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shoutout to selfshippers with low or no empathy! your f/os know that what defines you are your actions, and not your ability to feel other people's emotions or not! they wouldn't think you're a monster or evil, or are somehow lacking something that makes you human. even if your f/o is more empathetic than you they love you to the moon and back!! they really like that they can discuss heavy topics with you without making you upset, or that they can vent to you about their personal problems easily! you are so awesome and cool and loved and they will forever appreciate you

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this took me an embarrassingly amount of time

he thinks hes a nonchalant deadhead but hes literally not

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art for chapter 9 (intent without a purpsose) for my undertale au fanfic convergent point (previously named scientific theory). papyrus tries to comfort the reader after giving some frightful news.

link here: https://archiveofourown.org/works/64188073/chapters/169863904

funny meme for after the chapter below (spoiler but not really)

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self shipping angst is sooo funny. yeah this is my favorite character and romantic partner i love them with my entire heart. im going to make sure i almost die in front of them

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Self shippers with self-esteem issues and deep seeded self worth issues that make it hard for you to believe that your f/o truly loves you, I see you and I love you.

Having these issues doesn't mean you're hard to love or that you're a burden to your f/o. That's what they're here for. They want you and every piece of you, even if you think its too much to handle. They love you, and they will remind you everyday if that's what you need.

Using our f/os to punish ourselves or inflict emotional self harm is a hard habit to break and it may feel like its deserved, but its not. Your f/o doesn't want that. They want to be a light in the dark for you. Please remember when your brain is being cruel to you, your f/o wouldn't say or do those things.

They love you. Now and forever. 🧡

[proship dni]

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"saw a double" moodboard for nonsharers

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inspired by someone saying selfshipping is unethical

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imagine this scenario with you and your grumpy f/o:

*f/o and s/i are in a game of spin the bottle. s/i spins the bottle, and it lands on f/o.*

s/i: ooh, you’ve gotta kiss me now~

f/o: …this is stupid.

s/i: *leaning towards them, smirking* what, are you nervous?

f/o: no, i mean… why are we doing this? it’s literally just the two of us playing.

s/i: makes it that much more romantic, don’t you think?

f/o: …just get over here already.

proship dni

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Selfshippers or anyone with chronic anxiety, paranoia, any of the sort.

Dont panic, we're okay. Which may seem impossible right now but nothing will happen. I'm very glad you guys are staying alert but don't stress yourselves out. Please try and follow this stuff logically with me, don't start worrying until you see multiple sources and people talking about said horrible thing or anxiety inducing topic and it becomes a nation wide issue. Take a break from social media if you have to. Block tags and unfollow people that stress you out. It's okay, you have every right too.

Take a deep breath and lean against your f/o(s), they got you. Put on your headphones, block out any voices and worries you have. Go to church, say a prayer, meditate, seek religious guidance/comfort, book a closer therapy appointment, draw your selfships or write about it. I have a bunch for you to look for :3

anything that will make you feel better. It will be okay for you, as long as you let it be okay. Your f/o(s) will never think you're weak or stupid for having this many worries and this much anxiety.

Pro.ship, adjacent, neutrals dni. Do not bring negativity into the reblogs, this is for comfort. you will be blocked on sight.

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Literally

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🍂　A much needed reminder for fat self shippers that it is indeed okay to be fat and like food / eating !!

Your f/o will never try to force any unrequested eating habits on you. They won't shame you for how much you eat; they won't make snarky remarks or look at you despectively when eating; they won't comment negatively on your food choices.. !!

A meal you're obsessed with? They'll learn to make it just for you! And if they can't, they'll try to find a way to get you the best of its kind!

You like eating a lot of snacks and sweets? They know all your favorites and they love them as well! And if they don't like those kinds of foods? It doesn't matter; because they notice how your face immediately lights up after the first bite, and that's all that matters to them!

Always remember that a healthy relationship with food is one of the most important keys to self care! Don't let anyone shame you for it because your f/o is not ashamed to love you ♡

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Shoutout to all the selfshippers who suffer from chronic fatigue, seasonal depression, chronic pain, or any other disability or illness that makes it hard to maintain energy throughout the day.

Your F/O loves you regardless of how much you can or can't do in a day. Know they're always there to help you with any tasks that seem insurmountable, and they want to help you rest afterwards. They're proud of you. No matter what.

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So often we get caught up in social media, where others are so so mean and unkind, and that includes those of us who self ship.

If you're a bipoc selfshipper, I see you, and you're good enough.

If you're a trans, queer, lgbtq+ selfshipper, I see you, and you're good enough.

If you're a plus sized selfshipper, I see you, and you're good enough.

If you're a disabled selfshipper, I see you, and you're good enough.

If you're a mentally ill selfshipper, I see you, and you're good enough.

If you're an insecure or shame-ridden selfshipper, I see you, and you're good enough.

Please, never ever stop being you, especially not for the sake of others' cruelness and bigotry. You exist, you are beautiful, and that is not wrong. It is never wrong. And your f/o loves you, just as you are. I promise.

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f/o who won’t take your words of self deprication kindly because you’re speaking bad about the person most dear to them… them making little kind comments here and there about you, or taking even just a few minutes everyday to shower you in nothing but compliments in order to remind you that you’re absolutely loved— not just by them but the people around you

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◇Shoutout to selfshippers who wanna draw their f/o or self ship more but are afraid of drawing their f/o wrong/not good enough or just don't have the motivation to draw.

◇Also, shoutout to selfshippers who feel like this whenever they try to draw their f/o:

《PROSHIPPERS/ETC DNI!!! GO AWAY!!!》

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Hey, listen! Where you see imperfections and things you don’t like about yourself, your f/o just sees the all different qualities that make you uniquely you, and well… they love YOU! They wouldn’t change a damn thing about your lovable self, alright? .𖥔 ݁ ˖

(Pro/Comshippers + Neutrals fuck off! This post ain’t for you!)