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There is always reason to hope

20250602 Afternoon NYC

🫶💝🤍

I love you in the name of our Lord, Jesus Christ.

Like plenty and absolutely.

He gives me strength and knowledge that empowers me for when you need it.

To be there for you.

Your faith surely saves you.

There's always reason to hope.

And, here, your charity is welcomed and appreciated and valued and celebrated.

My sweet love, I praise the Lord for blessing you and keeping you.

I pray and am having more hope that I will recieve the grace to be with you always, to comfort and protect and encourage you and celebrate with you.

❤️

Tq

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I used to give my loyalty impatiently

20250530 Afternoon-Evening NYC

I would give my loyalty to men who didn't have the intentions I was so ready to give my loyalty for.

It's ridiculous to think I gave my loyalty to any man other than the one with the intentions I was looking for, but I didn't have the patience to find that out beforehand.

Any other man is not worth my loyalty even a smidge. They can get their loyalty from some other woman and nothing is stopping them.

My loyalty is reserved for one particular man who is my future husband and him alone. Everyone has that in their spouse, that's God's gift to us called to marriage.

Jesus is working on me for sure now that I realized how impatiently I was giving it away.

He is helping me grow my loyalty to God and through that also helping me to reject any loyalty I had to souls he never meant for me to be loyal to at that capacity.

Finally, I can be free of those immature and foolish connections made. Finally I can express my love for marriage free of it's association with anyone that God did not mean for me to marry.

Finally, because the Lord heard my call to him and He answered and is here with me through it as I am building the skill.

Thankful that He believes in me and I believe in Him and we can get me back to a place of loyalty to my one and true husband for marriage.

Amen.

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God bless the women that bought you all into this world

with the help and grace of our God and each person He put to support her.

May they be happy, healthy, and full of faith, hope, and charity. 🤍

May their trespasses be forgiven and their trespassors forgiven, that they may receive His blessings in full.

And to women and girls everywhere, that they have joy in God, with God's plan in their lives, and love in their hearts.

In Jesus' name, Amen. 🙏

Thank God for all His provision in the lives of mothers and women and girls everywhere today and in the lives of sons and daughters. May we reach out to those in need in Jesus' name and share His light, love, and truth. Amen.

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There's no guarantee there's a man coming in my life with the ability to love and protect the woman that I am

20250416 Morning NYC

None. But I love enough to wait faithfully, putting my sorrows in the Lord's hands, and feeling the joy of the Lord in the in between moments. I'm trusting God, trusting that loving him means something to myself and my loved ones. Trusting Him before trusting a man too. And I have faith He will bless me with a trustworthy man who will not hinder the blessings God has for us but bring them into existence with joy and peace.

Bless you

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Jesus guide me 🐑

20250410 Morning NYC

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Believing in Marriage

20250408 Morning NYC

I grew up looking forward to marriage. Not in the way some people do where they look into dresses for their ceremony though.

I looked forward to the gift from God of someone that I had that husband-wife connection with who would respectfully propose to me and make it come into fruition.

No man I was in a relationship with when I started dating had gotten married around the time we dated besides one. And from what I've heard, they for sure weren't going to save themselves for their wife.

What does a young woman do with that. I'll tell you what I did.

I dated another guy thinking well something's wrong with the other one cause he asked for sex before asking for my hand in marriage.

I was young, I didn't know this was not the dating world I belonged to, that I wandered into a dating scene that wasn't mine, that I would never find a guy who would propose like that there, that no one instructed them to propose this way.

As a young naive woman, I gave too many chances and in that process got less disciplined spiritually when I was doing so. I was waiting for the question to be popped that never came, and my relationship with God needed direction.

At some point, I was, myself, becoming open to the idea of not waiting for marriage. But after it caused me to stray from the life God had for me I knew I needed to promise to live as God wanted for me and I snapped out of the not waiting for marriage mentality.

I still didn't have a place to go, outside of that dating scene, to be around people who were commited to the life God calls us to, so I was in a plateau, neither fornicating nor growing spiritually.

I wallowed when, during this time, I was still young and directionless. But I put pure goals on my mind, humble ones. I stood on what the Lord directly told me was the life that I would give God glory through.

The enemy was working overtime to prevent the generational blessing God gives. I was stumbling on my path a lot with what the enemy was stirring up but I had to allow that to make me stronger and increase in me faith that I could be strong enough and be around strong others too.

I didn't yet back then, and in a moment of stagnancy, I made a move and opened up to dating again but in a way that I now believe gets a woman of God, like myself, no closer to finding her husband. It actually just reopened lust again.

After no success, sure enough, I opened to backsliding romantically, in the way that, I built up this idea of marrying a guy I liked before in the past.

It was the worst decision because, not only was he not waiting for marriage like the other guys I dated in the past too (so no progression there) even though we only ever tap kissed (once) up to that point and was innocent on the surface, but it also seemed that he grew to hate women, and probably hated me for all those years since we last spoke until the present moment then.

[Prayers for all the men that grow to hate women and all the women who grow to hate men, by the way. May God fearing people be welcomed in their life, to give example of kindness and respect and also to admonish where the patterns they learned from the world are bringing them further from the healing God wants for them. Amen.]

And that was awful for me especially because I already didn't fit in with my immediate family who, by majority, was not interested in marriage then and hated every holy dating thing I stood for- who was already plotting my downfall and sabotaging me out of their own dissatisfaction that, if you ask me, was probably the same dissatisfaction we all get not following God's way as Christians and not unique to mankind and something I felt to a degree too.

I was already bearing that from family (who were my only connections having left friends who I didnt relate to anymore), so to have my partner bring me the same energy my family gave me and my enemys give (which I thought he was sent to me to free me from!) was the ultimate "this was a conterfeit" flag I could ever get.

But I hustled backwards and had faith for the relationship to turn around instead of for God to deliver me the real one.

Besides that relationship not helping me overcome the oppression I was under, it enabled the lust I was already struggling with again, and it was never intending to go towards marriage no matter how much I was rooting for marriage on my own.

So fast forward to the present day, I can say, as a believer in marriage, I need to date men who are believers in marriage too. I even need to make friends over our belief in marriage. I say that too because it's a totally different way of viewing life when you believe in marriage than when you don't. And it's not fair to either person on opposing sides of the belief in marriage to be subject to walking with someone who is not on the same page with them on something so central to our life perspective.

I find it's not common to believe in marriage in the spaces I wandered into, and its especially not common to believe in waiting/re-waiting for marriage. It's even more rare to wait for marriage for Christ, and even more rare to do so also living in a way pleasing to God.

I don't know how I got here in these spaces (well, likely it was my sin duh) but I hope that while I am here (as I am moving to new spaces that I belong to more) I can practice my skills of being in company that is very different from me. Like how to give them the same thought that I would like (although it's not appropriate to mandate) from others, in how I say things, and in what topics I speak on while we are sharing space until we obviously part. And how to be okay with them leaving discussions with me and how to be okay myself, leaving discussions with them.

It's okay. It's a part of respecting ourselves and our values.

We might even get to saying a cuss word and that's fair to be honest. The rebuking of what is not for us, of what we dont consent to discussing, is fair. I think if all people could give and recieve that in equal measures we would have healthier attachments to people, or maybe rather, healthier "detachments" from people.

Like, if you say f*ck you or give the middle finger and leave a discussion that's inappropriate or offensive to you, plus you can acknowledge its a challenge in general to share space with someone so different from you, then you can also be okay and understand they have that right too and are suseptable to feeling the those pressures too from the things you say. Just don't weaponize this and manipulate situations to your benefit and their loss. Yet, dont delay to use that right yourself when youre no longer at peace with them in this space, because that wouldnt be healthy either.

The efforts should not be towards manipulating to get your own goals, but to giving thought and consideration to the other and yourself with the goal of having peace while in a shared space hoping for it to be as long as is possible.

It just never needs to go further than that before parting ways, and should never.

And if nothing is set up to where yall can have yalls own space, within that space, away from one another, thats poor planning by the way, and needs to be worked out for God's sake.

I digressed but yea, if anyone needs a space where they can be themselves in peace, believing in marriage and waiting for marriage, this is that here. And hopefully we can help one another grow the tools needed for thoughtful conversation with people with differing beliefs for God's sake, peace and friendship. And even help one another navigate a question about why we believe what we do, in a thoughtful way yet again.

As you can see from my testimony, holding this belief doesn't guarantee a straight forward path but means we are working towards it with what we know, as best we can. And with faith, we can learn from mistakes and improve in this area we have a lot of care for.

Blessings.

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Praising with Jesus until I'm praising Him with friends, family, and a future husband too

20250407 Morning NYC

I just imagine my spirit rejoicing in God and, over time, it finding its way to a friend's spirit, rejoicing in God too and finding its way to mine as well 😄🤍🙏

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The kingdom is still winning 🏰🤍💂‍♂️💂‍♀️💖

20250406 Afternoon-Evening NYC

It makes me happy to think my ex is out somewhere defending the kingdom and I'm out here doing the same. I choose to have faith that he is not still in the same sin he was before, I myself have grown.

God is still getting the glory and how can I be mad about that, I love our God. If God wins in the breakup, we win. "God is not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance." He tore the relationship down but built a firmer faith in its place, nothing good was lost, only increased. 💘💝.

I recommend yall to embrace celibacy, it's freeing. I feel peace not having anxiousness to get married but relishing in being faithfully single for God and the kingdom. I feel peace not creating spiritual bonds with those who my attraction to them was stronger than my commitment to God and the kingdom.

I feel peace with an attraction, steming from something other than the superficial, leading to a Christ-centered relationship of a non-romantic kind, and/or at least some growth in one another in the faith.

God has given me a gratitude towards what I had in the past, where even if people changed on me, I take the good times as holy gifts from God which the bad times cannot overcome.

It helps to not be around those seeking a romantic companion more than the kingdom-with or without a romantic companion. But of course, there's a lot more to sustaining celibacy- mainly a close relationship with Jesus and firm resolve to this commitment.

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When He answers your prayers

20250328 Night NYC

Reminder to rejoice and rebuke bitterness; you can persevere.

Your prayers will be answered and when they are answered, you want to enjoy that you rejoiced, that you kept faith, that you prayed instead of becoming bitter, that you blessed others and prayed for them.

In a way, I believe this does remove unnecessary hurdles to receiving your blessings and I can say from experience, it even feels better to choose faith in times of struggle, even in seasons of struggle.

When you do this and you also read the word, and fellowship even too, growth happens.

When your prayers are finally answered, it was hard-won and you were made stronger all the while for a greater purpose too.

Bless you! Peace be with you.

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Sainthood is just a result of my loving Him if I ever achieve sainthood

20250328 Afternoon NYC

If God's will for us all is to become saints in this life we live here,

And if I keep loving God as much as I know is possible when recieving from Him all the love He gives,

Sainthood just seems like the inevitable result.

When we can learn to receive from Him well and give abundantly, a beautiful exchange is happening from God through His willing vessels, for the purpose of us knowing Him on Earth, and having all people know, or at least experience, His love despite their trespasses, since He is so merciful.

I pray all dark strongholds are overcome and that His pure love becomes known to many more who are in need. In Jesus' name, Amen.

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You can't let anyone tell you who you are, not even your mother, not even your father, not any relative, former classmate, etc, when you are walking with Christ

20250328 Morning NYC

God didn't put the message and the vision in them, He put it in you!

Don't go to humans to confirm what life God Himself spoke into you.

Don't do it, I promise you it will delay your blessings and His abundant will for your beautiful loving life.

Love you

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It’s never too soon to refine your circle

20250327 Morning NYC

The Holy Bible speaks on choosing your friends wisely and, often times, I never did.

Now that I accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord and savior, a lot of my erroneous ways will prayerfully fade, praise the Lord.

A quick search for some verses in the Holy Bible on this pulls this up:

Here's a more detailed look at biblical guidance on friendship:

Proverbs 12:26: "The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray".  Proverbs 13:20: "Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm".  Proverbs 22:24-25: "Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared".  1 Corinthians 15:33: "Do not be misled: 'Bad company corrupts good character.'"  Proverbs 18:24: "A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother".  Proverbs 17:17: "A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity."  Proverbs 19:4: "Wealth brings many new friends, but a poor man is deserted by his friend."  Proverbs 19:6: "Many seek the favor of a ruler, but it is from a person that a man gets a friend."  Proverbs 27:9: "Like a fragrant perfume, a true friend is a source of joy and comfort."  Proverbs 16:28: "A person of good character is a friend to all, but a person of bad character is a source of trouble." 

One of the most spiritually challenging things I had to face involved people forcefully making their way into my life or people forcefully making their way into damaging my life.

It’s wisdom to know one’s circle is to be protected and preserved just as anything else precious and sacred is. And it’s also wisdom and truth to know your circle of friends is rightfully owned and dictated by yourself and no one else despite the need of some for power and control in your life.

Watching this dating series on YouTube, I was fond of their introduction format:

Name, age, occupation, what the person likes to do for fun, what they look for in a man, and their dealbreakers in a man.

I have had so many toxic examples of dating interactions in my personal life due to a culture void of healthy values and practices at a deep and foundational level in dating. This format was a breath of fresh air.

As it pertains to friendship, I think it can be adjusted to fit a decent template for oneself to write out a vision, keeping Christ in mind, for their best self and their best circle in this time of growth in relationship with Christ.

How often do we compromise on things like dealbreakers is a great indicator of how much we should seek God in those areas or praise God for the strength to stick to the dealbreakers alternatively.

How clear we are of what we are looking for in our circle can also be facilitated by seeking God until we reach a vision that fits what we’ve been taught to heed in all love and wisdom.

One’s circle of friends is so important and personal, even like your relationship with your spouse would be and like your relationship with God himself has always been, for He is in all these areas, so allow this time with all thoughtfulness and care, and avoid distractions and brush off lies.

This is yours. This is for you.

I pray you all a great day, love, patience, and blessings.

You are so beautiful and you deserve to receive the abundance God has for you through Christ without hinderance.

Love

Good day.

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Outer Appearance

20250326 Evening NYC

I wish I never dated anyone. I wish I was even more in love with God than I was back then at the young age that I had the nerve to accept a title of "girlfriend" to a person's son. 😮‍💨

I loved the Lord but not to the point where I inspired anyone to love the Lord and not to the point of inspiring anyone to come to know the reason that His love is better than that meaningless vainglory we got in partaking in the lacking-loads-of-maturity and "play-pretend" dating scene.

In a way, I know that those "relationships" were not serious, that at my big age they were nothing but "cute" little events in my life where I tried to do a grown folk thing lol.

But it was me, so to think about it removed from my own thoughts takes some effort. To be mature to the extent to be able to put some distance between myself and that time is to accept that, as much as I wanted to marry a person I dated back then, maybe it wasn't the best time to make that decision afterall. And maybe making it work in that marriage would've been because of a lot of external factors supporting us but not due to our own limited maturity at that time afterall.

And if I could hope something for myself if I ever married that young, it's that I would hope that I would never stop seeking to grow in my maturity after young marriage, that I would never allow the pride of being in a marriage with reciprocated love (younger than many others in the world were able to find that) prevent me from having humility and prevent me from growing instead of plateauing or being stagnant.

I realize this because although I have not yet gotten married, some of that pride of finding love at all within myself at such a young age, has caused me to develop some of those damaging attitudes anyway. Sighs again.

But it's great, still, to be aware, at least, of where my spirit was lacking His purity and life-giving love for God.

From this place of awareness God can work a lot of beautiful things and produce tons of fresh new fruit.

And one of these is learning that, although love in a marriage should never be built on something as vain as superficial beauty, it is wise to accept that these superficial impressions have a great influence, and that not accepting that fact only blocks blessings, only creates hurdles where less, not more, hurdles is needed between one and a potential suitor.

I would never go after someone primarily for their looks, ever, back then so I felt that shouldn't be the case with my partner towards me, yet I can't deny, when my partner put a bit of effort in some way to their upkeep, it sparked a few butterflies and also a cute experience for the both of us. And how beautiful it is that God designed us to get a positive reaction from our significant others when we ourselves take care of ourselves.

That's all for now.

Love yall,

Take care.

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20250325 Afternoon NYC

Walking with Him because we deserve the best love in this life.

If you are equally yoked with my journey I’m joyous to spend time with one another and bring light and love into this world in collaboration with you.

Enjoy the journey from my point of view <3

Flexing my “I am committed to my future husband, in the name of Jesus Christ, wherever he is at the moment” ring