#at first I didn't like the idea of GC being trans bc

[d3spairisart]

>w< them,,,,,

SO,,, yuriful,,,,

[skimblyshanks]

There's a post going a bit viral on twt from a GC mom whose teen identified as trans, was rejected, attempted suicide, continues not to receive affirming care, but has seemingly "desisted" and its. Honestly a little triggering? Bc it v closely matches my own experience, only I did not attempt suicide. I fell into self harm. I never reverted to stereotypical gender conformity, but I stopped talking abt being trans. I never tried to get ppl to use different pronouns or names. My time in therapy was solely focused on my anxiety and depression, and the memo on my transness, on my dysphoria, was that since I didn't have an emotionally controlled response to the thought of bringing it up, then I wasn't ready and shouldn't pursue it until I was. Again, never a chance to work on coming to terms with it.

And again, I didn't even attempt suicide. But God, that's my story, yk? I had 2 years of learned helplessness response toward the idea of being out or transitioning. I look back as a grownup and I realize the venn diagram of "declining mental health" and "having to start and go through high school in the closet" were a fucking circle. I came to terms with what happened to me like. In June. I mentioned realizing what I went through wasn't ok to one of my friends who's known since I first came out and she told me that when I used to mention what was happening she'd get really angry for me.

Like. Make no mistakes. This shit fucks with your mind so severely. It's supposed to. Bc the goal is to make you ""desist"". A lot of ppl are saying the kid in the viral post probably won't talk to their mom once they grow up, and I hope that's the case. My mom (and my brother) might be the only family member(s) I will talk to when I move out.

Idk just. Children deserve to be affirmed in their identities, even if they change. If you cut off your child from all their friends and support networks and make sure they can't have access to affirming care, you're an abuser.