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ENJOYMENT and ENDURANCE

I've read this quote somewhere that says “life is to be enjoyed, not to be endured". You may think that this is a simple and easy advice, but if you tell this to someone who obviously endures the life he has been given, I'm pretty sure that you'd get punched on the face. The quote clearly tells that there are two different words that describe the reality: ENJOYMENT and ENDURANCE. This is a vivid representation of that visible line that separates the privileged and the underprivileged. The people who enjoy and the people who endure the life they've been given. 

So, for those people who endure the life they have been given but still find the beauty, happiness, and contentment, may God bless you more so you can have more reasons to enjoy the life you've been given. For those people who feel like they are enduring the life where there are so many things to be grateful for, may God redirect your perspective to things that make you blessed. And for those people who endure the life they have and think that there is no way out, just hang on and keep moving. There is always light at the end of the tunnel.

I hope that we all find the HAPPINESS that we are looking for because I know that this is the only primary purpose of our existence - to be happy. 

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Nostalgia

Nostalgia is what everybody feels when you want to go back to the place that brought you joy and peace. Has it ever crossed your mind that you want to escape from the present reality? That’s what I feel sometimes. But in my case, I want to go a place I’ve never been before. A kind of place where no one knows me. A kind of place I can call my home where negativity does not proper. A kind of place that gives me the freedom to be who I am without prejudice, fear, and without social norm.

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31

So why not drop the 31 random things I’ve learned in my 31 years of existence? You may or may not agree with these but I guess it's worth sharing. 

1.       Your childhood plays a big part of who you are now

2.       There’s no enemy within. It’s just our belief system.

3.       It’s okay to say NO without feeling guilty

4.       Clear communication resolves every misunderstanding

5.       Don’t seek validation from anyone. Validation should always come from you.

6.       Self-love is not selfish.

7.       Always take care of your health. I know “health is wealth” is such a cliché but not taking care of it will restrict you from achieving your goals.

8.       Stop wasting your time explaining things to close-minded people. They will never get it.

9.       As much as possible, “STAY OUT OF DEBT” – you already know what I mean.

10.    Mental Health is as important as your physical health.

11.    You don’t always need to explain yourself to everyone

12.    We create our own reality. Our thoughts become emotions. Emotions become actions.

13.    You don’t have to be friends with everyone. Keep your circle small.

14.    It is never too late to start something new.

15.    You will not always be people’s cup of tea and that is totally OKAY.

16.    Be brave even if you are not, no can tell the difference.

17.    Give that LOVE to yourself because you deserve it.

18.    Learning is a never-ending process – Keep learning!

19.    Financial Intelligence is something that we should always talk about. I wish I knew all about these things when I was in my early 20’s

20.    Stop comparing your journey with other people. We have our own pace in life.

21.    Sometimes being alone doesn’t mean your lonely.

22.    You can’t control people’s reaction but you can always control on how you react to them

23.    “Money can’t buy happiness” is an incorrect concept about money. Money is what we need to fulfil our dreams and aspirations. Anyone who says “money can’t buy happiness” needs to transfer their money to my account! 😊

24.    Don’t define yourself with the things you possess. Everything we have is just temporary and borrowed. These can be taken away from us anytime.

25.    Don’t take risks, instead TAKE CALCULATED RISKS.

26.    Create your life plan or someone else will.

27.    You do not know what tomorrow may bring so do yourself a favour- always be gentle to yourself and do the things that make you happy as long as you don’t hurt anyone

28.    We all connected to each other. The way we meet people is not an accident. They come into our lives either to be a blessing or a lesson.

29.    Whatever the work is, do it well – not for the boss but for yourself.

30.    Stay present, and continue to be the observer of what is happening inside you – Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle

31.    “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; Knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened” – Matthew 7:7-8

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BLINKERS

It’s near 1 a.m and my brain is still awake thinking about my life in general. I love contemplating about my life at this hour because the silence gives me the energy to do this. Now let’s talk about my life. 

I am turning 31 yrs old and as a person at this age, you’d definitely think about where you are at in life. In a world full of conformists, it is inevitable to get pressured by our society’s standards. At this age, We are expected to have at least achieved certain things such as house&lot, financial stability, car, etc. And I am definitely one of those people who’s pressured about what i have achieved and will achieve. I’ve been thinking about all these things and believe me, this is really mentally exhausting. I know the feeling of chasing after certain things because you don’t want to run out of time. But then We will realize that life is not a race. We will realize that we are not in a competition. We will realize that we all have our own pacing and timing. 

No matter how slow our journey is, as long as we keep our focus on the things we want in life, that is totally OKAY. We always have to wear blinkers so we only focus on our own journey without comparing it with others.

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First timer

They say first step is always the hardest. I know how it really feels. How about you? When was the last time you tried something the first time? And after doing it the first time, Was the feeling liberating? Was it uncomforable? Did you do it right the first time? or you failed and want to try it again or never want to try it again? 

The thing here is that we all go through life. I mean, we always want to try new things in life and sometimes, it is the fear that hinders us from doing it. It is the fear of jumping off the cliff and die in the process. I know that fear and I want to say that you are not alone. I want to validate your feelings. I want to assure you that it is normal. But I also want you to understand that we have one life and it always a do or die thing. 

Whatever that is you’ve been wanting to do in your life, feel the fear for a moment but do not hesitate in doing it as long as you know what you are getting into. As long as it will make you happy without hurting anyone in this world, JUST DO IT! 

And if you are reading this, please always remember that there is someone who’s rooting for you to accomplish that thing you’ve been wanting to try. Know that there is someone out there supporting you to do the things you love. You create your own reality.

SEIZE IT. HOLD IT. DO IT!

Wish you all the best! and You deserve nothing but the best.

Sincerely Yours, 

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