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Undiagnosed ND culture is getting bullied in school and not knowing why/what they want from you.

Undiagnosed ND culture is also being bullied by someone you thought was being friendly.

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What Autistic People Want Our Friends to Know

Neurodivergent Lou

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As a black woman, I don’t understand why so many black women are still Christian nowadays.

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A comic about breakthroughs in dreams! 🏳️‍⚧️💪

(TW: Religious Trauma)

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I don’t know who needs to hear this today, but intrusive thoughts are basically your brain’s (sometimes very upsetting) way of saying “If there were two guys on the moon and one of them killed the other with a rock would that be fucked up or what?”

I’ve personally found that adding the “would that be fucked or what?” part in myself really helps put the more disturbing thoughts we sometimes get into perspective. Helps me say “yeah thar sure would be fucked up” and move on with my day.

It’s not a secret desire, it’s not something that only occurs to you because you’re a bad person. It’s just your brain deciding to process the fact that it knows an uncomfortable thing exists in the world by feeding it to you in an absurd “what if” with you as the main character.

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Fern Brady, Strong Female Character

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As an aroace I engage with romance and sex from a fantasy-level type of distance in the way that whenever I remember that people in real life actually want to touch each other's genitals I get the same wave of "hold the fuck up" that I would get if someone reminded me dragons exist.

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this might be a bit scattered and vague because bringing attention to dissociation makes me dissociate more and forget things and struggle to explain stuff lol, but... i feel like evangelicalism kinda teaches you dissociation as a baseline? especially if you're raised in it as a child?

like, arguably equating being human to being sinful, human nature and sin nature being interchangeable phrases for the same concept, convincing people that they need to be separate from sin if they are to be good and therefore need to be separate from being human, calling your wants, needs, emotions, thoughts, etc sinful and needing to repent for simply being human and having a human experience, that "existing in the flesh is not what god intended for us", that almost requires dissociation on some level

but there's also the dissociation from "the world" and "worldly things", from common phrases like "we're in the world not of it", believing that we are so separate and distinct from the world that we're called to "save it", to the belief that this life isn't our "real" life, our "real" life is the one we have with god in heaven

and all of that is just, par for the course, extremely normal beliefs to constantly be exposed to: your human self is not your "real" self, this world is not the "real" world. and that's without even getting into the way they use music, prayer, chanting, etc, to induce hypnotic states and other thought/emotion stopping tactics to disconnect you from your thoughts and emotions if you start feeling or thinking the """wrong""" things

and like, i didn't realize until after i left and long into my mental health journey that my default is dissociation. i thought it was normal to just exist like this because i didn't really have anything to compare it to, especially because i was taught that worldly people were the ones running on autopilot and disconnected to their thoughts, actions, emotions, etc

i just... wonder how common it is, and how many people don't even realize it

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black aro culture is seeing white men say they love black women only for their idea of a black women to be a “baddie.” You don’t love black women you just love the stereotype.

and tbh I love everyone despite their skin color 😭🙏

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Psst hey. Straight asexuals, you’re valid and you fucking rock

Pssst psst, straight aromantics, you’re valid and really fucking awesome

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I think there’s way too much emphasis on coming out.

My best friend since I was 4 doesn’t know I’m gender queer. She roughly knows I’m aroace (or at least; completely uninterested in dating at all ever possibly also a lesbian) she wouldn’t care if I was, I’m not scared to tell her, I just don’t see the point.

Some of my best friends think I’m bisexual, or just not interested.

Most people think I’m cis

Is it a little annoying to be thought of as “straight” or “bisexual”? Sure. But I’m not breaking down over it personally

Is it a little annoying to be only referred to as she/her? Sure. But I’m so masc looking in clothing and “speech” (apparently) that it balances.

If someone asks I’ll probably tell them.

I had so much pressure on me when I was in high school to come out as XYZ. And it’s bullshit.

I just think this “you have to come out” shit needs to die. I’m just out here vibing and being myself. It’s the best thing ever.

I’m here and I’m queer, I personally don’t feel the need to shout about my identity. I exist, my identity exists and will always exist. My existence is proof of my identity enough.

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I feel that sometimes, as a community, we focus on the "little" part of the definition and forget that the "no" also exists

So, this pride month, I want to give a special shout out to my fellow adverse/repulsed arospecs and aspecs

Shoutout to all acespecs who experience no sexual attraction

Shoutout to all acespecs who don't want to have sex

Shoutout to all arospecs who experience no romantic attraction

Shoutout to all arospecs who don't want romantic relationships

Shoutout to all aroaces who experience no romantic or sexual attraction

Shoutout to all aroaces who don't want romantic or sexual relationships

Shoutout to all aspecs who don't want a relationship of any kind be it romantic, sexual or platonic

Your experience and your identity are not just some harmful stereotype, and you belong in aspec spaces just as much as everyone else.

Signed,

A sex and romance adverse aroace 💜🖤🩶🤍💚

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You know your own experiences, you know how you feel internally. Nobody else knows these things better than you do.

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undiagnosed nd culture is feeling like everything about the way the world interacts with you is inherently violent in the subcontext because you function differently and can't prove that there's a reason for that.

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Black Ace Culture is when you're in church and the pastor says it's nature that you lust for opposite sex even if you prayed and claimed be saved from desires that you won't be tempted from. You hear everyone agreein' and cheerin' and I'm just up here like:

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So uh- Pastor- bout that---

Lmaooooo. Being a Black ace in the church was something else-