fright struck Jesse as she instantly locked her phone to dim the screen. As soon as the screen dimmed out, the reflection off of it reveals a hideous, cat-like face, with yellow eyes and big, sharp teeth over her shoulder with it's paw over its ears as if were listening.

  She screamed.

It screamed.

[xdy]

I'm waiting for the next stupid thing to tell the future.

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