#This started bc on a surface level reading it would be easy to see Eddie's way of managing his household

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The way Eddie handles his family unit is such an interesting reflection of his upbringing and the fact from what we hear about his childhood Helena was the lone parent in charge of the day to day of the household while Ramon was away working.

Eddie was raised with one present parent/authority figure, he and Shannon spent very little time sharing a household and when they did they repeatedly clashed over the fact Eddie made unilateral decisions for their whole family unit, and then Eddie has officially been a single parent for years.

So I think when he is so uncommunicative with Buck about his decision making about the Chris crisis and what Eddie is going to do about it, I don't think Eddie percieves it as drawing a line around his relationship with Chris that Buck is shut out of, nor any contradiction in not involving Buck but still expecting his full support. His model for parenting has always been Helena as the active decision maker and Ramon as her support, and in their case it's because Helena was the one available whereas Ramon wasn't involved enough to be making day to day decisions, but it means that Eddie didn't grow up seeing his parents discussing plans together or compromising.

To Eddie co-parenting is making a decision about your child and the other parent will support you because they trust you are a good parent. Except Buck hasn't been told that his role in this situation and isn't absent and uninvolved in Chris and Eddie's lives so does expect to be at least aware of the decisions process and he feels slighted by Eddie not even telling Buck about those decisions and wrongfooted that Eddie would want support with the same decisions he's left him out of, meanwhile Eddie feels let down when Buck doesn't just back his decisions because he's expecting Buck to trust and understand him.