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Adults with intellectual and developmental disabilities are ADULTS. Not eternal children

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It's never fair to compare like this. Autism and ADHD are spectrums. I can't work or drive and it's not about laziness, bc I have TRIED to drive and it always freaks me out. I just can't, I would, but I can't.

People are always like "I'm autistic too and I CAN work/do thing! so you can too, those are excuses" or "I also have back pain and I can stand for HOURS to work you just lazy"/ "well my feet hurt all the time but I Still work so.."

but did it possibly occur to you that..MY autism isn't YOUR autism?, my scoliosis isn't yours ..mine for all you know could be worse than yours and even if yours is a higher curve number ours still won't be same neither will our pain be the same. Say this to say: don't compare yourself to others in that way, I've seen people do this with like adhd too like I don have adhd that I know but do struggle with executive dysfunction and just because you can do whatever and you don't struggle with it at all or as much as others doesn't then give you the right to say "well I have that too and so I know for a fact you CAN do the thing , you just lazy! I can say because I have same disorder and therefor-" please shut the fuck up, we not the same.

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This is way too relatable. I can't drive, despite most of my "family" telling me that I'll get used to it if I just try and that I need that skill to get by in life like I don't already know!! And lets forget about being able to take a bus, plane, taxi, etc. all by myself.. I could probably go to college, but I don't know how to go about signing up for it and I can't work a job to pay for it anyway. Any job I might be able to work needs a degree that I don't have. I can't walk into the store by myself most of the time without panicking. I keep telling people that I'm autistic (and that I'm MSN to the people that actually believe me), but I mask so much socially that people who know nothing about autism don't believe me.

I'm tired of my needs being downplayed, like I can just get a job or drive a car and I'm actively choosing not to, or that I'm just faking to get attention. These are the same people that have seen me be all "weird" or "awkward" growing up like that's just my personality and not me being unable to understand how to socialize properly.

I feel like medium support needs autistic people don't get talked about enough. I feel like we are seen as LSN ppl and get brushed off like they do, but that its even more detrimental to us to do that. I feel invisible bc I'm struggling so much, and people are telling me to just fix it like I'm lazy instead of disabled.

I don't think some LSN people understand that HSN people are not having fun being completely dependent on others and that MSN people don't always get their needs met bc we mask too!!

I know I'm shouting into the void with this one but like. Genuinely so many low support needs people dont understand what it's like having even medium support needs. Like I am entirely dependent on other people for many of my needs. I can not see a doctor without someone else scheduling the appointment, taking me there and doing a large amount of the communication for me.

If my caretaker had not been accepting of me being trans and invested hundreds of hours into psych appointments and taking me to my endocrinologist and doing all the paperwork involved with my name change and literally taking a week off work to stay with me in the hospital for surgery etc i would have just like. Never transitioned. My ability to transition was entirely dependent on a singular person and that's what a lot of other parts of my life are like as well. and that's fucking terrifying and a great way to be neglected and abused in ways that are horribly hard to get away from.

I dont drive, I dont work, I struggle to leave the house at all, I dont fucking communicate with people majority of the time. The things that are hard for you? I probably can not do them to begin with. No one in my family lives even close to a comparable life to me. None of my irl friends do. I'm incredibly isolated.

And then I go online and see people rant about how easy MSN and HSN people have it because we just get everything we need and how because people can tell we are disabled everything is so easy because none of you even manage to listen to us talk about the neglect and abuse and trauma we face/d. I see people angry at their (more) disabled siblings for getting care they need to survive instead of mad at society for creating a system where its incredibly hard for families to take care of both a higher support needs child and another child.

And I see people who live completely independent lives who work and drive and make their own doctors appointments and grocery shop and travel by themselves call themselves MSN (I could go on a rant about how that's also often the fault of LSN influencers for not leaving a lot of room in their own community for legitimate struggle but that's for another day).

I just want my needs met. I want to be able to decide where I live. I want choice in my care. I want to be able to have community with those like me. I want others to realize I exist and leave the words i have to describe my existence alone. I want others to listen to what I have to say about what my life is like.

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THIS!!!!!!!!!! most of us feel like we aren't doing enough because we can't physically stop a genocide but speaking helps!! pressuring helps!! boycotting helps and protesting helps!! please don't give up on Palestinians not when the entire world has turned their backs on them

here is how YOU can help Palestine

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So uh! Update! My stepdad officially ran out of unemployment. None. That's it. They stopped doing federal extensions in 2021. We're officially dead in the water until April unless we can borrow $3,500 from his parents to last us until taxes come in, in late February. The $3,500 is going to... almost exclusively bills. Despite the fact that there's no income now except for my mother's disability (which is rent and ONLY rent), we can't guarantee we'll get CalFresh. They've rejected us six times. Both my stepdad and I are actively looking for work. He has a job guaranteed in April. The money is going towards saving for utility bills, groceries, my mom's insulin, and gas for the truck.

So... we need help. Below are my links; my mother and I created a GoFundMe to try and raise the necessary funds, but... that'll take time. Anything helps, even just reblogging or giving some kind words.

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https://ko-fi.com/bluebayard

https://venmo.com/u/bluebayard

https://gofund.me/b011dce1

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NSFW will be tagged as #lemon sorta NSFW is #Lime Weird fet shit/ extreme NSFW is #orange reblog to spread awareness that we’re back on the citrus scale

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In a series of completely unrelated coincidences, the same family moves into a haunted house, attracts the attention of a local poltergeist, purchases an evil ventriloquist dummy, activates a witch’s curse, and adopts the newborn antichrist, all in the same week.

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I was not expecting that

“⚠️⚠️⚠️ This is why you should NEVER stay near the exit of a railway tunnel”

(via)

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why do black people use you in the wrong context? such is "you ugly" instead of "you're ugly" I know u guys can differentiate, it's a nuisance

you a bitch

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Mermaids with hair over their eyes are usually from deeper waters. The sea floor has almost no light, so deep sea mermaids (few of which have functional eyes) visiting the surface would be blinded by the sun. 

To mermaids, covering their eyes with hair is similar to sunglasses.

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Just a friendly reminder to not feel bad or guilty when enjoying omegaverse.

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y’all @kendalexis on tiktok WRECKED MY SHIT TODAY???????? it makes so much sense

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Literally heard a convo at the library where a guy was telling a girl that he’s an omega and the girl telling him that she’s a beta, and my mind just did not automatically connect the context to fraternity pledge classes at all and I just whispered to myself “what the fuck?? What the fuck??”

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This is hands down the most personal comic I ever made. Peridot has always been dear to me, not in small part because of how many aspects of her story warmed my little green heart. This is based on just one of them. I’ve been working on it ever since Peridot was confirmed to be aroace and I really wanted to get it out for pride month, but life said no so you’re getting it now instead of some ace jokes. 

Happy Ace Week to everyone on the ace spectrum! 

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monkey secrets

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2021 Mood ✍️