#...but they are not ok with sharing f/os. that's fine and i'm so glad i didn't rush in and make them uncomfortable! that makes me happy

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[daily-selfship-questions]

I AM SO NEW TO SELFSHIPPING ITS NOT EVEN FUNNY A few questions

what does f/o mean specifically?

is there a difference between selfshipping and yumeshipping??

Am I allowed to be a non-sharing yumeshipper of one character and not another???

Am I even allowed to self ship with more than one character???? Is that considered greedy????? PLS ANSWER OK TYSM FOR READING BYE

Hello, welcome!!! Happy to have you here with us😊 I like answering questions, I hope these clarified some things for you! I hope these aren't too lengthy :)

1. F/O means Fictional Other. It is a mirror of the term Significant Other, but fictional. Our Fictional Significant Others. However, even though there are non-romantic F/Os like familial, platonic, etc., they're still referred to as Fictional Others.

2. I think there is a small difference. I have seen a lot use the words interchangeabley, so I could be wrong for what the current definition of a yumeshipper is, but it originated as a term for girls who selfship typically with anime characters. Yume came from the Japanese word yumejoshi, which means "dreaming girl". And they used yume because. Anime, Japanese, yeah! So in my head yumeshipper is specifically people who selfship with anime characters(I don't find it particular to girls or not), BUT like I said, that word could be taking on a new definition now to be all encompassing, I'm not sure.

Yumeshipper is really mostly a term that is used on Twitter, but I have seen it around here.

A selfshipper is someone who inserts themselves into any media, it is not particular to a certain type of media. Selfshippers sometimes do Self Inserts(which is just them, sometimes with a few extra quirks) to ship with a character, but I've also seen a lot of OC x Canon as well! So to me the difference is just that yumeshipping is specific to anime, while selfshipping is all-encompassing of any media, like movies, cartoons, books, live-action things, etc.

3. Yes!!! I know tons of people that are only non-sharing over particular characters. Whatever your reasoning for it might be it don't matter. Some people are non-sharing over some characters and not other ones. It is common for people when they list out their F/Os to also add if they are non-sharing over that character or not.

4. Anon, you are beyond allowed to selfship with as many characters as you'd like. I have seen people with F/O lists that extend into the 50s or 100s, and I do not mean that as an over-exageration! I have also read those lists cause I get curious who they like. But I mean really, if you click on nearly any blog here on Tumblr there are tons of people who have several F/Os. Anyone that tries to call you greedy for it is just being thick. That's like saying you're greedy for collecting pokemon cards. You're not greedy for investing time in something you enjoy, and in selfshipping you aren't even taking anything away from anyone else, so if anyone calls you greedy then they are severely misconstrued and you probably shouldn't hang around them anyway and be glad that they exposed themselves so you know to probably not interact with then.

I won't lie, lately there's been kinda a little upbringing again of some backlash towards non-sharing selfshippers who have multiple F/Os that they are non-sharing over, but don't worry about it. I have met some lovely people that have assured my own doubts that it's fine. Heck, it's funny you ask me this cause I got quite a bucket list of F/Os myself!

At the end of the day this is something you do for yourself, whether it is or for fun or for coping, so if at any point you can always step back from the social media aspect of it, cause this is between you and your fictional characters.

And don't worry too hard about 'rules'. We're all here to have fun. Do whatever you want, just do what feels right in your heart. You'll get the feel of it the more you hang around and explore different blogs and things or meet others, just as with anything else :)