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hate when people are like "trust your gut! listen to your intuition!" like okay well my gut is telling me every person i lay eyes on is hunting me for sport and my intuition is saying i should find a secluded cave and live there forever so what do you suggest i do with that information

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I’m about to save you thousands of dollars in therapy by teaching you what I learned paying thousands of dollars for therapy:

It may sound woo woo but it’s an important skill capitalism and hyper individualism have robbed us of as human beings.

Learn to process your emotions. It will improve your mental health and quality of life. Emotions serve a biological purpose, they aren’t just things that happen for no reason.

1. Pause and notice you’re having a big feeling or reaching for a distraction to maybe avoid a feeling. Notice what triggered the feeling or need for a distraction without judgement. Just note that it’s there. Don’t label it as good or bad.

2. Find it in your body. Where do you feel it? Your chest? Your head? Your stomach? Does it feel like a weight everywhere? Does it feel like you’re vibrating? Does it feel like you’re numb all over?

3. Name the feeling. Look up an emotion chart if you need to. Find the feeling that resonates the most with what you’re feeling. Is it disappointment? Heartbreak? Anxiety? Anger? Humiliation?

4. Validate the feeling. Sometimes feelings misfire or are disproportionately big, but they’re still valid. You don’t have to justify what you’re feeling, it’s just valid. Tell yourself “yeah it makes sense that you feel that right now.” Or something as simple as “I hear you.” For example: If I get really big feelings of humiliation when I lose at a game of chess, the feeling may not be necessary, but it is valid and makes sense if I grew up with parents who berated me every time I did something wrong. So I could say “Yeah I understand why we are feeling that way given how we were treated growing up. That’s valid.”

5. Do something with your body that’s not a mental distraction from the feeling. Something where you can still think. Go on a walk. Do something with your hands like art or crochet or baking. Journal. Clean a room. Figure out what works best for you.

6. Repeat, it takes practice but is a skill you can learn :)

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"Studying is not a trend. It's a lifestyle. A lifestyle is not an amount. It's practice. So what are you waiting for? Take action. "

-thelostfilesofstudents

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Best Overplayed Song Bracket (part two) - semifinals

full playlist here

Side A

don't stop me now vs. jolene

Side B

take on me vs. dancing queen

view previous bracket here

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One thing I think will make your life so much simpler is realizing that there's no such think as "cheating life".

If you can't do something the conventional way, there's nothing wrong with doing it differently. It's not cheating.

If it makes your life more livable:

Use that mobility aid.

Take that short cut.

Use minute-rice or pre-cut veggies.

Brush your teeth in the shower.

Life isn't a game and you're not cheating.

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kirokaze

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World Wetlands Day 2022: Importance of wetlands at the time of climate change.

Inspiring Video. It shows how much we can do to achieve harmonious living with nature and how much we are indebted to nature.

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Sunday Firesides: Covenants Over Contracts

In the world of sports, when a star player leaves his team for another franchise, hometown fans often feel disappointed and indignant.     Yet while we decry such displays of disloyalty in athletes, we tend to approach all of our own decisions — even those unrelated to business and career — with a similar free agent mentality. The rabbi Jonathan Sacks argued that we can think of life’s commitments in two ways: as contracts or as covenants. Contracts, Sacks said, are transactional, while covenants are relational.  With a contract, you agree to do X, as long as the other party does Y. If the other party doesn’t meet these expectations, or if a better offer or upgrade comes along, you jump ship. With a contract mindset, you extract the maximum value from an arrangement, and then move on. With a covenant, you keep your commitment, even when the other party doesn’t seem to be living up to their end of the bargain, even when it isn’t convenient, even when you feel another arrangement would better meet your needs.  It would seem that the contractual approach is by far the most rational, and it certainly makes sense to try to get the best deal when it comes to more economic exchanges. But taking a covenantal approach to a marriage, a faith — even certain friendships, vocations, and communities — can actually offer a greater, if less obvious, value. There are aspects of your character, dimensions of your heart, and parts of your mind, body, and spirit that can only be developed by making thick-and-thin commitments, by enduring in a relationship, by traveling the path of “irrational” fidelity.  While always operating as a marketplace-minded mercenary can get you what you (think) you want, it ultimately leaves your soul untouched. As Sacks observed, while contracts may benefit, only covenants transform.  The post Sunday Firesides: Covenants Over Contracts appeared first on The Art of Manliness. http://dlvr.it/SYxfWg

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Why Cities With Grids Are Terribly Designed

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