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skye-nsfw · 1 year

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How are you so confident with this stuff when you're so young?

I'm 21 and still can't really figure out what I want

i exposed myself to these concepts at perhaps too young of an age, but it did allow me the time figure out what i do and dont want. however, what u like and what u dont like changes over time, especially when u start exploring w/ people physically. i wouldnt fret about figuring out what u like or what u dont, instead i would say focus on having good, healthy experiences, and let ur curiosity drive u towards the things u like.

as for why i project confidence, it's bc i want to be. it's a part of the role i want to have in most of my dom/sub dynamics. it is also bc i feel these concepts and topics should be a normal part of everyday conversations, that they should be normalized.

of course, being horny makes that easier ;)

#confidence is sort of an odd thing #it's easy to confuse an ego for confidence #or to confuse hubris for confidence #it's for the role of the type of dom i am on here #i guarantee that no one is confident going into sex. nor should u be #sex is a highly emotional. highly vulnerable thing people can do. u need to be comfortable w/ it first before u bring in confidence #im not confident in everything i do outside of this blog. im still learning my partner's body and their likes and dislikes #but there r things i am confident in bc they've been discussed and i know they'll like it #the confidence i project on my blog is just an act for a role that i am playing. it's fantasy and should be treated as such #text is also a very different thing than communicating w/ ur partner in the moment #here. i have time to edit. change my tone. change my wording.#but u dont have that option w/ someone in-person. u gotta spend that time w/ someone to be confident w/ them #dont try and force that. it wont end well.#give urself the time to explore first and over time things like projecting confidence will be #-become easier and feel more natural #it's all a process #and i've been rambling. so i'll cut it here #bd/sm blog #nonbinary nsft #bd/sm dom #lesbian nsft #dms are open #nsft post #nsft #asks open #this felt like a rlly good ask to be lengthy on. ty anon

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