#it's exactly because i own my own stupid aspie bullshit that i recognise stupid autistic bullshit

[aikainkauna]

Oh dear

...seems reblogging that old rant drove away someone sensible, while the spammer continued and now my Activity page is still taking ages to load just because of that one person’s spammage (while the interesting new person is gone). 

Knowing the autism level of the typical puppydog/likespammer, I shouldn’t be surprised, but it’s always a shame. Only the people who have any actual social intelligence left even *entertain* the thought they might have offended someone and go off in an anxious weeping heap/insulted huff, whereas it’s the really disturbing stalkers/puppydogs/spammers who don’t get it even if you literally tell them “this thing you’re doing is uncomfortable, please stop.” I legit had a real sociopath here a couple of weeks ago, with no empathy plus several creepy comments (and who proceeded to take over all my free time with massive commentspamming), so I really am not exaggerating. She just didn’t get that I was not going to be BFFs with her just because she liked a thing I posted, and that I did not have the time to talk to her all day. No amount of trying to be reasonable or polite helped, and I had to block her.

And if you think I’m being a cranky bitch, this is honestly what you’ll end up being like yourself after spending 23 years on the Internet. I’m so, so past that stage where I would just try and bear it and be nice and then be driven nuts. After you’ve had that happen approximately 75 times, you realise life’s too short. I’m actually still too stupidly patient and still too nice, because I didn’t just block the aforementioned sociopath outright (even when I realised she had the mental age of a toddler) but tried to give her the benefit of the doubt and to talk reason to her. And I’ll never get back those hours/days of my life. So if you ever end up in a similar situation, don’t be too hard on yourself. You *have* to put a stop to it or they’ll drain you, while never realising you’re a living, breathing human being with a life and thoughts and feelings of your own. Remember that that type of puppydog/spammer can only see their own obsession, that thing they’re fannish about. They only bombard you because you offer a mirror from which to reflect their own obsession. Not because they are that interested in you as a person to exchange fannish thought with.

JSYK, I really don’t mind the genuine likes, just the spammers who leave a wall of their name on the Activity page as they systematically go through your blog and make a point of liking everything with their darlings in to the point where they drown everything underneath themselves. You are probably not one of those people, so don’t worry. I am absolutely ok with fangirling, but there is a line after which it just turns pointless and unwieldy and stops serving any kind of positive purpose. I’d much rather... talk with you? Exchange tags, maybe, if you reblogged a thing? Like, you know, *interact,* rather than just be bombarded with these clicks?