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occasionally I am struck dumb by the sublime beauty of the world in the small moments, you know?

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THIS IS THE BEST THING I HAVE EVER SEEN

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Ok breaking containment for this one because I need everyone who will listen to hear this.

Women who suffer bad cramps are told cramps shouldn't affect school/work/etc, but no one ever investigates further because no one can possibly know if what someone experiences is just typical pain or something much worse.

Well after 15 years of stage 4 treatment-resistant endometriosis that came with pain as bad as, if not worse than, actual labor contractions every month, all the while being told I was 'typical' and 'just had bad cramps', I've finally been healed (another post for another time). I have had what everyone describes as the elusive 'normal period pain' for several months now, and I am begging you to look me in the eyes and listen because I need everyone who can hear this to hear this.

I have been on both sides of this. I have the hard-earned knowledge of what a period 'should' feel like.

If you have to put in any effort to hide your cramps, you need to get help.

Even during of the PEAK OF CRAMPING (i.e., as bad as your cramps possibly get), you should still be able to stand, speak, walk, eat, work, and sleep with no problems. These tasks should require very-little-to-no extra effort beyond what you would normally do when you aren't on your period. When you do these things, you should feel grumpy and a little bit icky and maybe a twinge of nerves and NOTHING MORE.

If you have to sit in the corner and hope no one approaches you because you can't speak or stand without showing pain, even slightly, you need to get help. If your pain is showing on your face, you need to get help. And most importantly, IF YOUR PAIN DOES NOT RESPOND TO 1-2 TYLENOL OR IBUPROFEN, YOU NEED TO GET HELP.

Your period cramps should make you grumpy. Your period cramps should make you feel a little icky and tired. Your period cramps should make you feel your insides existing/moving a bit and a twinge of nerves that makes you groan slightly then the "pain" should stop there, NOTHING MORE.

If your cramps put you on the floor but you make believe you're the captain of a ship who has just been stabbed and has to hide it to fight on, and you force yourself to power through the day, please understand: you are not okay, that does not make you okay. Just because you can power through the pain doesn't mean you aren't sick. If you have to force yourself through any basic task beyond the effort it takes you to do when you aren't on your period, and I am holding your face and looking you in the eye as I say this because I need you to hear me: You aren't normal. You don't 'just have bad cramps'. You are sick and you need to get help.

Now most people will tell you if your cramps are beyond a 3 out of 10 on the pain scale, you should see a doctor. While this is usually true, you have to consider chronic pain CAN AND WILL BREAK YOUR PAIN SCALE. Most people will only compare pain they currently feel to pain they may experience one day but probably never will. "Sure these cramps feel bad now, but if I had a leg amputated with no anesthesia, that would hurt WAY worse, so this pain can't be that bad-" No. Your pain is what it is, objectively, full stop. My cramps were at a 10 out of 10 every. Single. Time. And nobody told me claiming they were a 6-8 because I thought to myself 'what if I lose a limb one day?' was completely wrong. 10 pain is 10 pain. And if there's something that hurts worse than that, guess what. The thing you are experiencing right now is still a 10 out of 10 on the pain scale. Just because you experience it every month doesn't mean it's magically not as bad is it is. And if your pain is worse than a 3 out of 10, you need to get help.

Now when I say get help, I mean find the root cause of your pain. You can't just throw drugs and hormones at it without knowing what it causing your pain. Endometriosis, fibroids, pcos, cancer, adenomyosis, polyps, thyroid issues, there is always a cause. And if you leave it untreated, it will grow and get worse to the point where it resists treatment and the drugs and hormones you've been throwing at it for years don't work anymore. You have to find a doctor that will investigate. If your doctor tells you you 'just have bad cramps' get a new doctor. I know you've been told that but please hear me: no one ever just has bad cramps. A healthy human body doesn't spontaneously cause itself pain so bad you can't stand up; there is ALWAYS a cause.

I was sick for more than 15 years. My entire life was put on hold and now I'm in my late 20s trying desperately to play catch up for everything I missed. I want to pick up 12yo me, spin her around, and tell her she doesn't have to die before she finally stops hurting. I don't want anyone to suffer the same fate I did simply because everyone told them they were normal. A little twinge of pain here and there is normal, suffering is not. I promise you your pain is real, it is not normal, and dear heavenly day I am begging you you need to get help now.

TL;DR: There is no such thing as 'just bad cramps.' If you feel anything more than grumpy, icky, and pain greater than a 3 out of 10, you need to find out what's wrong with you before it gets worse.

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on being yourself

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sometimes you gotta bite the bullet and put "text your friend whom you love and genuinely want to talk to" on your to-do list because otherwise it is not getting done

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movie night with the squad 👌

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what if this part of her won

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Heartwarming story: Little girl doesn’t have to do anything to fund her dad’s surgery because his expenses are covered by his country’s universal healthcare.

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REELING from the new murderbot short story. Instead of poor helpless Secunit (with big shoujo anime eyes) getting wallpinned by the big mean transport it was your respectable smart straight-A transport daughter getting hopelessly smitten with a gun-toting, intelligence-drone-using, leather deflection-jacket-wearing Bad Boy rogue Secunit. called Murderbot

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Something about me is that I loveee established relationship.

The getting together part is fun and I like the angst, don’t get me wrong, but the after? When they’re flirting, and bickering like an old married couple, and know each other’s hearts and souls like the back of their hand? When touch and intimacy is as easy as breathing? When they don’t have to hold back their affections and they can just be?

That shit has me giggling and kicking my feet while I tap away on my laptop more than anything else. I love reading it, I love writing it, I just love love.

Especially when they’re mutual flirts, like Derek and Stiles. It’s shown multiple times throughout the show that Derek is an egregious flirt when he thinks he can charm a pretty girl, like flashing that smile at the deputy in season one, and the immediate chasing with his flings as soon as he takes interest in them, and honestly most interactions with female characters that aren’t a main part of the show. He’s the cocky, crowd-your-space, flash a white smile sort of flirt.

And then there’s Stiles, who’s not a cocky flirt, but sort of an intimate one. He never held back from constantly giving compliments to his two love interests, and basically worshipped the ground Lydia walked on for most seasons. Loudly. Very embarrassingly publicly, even. He’s so unafraid to show his inner feelings for someone (in so many different ways), and that includes his genuine interest in someone. Stiles is a flirt, but he’s the type to say someone is beautiful or that they did a great job or that they’re really smart and he really, genuinely means it. You can tell it comes from the heart. He’s not just flirting to flirt, he just actually wants the people he cares about to feel good about themselves and know how he feels.

So them together? Just. God. Derek being all smirky and teasing, and then Stiles responds so genuinely in return. Derek trying to play cat-and-mouse, and Stiles being so genuinely overjoyed at the interest that Derek just… melts. Stiles isn’t oblivious to the game and maybe plays along, but it’s so clear that he’s not at all hard-to-get and means every word out of his mouth because Stiles wears his heart on his sleeve.

And Derek is used to the game that’s clearly just a game, where there’s fleeting interest in each other that he knows will pass. And then there’s Stiles, who latches onto people and defends them with unwavering loyalty and devotion, who really truly means every word that comes out of his mouth and isn’t just saying it to say it. And Derek is weak for it. Stiles might be playing along because it’s fun, but Derek knows Stiles wouldn’t be flirting at all if the feelings weren’t real. And the intimacy just makes Derek ache.

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i bring a sort of "it doesnt matter if youre into porn or not, getting elitist and mad at people for being horny aligns you with the agenda of the alt right" vibe to the conversation that some ppl dont like

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So there's gossip about some version of kinktober over on twitter adding a bunch of nonsensical rules this year, and I am fascinated. Studying this like a bug.

Like, what the hell.

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Ive seen a few Murderhelion fics that have ART like. Calmly and seriously telling Murderbot that it loves it and listen. I understand the impulse to force Murderbot (emotion-phobic) to deal with someone who is literally trained in therapy speak having a frank and honest conversation about their feelings. But also. ART's emotional speech pattern is actually trying to have complete plausible deniability about ever having experienced any feeling ever in its life, until it gets in an emotionally loaded conversation and seemingly stops thinking about what it's saying (murderbot is not the only one who needs that speech delay) and therefore saying something absolutely insane.

Which is, like, for the record, actually funnier and way worse for Murderbot to deal with. ART isn't going to be the adult sitting Murderbot down to say I love you it's going to say it on accident in the middle of a giant fight and then block MB on the feed.

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none but the brave

Written for the @drarrymicrofic prompt 'brave'. Filling the following 5 bingo squares: veela, werewolves, Harry POV, idiots in love, 250 words.

It had been different, with Fleur.

He hadn’t felt the compulsion. Not like Ron.

But now, watching Malfoy make his fashionably-late entrance into the pub, all pearlescent skin, hair like moonlight, Harry feels something snap.

Something primal.

He stands up so fast his chair scrapes loudly. Shouldering past a floating tray of firewhisky shots, almost toppling them, he grabs Malfoy’s wrist.

“Malfoy,” Harry says, breathless, “have I ever told you about the time I wrestled a rabid werewolf to the ground with my bare hands?”

“No, you haven't, Potter.” Malfoy's voice lilts, like birdsong, a quivering flute melody. “Because you never did that. You’re on the literal board of the Werewolf Rights charity, you idiot.”

Harry falters. Feels a bit stupid. 

Stupidly in love. 

And Malfoy just isn’t getting it. “I’d protect you!” Harry blurted, “if one ever tried to hurt you. I’d do anything—”

“Yes, yes, you’re terribly brave. Now, snap out of it.” He clicks his fingers, and like that, Harry's mind clears.

“Fuck, sorry about that.” He releases Malfoy's wrist. “I don’t usually fall for the allure.”

Malfoy frowns. “The what?”

“The Veela allure… that activated on your twenty-first birthday?”

“Do you believe every stupid rumour Witch Weekly prints?” Malfoy’s delighted laugh is musical and lovely, and Harry desperately wants to impress him all over again. What the hell—?

“So, wait, you’re not—”

“No, Potter. Now, does this sudden gallantry extend to buying me a birthday drink? Or do I have to fight a werewolf for it?”