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[vildsen09-blog]

Threads~~~

Do you believe in fate, destiny, serendipitous meetings, butterfly feelings, zing, spark or whatever they call it? You know I never believed in any of them.

Ever since I was a kid, my Mom and Dad have told me. When I am old enough, to take my time when it comes to dating because when the right one comes, you’ll know, you’ll feel it. Not to rush things. They’ve fed me all that crap ever since.

I believed on threads of fate though. You know the red threads that gets depicted on movies that connects two people no matter how far they are from around the world. Yes those threads..

Okay now, this might not seem interesting but it is, once you keep on reading dummy(wink).

I think were born with the threads or we get it the same time our better half is born as well. Neither one of us knows how it works, nor how one can see those threads and who they are destined to be with for the rest of their lives, no one knows.

There might be a chance that you’ve already crossed paths with them but neither one of you knew that you guys were meant for each other. Because that’s how it was meant to be, divine beings and gods made it that way so who are we to complain right?

Destiny. What is it with this word? A lot of people get giddy when they hear this from couples who said they were meant or destined for each other.

Stop and think for a second because, destiny is associated with alot of things aside from love, like death for an instance. Yep, death. Morbid as it sounds, if it is your destiny to die right at this very moment, you’ll die because it is already written.

That same goes with love actually, if you guys were destined to be with each other? It doesn’t matter if you have broken up or have been separated for months or years. There will come a time when destiny will work it’s magic and connect the two of you over and over again.

If you don’t give up easily like me, then why not grab that opportunity, make a path, build a bridge, swim, heck fly a thousand miles if you have to just to connect with the one you love. Remember that if you can cheat death, then you can probably cheat your destiny too.

Serendipity. It all goes within the choices that you have made or about to make. You might have already found the one but then in a twist of fate, they suddenly give up on you or they never felt the connection between the two of you in the first place.

If you feel that you just had a serendipitous moment then go for it, because the last thing that you’d want is to lose your someone in a sea full of fishes then lose them forever, and end up with the wrong one.

Spark. This is actually one of the most common things that we have all experienced. That spark that we feel whenever a person that we just met literally rocked our world in an instant.

It’s unfathomable, awkward, gives you anxiety even if you don’t have one. Makes you sweat like a guy who’s been in the gym for a couple of hours, that kind of feeling.

I got to tell you, this is where we make our first mistake. The assuming stage. Okay so you see her/him, but then you and only you were thinking that there was a spark right when your eyes met, that’s totally one sided. Stupid.

Whatever you feel, that could be something else like infatuation. Not unless if the eye contact goes on and off for hours. Then and only then that you can assure yourself that you’ve found someone who fancies you.

Love is unpredictable, it’s lethal in an emotional kind of way when you get the wrong side of the coin.

It doesn’t matter. Plan or no plan, we are just humans and it’s only natural for us not to follow the plan that has been set for us sometimes. It’s what you call the will to make your own choice or freedom to decide. I’m talking about you guys, yep you who can’t make up their minds when it comes to you know, making up their minds.

Stupidity. This is the worst stage that I have ever come acrossed. You do stupid shit when they are around, you get clumsy right? You’re not yourself and you don’t even know what you’re doing around them. You make a fool out of yourself subconsciously and yeah I’m actually kinda guilty of that.

You know they always said that, you should use your head instead of your heart. That’s total crap. Believe me when I say this, your head doesn’t have a say when your heart has already settled on something or someone. No say at all. We literally become stupid on another level.

Butterfly. I totally love this. This is when you get nervous on your first date, or if your getting ready to fess up then have to wait for the answer. Or did something wrong and your just waiting what’ll happen next. I fucking love it.

Adrenaline junkies probably have this alot before they do something stupid. The sad part is, it does go away after some time and it won’t feel the same way as the first next time that it happens.

Memories. We all build this from ground up. Strong relationships have bad and good memories because couples that have stayed together probably grew up together collecting both and have made a foundation out it.

This is one of the reasons why it’s hard to break up as well because of the memories or now you might call it the history between the two of you. I’ve had a seven year relationship and I gotta tell you, breaking up with someone you’ve been with for that long is hard and it leaves a big dent on who you are.

Okay this is about my seven year ex girlfriend. We’ve had arguments before but being in a long distance relationship for a couple of years has taken it’s toll on us.

Small arguments escalated to hours of unnerving, senseless, heated discussions. Small things became subjects for arguments and that went on every night for almost two years.

One day when things got pretty ugly between us, I asked God to give me a sign because I knew we’re both hurting and we can’t go on any longer. The day after that? I got a sign from him and went on with his plan.

It was one of the saddest day of my life for I had to let go of someone I’ve loved for a long time, but that’s how the game goes ya’ know? You win some, you lose some. It’s a fucking circus if you ask me, and if you don’t know how to play it? You’ll lose a lot.

Lust. Have you ever thought or asked yourself, if what you’re feeling is love or just lust? There’s a fine line between the two. You might feel lust for now, but after some time it might develop into love.

A lot of relationships start with lust. One night stands may be as well the most unethical foundation of relationships today if you ask me.

I remember a friend who told me that it doesn’t matter if a guy is good, have class, respectful. Because at the end of the day, the first thing that you’ll notice about a person is their face, then you’ll just have to find out what or who they really are afterwards.

That’s how you get into those infamous one night stands, smh..

Tango. You can learn to love someone and that’s the basic principle of it.

Don’t like someone who likes you? Ask yourself again, why? Why not give them a chance, you’ll never find out if you’re gon be happy with them or not if you don’t even try. If you’re just gonna go with your preferences everytime someone gives their heart and asks for yours, then chances are you’ve already shoved away 70% of your candidates. The remaining 30%? Either they’re gon love you or break you. Do the math dude.

Take a chance, risk it all, because if all else fails and it doesn’t work out? Then stop. Don’t be afraid to try, because the saddest part of not trying is regretting it at the end. If you tried, then you can tell yourself, I atleast danced together with them.

Denial. Is an ugly thing. I just quoted Jim Carrey in Ace Ventura. This is probably were all of us have our hopes up or down. Not everyone have the courage to confess their feelings, and it takes a lot of guts to do it.

If someone that likes you confessed their feelings for you, then tell them what you’re feeling right away. Otherwise that poor soul might assume that you’re on the same page.

So if you feel the same way? Then tell them the truth damn it, don’t deny your feelings, they’ve told you the truth and it’s common courtesy to do the same.

Forever. This one. How should I say it. It’s almost not possible anymore, because nowadays it is all about who gets the hot one or the rich and the famous one kind of game. The only time you’ll be together forever is if you have a stable life, career and especially stable income and that is the stereotypical norm of our dating society nowadays.

If you were born before Y2K you’ll probably be confused on how courting and dating works today. It’s a one way street, and if your not careful, you could end up the wrong way or worse, in a ditch. If the word forever couldn’t keep up with today’s generation then how can you?

The point I’m making is, you don’t have to believe in any of them. Well for your fantasyland atleast, but in reality? You need to work hard to get what you want and what you need.

Before coming to CA, I knew that it would mean that I’m gon be living a new life, meet new people, experience different culture, etc. That’s exactly what happened, and in an unexpected side story, I found the one. I could’ve told her that the Lord told me to fly a thousand miles to meet you. It wasn’t that simple.

Everything was going well, thought we were on the same page because of what she has been showing me but when I confessed my feelings for her, she backed off. So I just thought to myself, she’s probably not the one. Just to numb down the disappointment and hurting that I was feeling.

I would’ve given her all of me. My heart, my lifetime, my soul… All of it, but she choose to hurt me(Hi Popoy!).

Well who knows, maybe she’s still out there, I don’t know how much longer do I need to wait but as for now, I’m meeting other people to widen my circle, and she could be inside that circle this time.

We might be able to break our thread and create a new one with the one that we have right now. It doesn’t make sense but when you feel that the person you’re in love with makes you feel all those that I’ve mentioned above? Then keep them, never let your desire for destiny hinder you this time, it’s as simple as that.

Follow your heart, don’t give in to your preferences or your fantasies and be open. Believe me, you’ll be happier when you do.

-VJF

[vildsen09-blog]

Threads~~~

Do you believe in fate, destiny, serendipitous meetings, butterfly feelings, zing, spark or whatever they call it? You know I never believed in any of them.

Ever since I was a kid, my Mom and Dad have told me. When I am old enough, to take my time when it comes to dating because when the right one comes, you’ll know, you’ll feel it. Not to rush things. They’ve fed me all that crap ever since.

I believed on threads of fate though. You know the red threads that gets depicted on movies that connects two people no matter how far they are from around the world. Yes those threads..

Okay now, this might not seem interesting but it is, once you keep on reading dummy(wink).

I think were born with the threads or we get it the same time our better half is born as well. Neither one of us knows how it works, nor how one can see those threads and who they are destined to be with for the rest of their lives, no one knows.

There might be a chance that you’ve already crossed paths with them but neither one of you knew that you guys were meant for each other. Because that’s how it was meant to be, divine beings and gods made it that way so who are we to complain right?

Destiny. What is it with this word? A lot of people get giddy when they hear this from couples who said they were meant or destined for each other.

Stop and think for a second because, destiny is associated with alot of things aside from love, like death for an instance. Yep, death. Morbid as it sounds, if it is your destiny to die right at this very moment, you’ll die because it is already written.

That same goes with love actually, if you guys were destined to be with each other? It doesn’t matter if you have broken up or have been separated for months or years. There will come a time when destiny will work it’s magic and connect the two of you over and over again.

If you don’t give up easily like me, then why not grab that opportunity, make a path, build a bridge, swim, heck fly a thousand miles if you have to just to connect with the one you love. Remember that if you can cheat death, then you can probably cheat your destiny too.

Serendipity. It all goes within the choices that you have made or about to make. You might have already found the one but then in a twist of fate, they suddenly give up on you or they never felt the connection between the two of you in the first place.

If you feel that you just had a serendipitous moment then go for it, because the last thing that you’d want is to lose your someone in a sea full of fishes then lose them forever, and end up with the wrong one.

Spark. This is actually one of the most common things that we have all experienced. That spark that we feel whenever a person that we just met literally rocked our world in an instant.

It’s unfathomable, awkward, gives you anxiety even if you don’t have one. Makes you sweat like a guy who’s been in the gym for a couple of hours, that kind of feeling.

I got to tell you, this is where we make our first mistake. The assuming stage. Okay so you see her/him, but then you and only you were thinking that there was a spark right when your eyes met, that’s totally one sided. Stupid.

Whatever you feel, that could be something else like infatuation. Not unless if the eye contact goes on and off for hours. Then and only then that you can assure yourself that you’ve found someone who fancies you.

Love is unpredictable, it’s lethal in an emotional kind of way when you get the wrong side of the coin.

It doesn’t matter. Plan or no plan, we are just humans and it’s only natural for us not to follow the plan that has been set for us sometimes. It’s what you call the will to make your own choice or freedom to decide. I’m talking about you guys, yep you who can’t make up their minds when it comes to you know, making up their minds.

Stupidity. This is the worst stage that I have ever come acrossed. You do stupid shit when they are around, you get clumsy right? You’re not yourself and you don’t even know what you’re doing around them. You make a fool out of yourself subconsciously and yeah I’m actually kinda guilty of that.

You know they always said that, you should use your head instead of your heart. That’s total crap. Believe me when I say this, your head doesn’t have a say when your heart has already settled on something or someone. No say at all. We literally become stupid on another level.

Butterfly. I totally love this. This is when you get nervous on your first date, or if your getting ready to fess up then have to wait for the answer. Or did something wrong and your just waiting what’ll happen next. I fucking love it.

Adrenaline junkies probably have this alot before they do something stupid. The sad part is, it does go away after some time and it won’t feel the same way as the first next time that it happens.

Memories. We all build this from ground up. Strong relationships have bad and good memories because couples that have stayed together probably grew up together collecting both and have made a foundation out it.

This is one of the reasons why it’s hard to break up as well because of the memories or now you might call it the history between the two of you. I’ve had a seven year relationship and I gotta tell you, breaking up with someone you’ve been with for that long is hard and it leaves a big dent on who you are.

Okay this is about my seven year ex girlfriend. We’ve had arguments before but being in a long distance relationship for a couple of years has taken it’s toll on us.

Small arguments escalated to hours of unnerving, senseless, heated discussions. Small things became subjects for arguments and that went on every night for almost two years.

One day when things got pretty ugly between us, I asked God to give me a sign because I knew we’re both hurting and we can’t go on any longer. The day after that? I got a sign from him and went on with his plan.

It was one of the saddest day of my life for I had to let go of someone I’ve loved for a long time, but that’s how the game goes ya’ know? You win some, you lose some. It’s a fucking circus if you ask me, and if you don’t know how to play it? You’ll lose a lot.

Lust. Have you ever thought or asked yourself, if what you’re feeling is love or just lust? There’s a fine line between the two. You might feel lust for now, but after some time it might develop into love.

A lot of relationships start with lust. One night stands may be as well the most unethical foundation of relationships today if you ask me.

I remember a friend who told me that it doesn’t matter if a guy is good, have class, respectful. Because at the end of the day, the first thing that you’ll notice about a person is their face, then you’ll just have to find out what or who they really are afterwards.

That’s how you get into those infamous one night stands, smh..

Tango. You can learn to love someone and that’s the basic principle of it.

Don’t like someone who likes you? Ask yourself again, why? Why not give them a chance, you’ll never find out if you’re gon be happy with them or not if you don’t even try. If you’re just gonna go with your preferences everytime someone gives their heart and asks for yours, then chances are you’ve already shoved away 70% of your candidates. The remaining 30%? Either they’re gon love you or break you. Do the math dude.

Take a chance, risk it all, because if all else fails and it doesn’t work out? Then stop. Don’t be afraid to try, because the saddest part of not trying is regretting it at the end. If you tried, then you can tell yourself, I atleast danced together with them.

Denial. Is an ugly thing. I just quoted Jim Carrey in Ace Ventura. This is probably were all of us have our hopes up or down. Not everyone have the courage to confess their feelings, and it takes a lot of guts to do it.

If someone that likes you confessed their feelings for you, then tell them what you’re feeling right away. Otherwise that poor soul might assume that you’re on the same page.

So if you feel the same way? Then tell them the truth damn it, don’t deny your feelings, they’ve told you the truth and it’s common courtesy to do the same.

Forever. This one. How should I say it. It’s almost not possible anymore, because nowadays it is all about who gets the hot one or the rich and the famous one kind of game. The only time you’ll be together forever is if you have a stable life, career and especially stable income and that is the stereotypical norm of our dating society nowadays.

If you were born before Y2K you’ll probably be confused on how courting and dating works today. It’s a one way street, and if your not careful, you could end up the wrong way or worse, in a ditch. If the word forever couldn’t keep up with today’s generation then how can you?

The point I’m making is, you don’t have to believe in any of them. Well for your fantasyland atleast, but in reality? You need to work hard to get what you want and what you need.

Before coming to CA, I knew that it would mean that I’m gon be living a new life, meet new people, experience different culture, etc. That’s exactly what happened, and in an unexpected side story, I found the one. I could’ve told her that the Lord told me to fly a thousand miles to meet you. It wasn’t that simple.

Everything was going well, thought we were on the same page because of what she has been showing me but when I confessed my feelings for her, she backed off. So I just thought to myself, she’s probably not the one. Just to numb down the disappointment and hurting that I was feeling.

I would’ve given her all of me. My heart, my lifetime, my soul… All of it, but she choose to hurt me(Hi Popoy!).

Well who knows, maybe she’s still out there, I don’t know how much longer do I need to wait but as for now, I’m meeting other people to widen my circle, and she could be inside that circle this time.

We might be able to break our thread and create a new one with the one that we have right now. It doesn’t make sense but when you feel that the person you’re in love with makes you feel all those that I’ve mentioned above? Then keep them, never let your desire for destiny hinder you this time, it’s as simple as that.

Follow your heart, don’t give in to your preferences or your fantasies and be open. Believe me, you’ll be happier when you do.

-VJF

[vildsen09-blog]

Threads~~~

Do you believe in fate, destiny, serendipitous meetings, butterfly feelings, zing, spark or whatever they call it? You know I never believed in any of them.

Ever since I was a kid, my Mom and Dad have told me. When I am old enough, to take my time when it comes to dating because when the right one comes, you'll know, you'll feel it. Not to rush things. They've fed me all that crap ever since.

I believed on threads of fate though. You know the red threads that gets depicted on movies that connects two people no matter how far they are from around the world. Yes those threads..

Okay now, this might not seem interesting but it is, once you keep on reading dummy(wink).

I think were born with the threads or we get it the same time our better half is born as well. Neither one of us knows how it works, nor how one can see those threads and who they are destined to be with for the rest of their lives, no one knows.

There might be a chance that you've already crossed paths with them but neither one of you knew that you guys were meant for each other. Because that's how it was meant to be, divine beings and gods made it that way so who are we to complain right?

Destiny. What is it with this word? A lot of people get giddy when they hear this from couples who said they were meant or destined for each other.

Stop and think for a second because, destiny is associated with alot of things aside from love, like death for an instance. Yep, death. Morbid as it sounds, if it is your destiny to die right at this very moment, you'll die because it is already written.

That same goes with love actually, if you guys were destined to be with each other? It doesn't matter if you have broken up or have been separated for months or years. There will come a time when destiny will work it's magic and connect the two of you over and over again.

If you don't give up easily like me, then why not grab that opportunity, make a path, build a bridge, swim, heck fly a thousand miles if you have to just to connect with the one you love. Remember that if you can cheat death, then you can probably cheat your destiny too.

Serendipity. It all goes within the choices that you have made or about to make. You might have already found the one but then in a twist of fate, they suddenly give up on you or they never felt the connection between the two of you in the first place.

If you feel that you just had a serendipitous moment then go for it, because the last thing that you'd want is to lose your someone in a sea full of fishes then lose them forever, and end up with the wrong one.

Spark. This is actually one of the most common things that we have all experienced. That spark that we feel whenever a person that we just met literally rocked our world in an instant.

It's unfathomable, awkward, gives you anxiety even if you don't have one. Makes you sweat like a guy who's been in the gym for a couple of hours, that kind of feeling.

I got to tell you, this is where we make our first mistake. The assuming stage. Okay so you see her/him, but then you and only you were thinking that there was a spark right when your eyes met, that's totally one sided. Stupid.

Whatever you feel, that could be something else like infatuation. Not unless if the eye contact goes on and off for hours. Then and only then that you can assure yourself that you've found someone who fancies you.

Love is unpredictable, it's lethal in an emotional kind of way when you get the wrong side of the coin.

It doesn't matter. Plan or no plan, we are just humans and it's only natural for us not to follow the plan that has been set for us sometimes. It's what you call the will to make your own choice or freedom to decide. I'm talking about you guys, yep you who can't make up their minds when it comes to you know, making up their minds.

Stupidity. This is the worst stage that I have ever come acrossed. You do stupid shit when they are around, you get clumsy right? You're not yourself and you don't even know what you're doing around them. You make a fool out of yourself subconsciously and yeah I'm actually kinda guilty of that.

You know they always said that, you should use your head instead of your heart. That's total crap. Believe me when I say this, your head doesn't have a say when your heart has already settled on something or someone. No say at all. We literally become stupid on another level.

Butterfly. I totally love this. This is when you get nervous on your first date, or if your getting ready to fess up then have to wait for the answer. Or did something wrong and your just waiting what'll happen next. I fucking love it.

Adrenaline junkies probably have this alot before they do something stupid. The sad part is, it does go away after some time and it won't feel the same way as the first next time that it happens.

Memories. We all build this from ground up. Strong relationships have bad and good memories because couples that have stayed together probably grew up together collecting both and have made a foundation out it.

This is one of the reasons why it's hard to break up as well because of the memories or now you might call it the history between the two of you. I've had a seven year relationship and I gotta tell you, breaking up with someone you've been with for that long is hard and it leaves a big dent on who you are.

Okay this is about my seven year ex girlfriend. We've had arguments before but being in a long distance relationship for a couple of years has taken it's toll on us.

Small arguments escalated to hours of unnerving, senseless, heated discussions. Small things became subjects for arguments and that went on every night for almost two years.

One day when things got pretty ugly between us, I asked God to give me a sign because I knew we're both hurting and we can't go on any longer. The day after that? I got a sign from him and went on with his plan.

It was one of the saddest day of my life for I had to let go of someone I've loved for a long time, but that's how the game goes ya' know? You win some, you lose some. It's a fucking circus if you ask me, and if you don't know how to play it? You'll lose a lot.

Lust. Have you ever thought or asked yourself, if what you're feeling is love or just lust? There's a fine line between the two. You might feel lust for now, but after some time it might develop into love.

A lot of relationships start with lust. One night stands may be as well the most unethical foundation of relationships today if you ask me.

I remember a friend who told me that it doesn't matter if a guy is good, have class, respectful. Because at the end of the day, the first thing that you'll notice about a person is their face, then you'll just have to find out what or who they really are afterwards.

That's how you get into those infamous one night stands, smh..

Tango. You can learn to love someone and that's the basic principle of it.

Don't like someone who likes you? Ask yourself again, why? Why not give them a chance, you'll never find out if you're gon be happy with them or not if you don't even try. If you're just gonna go with your preferences everytime someone gives their heart and asks for yours, then chances are you've already shoved away 70% of your candidates. The remaining 30%? Either they're gon love you or break you. Do the math dude.

Take a chance, risk it all, because if all else fails and it doesn't work out? Then stop. Don't be afraid to try, because the saddest part of not trying is regretting it at the end. If you tried, then you can tell yourself, I atleast danced together with them.

Denial. Is an ugly thing. I just quoted Jim Carrey in Ace Ventura. This is probably were all of us have our hopes up or down. Not everyone have the courage to confess their feelings, and it takes a lot of guts to do it.

If someone that likes you confessed their feelings for you, then tell them what you're feeling right away. Otherwise that poor soul might assume that you're on the same page.

So if you feel the same way? Then tell them the truth damn it, don't deny your feelings, they've told you the truth and it's common courtesy to do the same.

Forever. This one. How should I say it. It's almost not possible anymore, because nowadays it is all about who gets the hot one or the rich and the famous one kind of game. The only time you'll be together forever is if you have a stable life, career and especially stable income and that is the stereotypical norm of our dating society nowadays.

If you were born before Y2K you'll probably be confused on how courting and dating works today. It's a one way street, and if your not careful, you could end up the wrong way or worse, in a ditch. If the word forever couldn't keep up with today's generation then how can you?

The point I'm making is, you don't have to believe in any of them. Well for your fantasyland atleast, but in reality? You need to work hard to get what you want and what you need.

Before coming to CA, I knew that it would mean that I'm gon be living a new life, meet new people, experience different culture, etc. That's exactly what happened, and in an unexpected side story, I found the one. I could've told her that the Lord told me to fly a thousand miles to meet you. It wasn't that simple.

Everything was going well, thought we were on the same page because of what she has been showing me but when I confessed my feelings for her, she backed off. So I just thought to myself, she's probably not the one. Just to numb down the disappointment and hurting that I was feeling.

I would've given her all of me. My heart, my lifetime, my soul... All of it, but she choose to hurt me(Hi Popoy!).

Well who knows, maybe she's still out there, I don't know how much longer do I need to wait but as for now, I'm meeting other people to widen my circle, and she could be inside that circle this time.

We might be able to break our thread and create a new one with the one that we have right now. It doesn't make sense but when you feel that the person you're in love with makes you feel all those that I've mentioned above? Then keep them, never let your desire for destiny hinder you this time, it's as simple as that.

Follow your heart, don't give in to your preferences or your fantasies and be open. Believe me, you'll be happier when you do.

-VJF