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It's okay if it takes a little longer than you thought.

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Don't get fooled by the kinky stuff. All I wanna do is snuggle down close to someone in bed and sleep and feel warm and safe

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I'm being a good girl. I deserve kiss. Several even.

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Re-parenting yourself is like: I will hold you because no one ever did. I will show you tenderness because all you ever knew was hardship. I will protect you when everyone else left you to fend for yourself. I know it’s not fair what happened to you. But I am here for you now.

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Motailroto by Manden

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sunlight and fresh air

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last night I talked to my body. and I mean really, talked to my body. I apologised for everything I put it through when I was younger, and I promised not to do that again. but more importantly, I thanked it. I thanked it for getting me through every one of my hard days, for resisting my attempts to destroy it, for telling me what it needs. for being able to touch and hug and feel. and I cried. but I have never felt closer, and more at peace. maybe it’s time to have a chat. see if it helps.

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at a certain point you just get tired of your own shit. you have to force yourself to meditate, workout, eat mindfully and read the books to form a routine that gives you a sense of happiness within yourself again. it’s exhausting i know, but you gotta keep fighting for yourself because no one will take care and love you the way you can for own being. this life is not something to go bout so casually, everyday is your first and last time to embrace this moment. this life was gifted to you with a planet to explore and souls to experience. so show up for yourself.

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helloo as per my last update i did go through a really bad burn out. yeah so that was 2 months ago and im better now and actually been journalling in a notebook for a month now to see if its any diferent. fr it IS different. i think 1 of the reasons why i stopped posting here was because i felt the pressure to always have the positive outlook even on days when i dont. another is that i cant summarize all the small wins i have because its really personal.

sometimes i dont even have any wins at all but i still want to write or dump. so all the posts ive posted arent fulfilling as per one of my intentions.

hi im gonna start another challenge or just continue this one. ur tambay is going to school soon!! prolly aug 15 or end of aug but yeah i want to get back to being productive for school

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11/30

june 17, friday

🍪PROMPT

"do you have a favorite musical artist or song?"

yeahh im really into kpop ive been a fan since 2017👁👁 i like multiple groups but if id have to choose id say- man i feel like im betraying my past favorites but heres my current. itzy♡ i love their vibes and attitude both as artists and as people

song! my favorite song i have no problem listening again after 1 or 1000 days is

🎧bigbang - fxxk it

it embodies my "whatever, fxxk it" attitude in life. as i grew up i lost this attitude and started overthinking things in a negative way which made me more anxious and hindered me a lot so yeah this song♡ special place in my heart

🍪THOUGHTS

how do i stop a burnout thats starting to happen?

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10/30

june 16, thursday

❤TODAY

today i didnt plan to do anything really

went out with my friend in the afternoon, played at an arcadee just 1usd for a few tokens and we wasted it at some stupid gamble games. the rush of happiness from winning>>>>

ate at mcdonaldss. i had my 2 favorite menus cheeseburger and oreo mcflurry😋

the commute home was really relaxing?? idk it was like an hour of purely sitting and looking out the windows lmao

ill tidy my room from getting ready tomorrow... honestly quite tired

❤️PROMPT

"are you happy with your productivity on this 30dop this far?"

truly yes i am. i cant believe im already 1/3 into this challenge like wtff thank goodness i logged my days?? dont think i would remember if i didnt. my minds also been so clear and organized cos of the new things i learned to do

so this is how its supposed to be huh?

aight i fell asleep after the last line AHAHAHA goodmorning im back~

❤️SOMETHING I LOVE

"comfort" whoever made this word was totally correct.

❤️THOUGHTS

i chanced upon a language youtube and they have a video that explains their study plan especially for those studying more than 2 langs. emege yall ill use their notion template today fr i think this will make me improve like 10x faster♡♡

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“When your head hits the pillow tonight, remind yourself that you’ve done a good job. Be patient with yourself, and remember that big things are achieved not all at once, but one day at a time.”

— Nicole Addison

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How to Stay Cool Without A/C

A lot of Northerners were very kind during the freeze in Texas this winter with tips on how to stay warm for people who had lost heat. This is an attempt to repay that favor for people in the Pacific Northwest and other northerly locations who are facing dangerous heatwaves without built-in A/C. My qualifications to give this advice are that I was a summer camp attendee and counselor with no A/C for many summers in humid-ass central Texas with highs over 100F basically every day. Hopefully some of it will be of use to somebody who isn’t used to the heat.

1) PUT ICE WATER IN YOUR BODY. Ice water is your best friend and the #1 way to drop your body temp. Drink more than you think you need (like, at least a half-gallon a day and closer to a gallon or more if you have to be outside doing manual work all day) to cool your insides down and stay hydrated. Have some bananas, trail mix, or a sports drink to help replace the electrolytes you’re sweating out and keep you from getting cramps, but try to have most of your fluid intake be water. I used to take a giant water bottle, fill it part way with water, and freeze it on its side so the ice would slowly melt over the course of the day and my water would stay cold longer.

2) PUT ICE WATER ON YOUR BODY. Cold water, ice, or a damp rag on your head and neck, the backs of your knees, the insides of your elbows, and under your armpits will help you cool down the best, because your blood runs close to the surface in those places. Cold packs designed for injuries or lunchboxes, bags of frozen vegetables, etc. can substitute for ice water as well. Even room-temp water will pull heat away from your body better than body-temp sweat will, especially if it’s humid, so if you don’t have enough ice, the sink, bathtub, or hose will do fine. Dipping your feet into cool water helps a ton as well if you have to sit and work and don’t want your clothes to be wet.

3) WHERE AM I SUPPOSED TO GET SO MUCH ICE?  To make sure you have enough ice to last you the weekend, especially through a potential power failure, I recommend getting a cooler (even one of the cheap styrofoam ones is fine in a pinch) and ~10lbs of ice from the big coolers at most gas stations, drug stores, or grocery stores. Try to do this now, before anybody loses power, and store as much in your freezer as you have space for to keep it from melting. You can use it for drinking or to keep your food cold in a power failure. You can use it for a party later if you don’t end up needing it during the heat wave, but you will probably be very happy you had it.

4) AIR FLOW. Being inside a room with the windows closed is the worst possible place to be if you don’t have A/C, because glass windows create a greenhouse effect and the hot air can’t escape. If at all possible, find a shaded place outside where you can catch any possible breeze. If not, open all your windows and, if it’s safe, doors so you can get a cross-breeze. Hopefully you have window screens to keep pets and kids in and bugs out. If not, you’re gonna have to do your own risk assessment. Fans of all sizes and descriptions are your friend; ceiling fans should be set to spin counterclockwise in summer. Even if you have A/C, finding or making a handheld fan will be worthwhile for when you have to venture outside. If you aren’t in a situation where you need to conserve ice, blowing air over a cooler full of ice will give you a makeshift A/C. 

5) SHADE. You will probably immediately notice that direct sunlight is a miserable place to be when it’s super hot. Find or make a shaded location, and don’t be afraid to move around to avoid the sun as the day goes on. Stay on the shady side of the sidewalk whenever you walk someplace. Try to shade your windows as best you can without obstructing airflow using blinds, curtains, shutters, etc. especially if they’re directly in the path of the sun. Do not be a jerk to your neighbors if their shade solutions are ugly. If you can get a shade for your car windshield, I highly recommend it, as the steering wheel, dashboard, seatbelts, and even seats can quickly become too hot to touch in a sealed car and will hold that heat for a long time.

6) CLOTHING. Light-colored, loose clothing that is as close to 100% cotton or linen as you can find is your friend. It doesn’t necessarily have to be short as long as it’s breathable. You will sweat through anything you wear, so I personally prefer only wearing machine-washable stuff. Sun hats, sunscreen, sunglasses, aloe gel for sunburns, mosquito repellent, anti-chafing supplies, etc are all worth looking into if you aren’t used to spending time in the heat.

7) TIMING. Try to stay out of the sun and avoid doing anything strenuous in the middle of the day when the heat is the worst. If you have a choice, plan to be more active early in the morning and late at night when the temperature is more bearable, and take a break in the middle of the afternoon.

Here’s a graphic from the CDC about how to recognize heat-related illnesses and what to do about them. I will add to this that if it’s hot and you stop sweating, you are getting to a dangerous level of dehydration and need to drink something BEFORE you start having more serious problems.