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The Cheatcode

Hello Ladies,

I’ve found the cheat code when it comes to hypergamy! You’ll only need a little start capital…not that much, only around 1-2k.

You need to rebuild your entire wardrobe. Yes. Throw out your crop tops and your leggings. No high value man wants a woman that is dressed like a yoga teacher all day. I don’t care if you’re only 21. Buy all those long skirts and button up tops and don’t even think about purchasing a bag cheaper than 500 dollars.

Think about what you can do in terms of your appearance. Maybe a nose job or a skinny BBL? If you’re lucky you can get away with only lip fillers.

Only speak about feminine stuff. Home decor. How you’re planning to homeschool your children. Let the man talk about masculine things like politics or finances.

Are you still reading? Well…I have a surprise for you…

…there is no such thing as a cheatcode.

Sorry, but I need to rant a little bit.

I’m so fucking annoyed at posts like this. There is currently and likely never will be a cheatcode for hypergamy.

Don’t believe those feminity influencers – most of them aren’t even married or have bagged a billionaire. Don’t buy books from these people and don’t give them money for strange online classes, that claim you’ll meet a billionaire within a five step program.

The truth is, wether you like it or not, that only very few woman will marry into high society and even fewer will stay in those circles.

I don’t know if you get it but those men are only human and want a honest connection with their partner. (Well, I’m sure there are men that really only care about looks but is this really a man you would like to marry? Even if he’s the richest man on the planet?)

Hypergamy is work. Hard fucking work.

Many of you seem to think that those men only fuck you and look at you. What do you do if you can’t fuck because you’re on a gala or his mothers birthday dinner? You’ll have to open your mouth and start talking.

I’m like 98% sure that you could be a grenade in bed and the most beautiful woman that ever walked on earth, if you can’t hold a conversation for longer than a minute, you won’t be succesful.

I am not that beautiful myself, I’m average with a few nice features but I can entertain my boyfriend for hours just talking about my day. I can discuss current politics with him and talk about his business without googling every second phrase.

He loves to spend time with me because he likes how I make him feel. I make him feel welcomed in his home, I make sure to listen to his problems and about what brings him joy. I am the first person he wants to call when he has a hard or a very succesful day because he know that my reactions are always honest and genuine. I won’t just tell him what he wants to hear – I tell him my opinion.  

Another thing that bugs me, is that those feminity influencers make relationships seem like the only things to do are shopping, taking vacations and going out to eat.

Honestly it’s fucking hard to be with a high value man.

High value man = very full schedule.

My boyfriend works from 5:30am to 7pm and sometimes even longer. When he comes home he wants to shower, eat something and talk to me.

I prepare his meals and clean the house while he’s at work. I do grocerie shopping and laundry, I iron his clothes and order his skin and haircare products.

He doesn’t expect me in a full face of makeup and a bodycon dress with heels when he gets home but he wants me to be clean and freshly showered. He want’s no drama and he expects that I know my place – beside him.

A relationship is work, especially if you’re in one with a man that works 80+ hours a week. Don’t expect endless shopping trips with him or a nice dinner every day. There is a reason why he has money – he works for it and his working hours are usually very long.

Okay, thats all I have for now.

Bye Bye

Selene

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𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐔𝐋𝐓𝐈𝐌𝐀𝐓𝐄 𝐒𝐔𝐌𝐌𝐄𝐑 𝐆𝐋𝐎𝐖 𝐔𝐏

ຯ  🌴    !   ׂ⁠  want to glow up and look unrecognisable for the summer? this post has been designed perfectly just for you 𑁍 

this post has been divided into 3 parts.

𝐈. 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐃𝐄𝐓𝐎𝐗 : 𝐆𝐄𝐓𝐓𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐑𝐈𝐃 𝐎𝐅 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐎𝐋𝐃 𝐘𝐎𝐔

SAY BYE BYE to the old you, you are no longer the things you call yourself. you’re not ugly, stupid, lazy etc. you will no longer look up at that mirror and tear your beautiful self apart, that’s all in the past.

we’re going to stop those habits completely they do nothing but bring us back and withhold us from our true power, we are so much more than the hurtful words we call ourselves :)

optional, but you can write down all the bad habits you want to get rid of, and make a promise to yourself that you will put an end to those self-destructive habits.

✧ — again you do not have to, some habits are a difficult process. you can make a promise to yourself that you won’t let those habits bring you down and you will continue thriving no matter what

SAY IT HERE RIGHT NOW:

“𝐈 𝐀𝐌 𝐁𝐄𝐂𝐎𝐌𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐁𝐄𝐒𝐓 𝐕𝐄𝐑𝐒𝐈𝐎𝐍 𝐎𝐅 𝐌𝐘𝐒𝐄𝐋𝐅”

AND AGAIN…

“𝐈 𝐀𝐌 𝐁𝐄𝐂𝐎𝐌𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐁𝐄𝐒𝐓 𝐕𝐄𝐑𝐒𝐈𝐎𝐍 𝐎𝐅 𝐌𝐘𝐒𝐄𝐋𝐅”

WITH ALL THE POWER AND DETERMINATION!

“𝐈 𝐀𝐌 𝐁𝐄𝐂𝐎𝐌𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐁𝐄𝐒𝐓 𝐕𝐄𝐑𝐒𝐈𝐎𝐍 𝐎𝐅 𝐌𝐘𝐒𝐄𝐋𝐅”

𝐈𝐈. 𝐒𝐄𝐋𝐅 𝐂𝐎𝐍𝐂𝐄𝐏𝐓 :

self concept is the foundation of everything. its how you view yourself and how you view friendships, relationships, life..etcetera!

changing your self concept doesn’t have to be challenging and difficult it is so easy and simple

here’s an example

if you think that you are unlucky, ugly, stupid and that no one will ever love you those thoughts will reflect in your 3D. you will find yourself in circumstances because of your thoughts.

you can change all of that in a millisecond by deciding that you have the best self concept in the world, you are more kinder to yourself and start practicing being kind to yourself

instead of tearing yourself apart you start telling yourself “i am going to be kind to myself today, i find that my features perfectly suit my face”

if you want to be beautiful you have to change your inner thoughts. it all starts with mindset first, never the other way around.

self concept affirmations ➜ here

𝐈𝐈𝐈. 𝐑𝐄-𝐖𝐑𝐈𝐓𝐄 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐒𝐓𝐎𝐑𝐘 :

okay so you’ve done your detox, you’ve stopped entertaining those habits and you’ve finally recognised your worth and got your self concept back on track…its time to rewrite your story.

so who do you want to be? don’t be afraid and i actually recommend that you go extra as much as you can. want a totally new face? THATS TOTALLY EASY. want to have tiny ass waist? THAT IS SOO EASY TO MANIFEST. want the best pinterest summer ever? THATS SO ATTAINABLE!

write down or take a mental note of your goals <3 tick them off as you go!

𝐈𝐕. 𝐁𝐄𝐂𝐎𝐌𝐄 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐍𝐄𝐖 𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐈𝐌𝐏𝐑𝐎𝐕𝐄𝐃 𝐘𝐎𝐔 :

okay so this is my favourite part, you are going to APPLY everything you know about the law, everything you know about how to create your dream life and JUST DO IT. you’re going to take that leap of faith and watch the results blossom right in front of your face, you’re going to be so proud of yourself this summer for persisting and seeing yourself become an unrecognisable queen.

so on that mental or physical note you’ve created you’re going to become that person..EVERYDAY! you’re going to think and feel and embody that person that you want to be. you’re going to compliment yourself in the mirror, you’re going to think beautiful thoughts, you’re going to get lost in conversations with yourself about how amazing you are. you’re going to dance and twirl in your beautiful summer dresses about how you have the best self concept and the best body..best EVERYTHING!

if i wanted to be a top A student who can balance a social life and studying amazingly i would have thoughts like..

“look how amazing i can balance a social life”

“why am i so amazing at everything i do?? its crazy how i have the most amazing friends and still have time to study and achieve my goals”

𝐓𝐎 𝐒𝐔𝐌𝐌𝐀𝐑𝐈𝐙𝐄 …  ۫ ִ ׂ☀️ ◟♡ ˒ ⊹ ݁ ִ  ۫

get rid of self-destructive habits

change your self concept

rewrite your life! who do you want to be?

BECOME THAT PERSON

can’t wait to see all your glowups, love you..MWAH!

[the-diva]

5 Ways to Express Your Emotions in a Healthy Feminine Manner

As we age, we become more in touch with our emotions. For women on their feminine journey, it’s crucial to take the time to process & understand our emotions. Being in tune with ourselves makes interacting with others easier. As well as helping others sort their emotions.Here’s are 5 ways to express your emotions in a healthy feminine manner.

Cry It out!

A good cry IS therapeutic. Emotions are just energy, they need somewhere to go. It’s best to air them out. Some women aren’t criers and have a hard time expressing their emotions in this way, but there is nothing wrong with crying. It does not make you fragile nor does it make you weak. In my opinion, it is one of the healthiest ways to express emotions and really puts you in connection with your feminine energy.

Clean your space

A clean space can really help clear your mind. Having a cluttered house can make you unable to sort out your emotions. It is vital to reflect the energy you want to feel in your space. So turn on some music, light a candle, and get cleaning!

Journal

Journaling is good for the soul. Getting all your feelings out on paper can really provide clarity and help you sort out exactly what is upsetting you. It organizes your thoughts that would otherwise continue to be scrambled in your mind. It also helps to keep account of your previous feelings that can help you work through your current emotions.

Talk to friends

A trustworthy friend is really the best medicine. They support you, provide insight, and can really help you when you feel misaligned. Although most of the conversation is mindless chit-chat, I talk to my best friend almost every day. Whenever I need someone, she'll always be there with a listening ear.

Go outside

Vitamin D can do wonders for a weary heart. Sunshine therapy IS THE most underrated method of therapy. Take a walk around your neighbourhood or even just step outside... Fresh air has healing effects on the mind and body.

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Set Aside 6 Months

Set aside 6 months for you. Let me tell ya, focusing and working on yourself is so addictinggg! Cooking yourself nourishing meals, doing things outside of your comfort zone, learning, spending time alone, doing the hobbies you enjoy, finding new hobbies you enjoy, meditating, celebrating your body by moving it in some way daily, taking yourself out on dates, self care, re-parenting yourself, allll of it! 

Ever since I embarked on this journey I have grown so much and am so proud of myself! All of my friends are telling me I’m glowing, I’m 1000x more confident, I’m 10x hotter - mentally and physically, I’m setting boundaries and not taking any sh*t, immediately leaving when my needs aren’t being met, let me tell you this journey overall feels so good!! 

There are of course times where it doesn’t feel so good because when you elevate, whoo chile let me tell you, the mess comes out. People you thought would be in your life forever leave because you’re vibrating on different frequencies, it gets lonely because you’re setting boundaries and not settling for less, you meet people who bring out darker sides of you in order to heal but trust when I say it is always for your higher good and it is so worth it. 

Ladies, the best thing we can do for ourselves is embark on a journey of self care and self love. It will be the best decision you’ve ever made. Set aside at least 6 months for just YOU. Where all you do is focus on yourself and your journey. Whatever that means for you!

Love and being in a relationship is great but if you don’t have a solid foundation within yourself, any connection you try to build will eventually fall because half of the foundation isn’t stable. But don’t do this just for love, do this for you. 

The longest relationship we will ever have is with ourselves. The longest home we’ll ever live in is our body.

[the-diva]

The SULTRY Method

Sensuality is done on accident. Sitting down in a way that accentuates your female form should be practiced to be done naturally.

Don’t take your time sitting down so slowly and robotically it looks like your knees hurt!

Ultimately, your look is your line. Being a pretty privileged woman isn’t evil. It’s not your fault you benefit from the human gaze. Most people find social media makeup and clothes extremely exaggerated and inappropriate for daily wear. Stick to a classic appearance that shows your womanliness. Classic doesn’t equate to boring, however.

If your demeanor and appearance looks too cared for, people looking to pay may assume all of your bases are covered and look for someone else to pay for.

Legs don’t go out of style. Elongate your legs as you walk. This can be difficult to do in non-stretch pants. Keep upright as you walk so you don’t walk at an angle.

Avoid taking leaping steps or any that make you look like you’re only stepping on certain color tiles.

Trends aren’t dependable. You’re no trend, so stay true to yourself. We live in a very spendthrift society (coming from me) and trends are costly.

Render yourself as a woman who’s paid for. Wear high-quality articles because SHEIN-like clothing looks teenage and you do not want to look younger in that way.

It’ll reflect especially badly on him if you look 15 and he’s 3 times that age trying to pay for you.

You are the crème de la crème. Outfit yourself in a way that shows your superiority. Demonstrate this in your makeup, meals and routines.

YOU ARE THE BEST HE CAN PAY FOR AND TREAT.

[the-diva]

The #1 Thing All High Value Women Know

High-value women are not born.. they are made. The poise and grace of a true hvw do not happen overnight. It is a process that requires consistent effort.

Today, I will be sharing the number one thing that every high-value woman must know and practice.

DIS·CI·PLINE /ˈDISƏPLƏN/

"NOUN/ the ability to control one's feelings and overcome one's weaknesses; the ability to pursue what one thinks is right despite temptations to abandon it."

Discipline is the number one trait all high-value women know and have. When you begin to discover genuine self-love you start showing up differently in the world. Discipline is showing up for yourself and putting yourself first. Your happiness, needs, and wellbeing. A HVW works to achieve her goals every day. These habits have made me more productive when I am struggling with discipline …

Decide on the type of life you want then compare if your actions are aligned with your goals

Make a list of all the things your dream life include (choose what you can and cannot be flexible on)

Are your daily actions getting you closer to this goal? – if not, decide on what to adjust

Pray/meditate

Connect with a higher power and let that energy guide you. Prayer works! Know that anything you want you can have, but you have to work for it and wholeheartedly believe you can have it

Get a planner

It’s extremely important to write out your goals. By writing your goals down they are at least 2x’s as likely to happen.

It’s easier to stay on task when you know exactly what needs to get done

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Lingerie,long silky robe,bouncy pure black hair,diamond earrings,diamond choker,high rise apartment,Wine,miss dior perfume,The weekend-Earned it/often playing in the background

If you get it you get it

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“I like cancelled plans. And empty bookstores. I like rainy days. And thunderstorms. And quiet coffee shops. I like messy beds and over-worn pajamas. Most of all, I like the small joys that a simple life brings.”

— Unknown

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Daily affirmation: I am walking into my purpose. Everything I'm doing now is preparing me for an abundant and prosperous future.

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REINVENTING MYSELF-Femininity

Simply put, I don’t like the woman I am now. I am a manifestation of my parents neglect, insecurities rooted in me since a child, along with suppressed and very obvious trauma. I want to see better, I want to do better, I want to attract better.

In preparation for spring (the actual “New Year”) I am currently throwing away EVERYTHING and starting completely fresh. Clothes, wigs, sheets, I even thought about tossing my diploma not a soul asked me for (not even school, everything is electronic).

This is she, me. Anew

Personality

She is mysterious, yet has a welcoming aura about her. You know she’s not the woman to step to unless it’s worth her time, but intimidating isn’t the feeling that comes over the admirer. She’s playful, actively laughing and playing with her dogs. Publicly and privately. A hopeless romantic, though a seductress first. Her love (and lust) is earned. She’s very hard to get.

Hopeless Romantic

Adventurous

Rebellious

Creative

Bookworm

Athletic

Hobbies

She’s always trying something new to see if she finds something she likes. Fear of dislike is never on her mind. As a curious spirit, she not only has hobbies but works to advance and meet those who share the same hobbies as her

Art museums

Theatre

Cooking & making recipe books to pass down

Scrapbooking

Learning about nature (plants, Survival skills, history)

Baking (for anyone)

Chess

White Wine

Astrology

Teapot Collecting

Reading research articles

Boundaries

Again, she’s very hard to get. Hard to impress. Hard to convince. Hard to plead to. As warm as her aura may be, she’s very no nonsense. She is in tune with her inner voice and intuition, who are the first to advise her about whatever you’re telling her.

No sex before substantial financial/personal commitment

Limited debates, always held with class and even tone. Never arguments or fights

Not surrounding self around people who don’t share the same ambition

I come first. My safety, my priorities and myself, period.

No unannounced guests (gift deliveries excluded)

I don’t entertain conversations with men after a certain time

I am selective about what I choose to listen to, so I cut all unproductive/negative conversations very short

Goals

She is an “overachiever”. Whatever that means.

Purchase first property

Travel to 5th country

Obtaining black dermatologist

Selling select art pieces for over ($XX,XXX)

Approved for American Express Platinum Card

Accepted into Ph.D program

Complete first few books/scripts

Learn Spanish and ASL fluently

I went deep into depth privately, and I highly suggest you do the same. Sometimes, it helps to have an organized, detail breakdown of who you are, who you want to become, and most importantly who are you leaving behind.

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how to live your life like the BRATZ ♡

self love & confidence!!

living life everyday with self-respect and self love will take you such a far way in all aspects of life, and will make your life more enjoyable and easy. make sure you take the time out of your day to remind yourself just how amazing and capable you are. be your own best friend. understand that what you focus on grows.

self care !!

you deserve to be treated with the upmost care. schedule times to pamper yourself and also check in with yourself.

taking care of your mind and body goes hand and hand.

for caring for your mind:

meditate, journal your thoughts down, do some yoga, connect to your religion/spirituality if you follow one, make affirmations for yourself that cater to your needs, practice gratitude.

for caring for your body:

create your own spa! indulge in a bubble bath or relaxing shower where you can use yummy scented body washes/soaps/exfoliators and body conditioners, do a hair mask, give yourself a manicure and pedicure, do your eyebrows, have a set skincare routine that is catered personally to your skin problems/goals, give yourself a head massage, wear matching or yummy scented lotions and perfumes, work out, try new delicious recipes and make sure you are eating good for your body.

hobbies !!

all of the girls had their own hobbies they were into! explore new hobbies or start the ones you’ve always been wanting to do but have been putting off! not only are they fun but they enhance your life! you get to learn more about yourself and find out possible hidden talents or grow new ones, you meet new people and make new friends too whether it’s you doing the actual hobby or running across someone who enjoys the same things that you do! some hobbies to consider:

any dance class: ballet, hip-hop, k-pop etc.

photography

any sport: tennis, ice skating, golfing, etc.

gardening

reading & writing

camping

crafting

blogging

cooking & baking

school and personal goals !!

one thing i love about the bratz is that they took their education seriously and helped each other whenever one of them needed the help. nothing is more fabulous than being educated and ambitious. you can do anything you put your mind to. 

create a study schedule for yourself and limit your distractions, when it’s time to study put your phone away and remove anything that you know will serve as a distraction to you, give yourself breaks from here and there too!

create a vision board! cut and paste pictures of things you want for your future onto a poster board or be creative and draw and color everything out! this is a great reminder everyday for yourself if you put it somewhere you’ll be able to see whenever you wake up or a spot in your room that you’re always looking at for example. (what you focus on grows!)

jot down all the things you want to do or improve on, whether thats creating good habits for yourself, learning a new language, etc.

have a passion for fashion !!

would this be a how to live your life like the BRATZ without it? explore and find your own fashion sense! find out what colors and patterns make you happy, express yourself through your clothing, shop until you drop and have fun!!

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Invest on skincare, spa days, facials, be mindful of your diet and avoid consuming inflammatory and processed foods, wear your SPF religiously, never sleep with your make up on, make sure you rest 7 to 8 hours daily, exercise, meditate/pray and become in-tune with your spirituality, drink plenty of lemon water daily, drink smoothies, take magnesium and supplement with different vitamins depending on the season of the year, avoid alcohol if possible. Take care and exalt your body and it will take care of you in the long run, don't abuse it, cherish it.

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Doll Diaries: Reinvention

At some point in your life, you may want to completely reinvent yourself. Reinventing yourself means to change aspects of yourself physically, mentally, or both.

This is also means that you are making progress in your life. Reinvention marks a period of growth, consistent growth.

1. Create a vision for your reinvention.

What does the new you look like? What is the future that you want? Who are the people, situations, and places you may have to leave behind?

Have a vision of who you want to become, and have a reason of why you want to become that.

-> Create a board of your aesthetic and ideas via Pinterest, Pic Collage, or Google Slides.

2. Know who you’re surrounding yourself with.

If you are surrounding yourself with people that are not going to keep it real with you, people that are envious of your success/new endeavors, or people that do not align with your core values, you have to cut them off.

Someone who truly values you as a person will care about the fact that you’re trying to better yourself, and join you along the journey. Letting go of dead weight will be a huge relief.

Remember that you’re your own best friend first, and don’t let anyone hold you back.

3. Express yourself.

This saying rings true. Dress the way the new you would, speak the way the new you would, and do the things the new you would do. Be expressive, be whoever you want to be. There’s no rule saying you can’t consistently change. Life allows you to be a chameleon.

4. Remember that you can become anything.

If you’re overall trying to become more confident as a person, you can become that.

-> Affirm yourself, instead of speaking negatively and affirming your harsh inner critic.

->Keep your back elongated when you walk into a room.

->Speak more articulately and slow down when speaking, pause between sentences. Have clear diction.

->Dress boldly and unapologetically, only for you and no one else.

If you’re trying to become more strong, you can become that.

->Have strict boundaries, and take no shit from anyone.

->Anyone that violates your core beliefs must go. Stand your ground.

->When you are going through a really hard time, get yourself together first and be in tune with your feelings first, don’t fall apart in public.

If you’re trying to become more private, you can become that.

->Learn to speak less about your personal problems.

->Vent to your diary/journal.

->Speak vaguely about what you’re doing and make general statements, make the other person talk about themselves.

If you’re trying to become more attractive, you can become that.

->Always look people in the eye.

->Laugh, smile, be genuine. Don’t push a fake persona.

->Learn that other people do not define you, such confidence is instantly appealing.

->Take care of yourself mentally and physically.

5. Live for yourself.

Ultimately, this journey is your own and no one else’s. Stop worrying so much about other people and what they think. Mute, block, unfollow or take a social media cleanse.

Learn to put yourself first. Reshape your relationship with other people’s expectations.

Don’t owe anyone anything, don’t expect anyone to owe you anything either.

Expectations come from a place of judgment. Judging yourself from a perfectionist eye does you no good. There is too much power in the present moment to dwell on expectations of what should be.

You can’t truly control what others think but you can control your inner critic which is why the way you talk to yourself is so crucial. It can make or break you.

You can also control the access people have in your life. If they refuse to accept your values, then you should distance yourself. Living for yourself is the best thing you can do because you make room for internal validation rather than external.

When you know your own worth, you do things for yourself, and that’s what makes it rewarding.

Always ask yourself the important questions:

What brings me happiness?

What would I love to accomplish?

Am I accepting reality? Am I making changes to my reality? What changes can I make?

What values are important to me?

Growth does not stop, it’s continuous. Your standards will continue to grow with you.

Your goal is to live a life you are proud of.

Taking appropriate risks outside of your comfort zone, upholding your boundaries and core values, competing with yourself to do your very best, and acknowledging that the process is what matters, not simply the end result.

Make this journey private and sacred, and transform with or without people alongside.

Don’t let anyone make you feel bad for wanting to create yourself over and over. You are your own artist.

Focus in on who you are now, and who you are becoming.

I hope this inspires you!

xoxo, thevirgodoll♡