#(and learning abt myself through these interactions. bc they point out things i didn't notice or consider)

[daz4i]

a thing that made me accept and solidify my sense of self is accepting change. like. i am not the same person i used to be (thank god). but that's a good thing, bc the self is transient. it's nice to find things to define yourself by or to check how ppl see you - but it's important to be able to let these things go. you used to be a dog person but now you prefer cats. you liked this color and wore it all the time but are now tired of seeing it. etc etc. little things we may unconsciously latch our identity onto (which is fine, and natural, i'd argue almost a necessary part of growing up) but being able to let them go and find new things to temporarily(!!!!) define us is helpful. and through that you can notice patterns in who you used to be vs who you are now, grab the things that stand out, and just. keep them in your mind for now. but be willing to let them go once they become unhelpful. does that make sense