#mines nb unaligned

[stupiddumbusername]

found a new name, finally

[henryisalesbian]

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so literally on the 1st days of pride, i decided to go all out and make funny pride flag edits of a few of the many pride hcs i have for this funny train show

(please note: these are my hcs!! its cool if you have different ones but plz dont be weird about mine <:0-L tysm! )

1st set of six: thomas (pansexual agender), edward (gay trans man), henry (nonbinary lesbian), gordon (unaligned bisexual nonbinary), james (nonbinary gay trans man), percy (gay demiboy)

2nd set of six: toby (trans aroace), duck (demigender butch lesbian), donald (bigender gay), douglas (bigender lesbian), oliver (biromantic asexual agender), emily (lesbian trans woman)

3rd set of six : diesel (gay nonbinary), mavis (nb butch aroace lesbian), daisy (bisexual transfem), boco (gay nonbinary), rusty (agender aroace sapphic), salty (nonbinary butch lesbian)

[imagine-sissyphus-smiling]

o wait same person and different question sorry to be annoying just feel like if I asked my friends this stuff they’d get mad lol! Is it just me or is the framework of ‘gay people can only like non-binary people who are man/woman aligned’ kinda :/. Gay friend of mine says it’s ok to like a man-aligned nb person but if he liked an un-aligned nb person he couldn’t call himself gay anymore as it would be misgendering the nb person because gay men only like men? But like,,

,,,that doesn’t make sense to me because non-binary people aren’t men or women (?) idk I guess when u try to define ‘who a gay person can like before they have to rename themselves’ things start to not make sense to me v much. I don’t see why a gay person can’t just like an unaligned nb person without ‘denouncing their gay card’ or something. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

for the record i only got these two asks so if u sent something else i def didnt get it. im also not sure if you meant to send me this but whatever!

to be totally honest i think the idea of ‘man aligned’ and ‘woman aligned’ non-binary people is like. a huge cop-out. i mean if an individual non-binary person chooses to identify that way, obviously thats fine, but most of the time i see that structure imposed on non-binary people rather than the other way around. which im not a huge fan of. i think the most interesting differences between non-binary people have to do with our lived experiences, as opposed to whether we more closely map onto “man” or “woman”. like, im a fairly feminine nb person, but im also on testosterone -- so where does that put my “alignment”, yfm?

which brings me to your actual question because like.. by what metric is your friend deciding who’s “man-aligned” and who’s not? maybe he’s relying on whether individual nb people use that term, which would probably be ok -- but more likely, he’s making judgment calls which are completely arbitrary and based on appearance, even though non-binary people can look like anybody, so like. that distinction is bound to be meaningless.

i think its possible to get into questions about how people are materially treated -- if i had never gone on t but my boyfriend still had, we’d likely be treated as a straight couple even if my identity as a non-binary “man” stayed the same. and honestly sometimes if i get SUPER fem we still get treated as a straight couple, whereas when im masc (well, masc by my metric) we get treated like a gay couple. lgb people dont like to hear this, but sexuality literally is a social construct -- that doesnt make attraction any less real, it just means that its completely socially defined. in a society where nb people constituted a legally-recognized third gender across the world, sexual orientation and identity discussions would implicitly involve nb people -- gay men would still be gay, lesbians would still be lesbians, but the way we’d talk about nb people would be different!

so this is a lot of words to say i agree with you. i think a lot of lgb people (and the occasional trans person who’s not non-binary) tend to have strange ideas about what it means to be non-binary, which leads to people making distinctions that aren’t based in reality. on any given day two people could decide i’m “fem-aligned” (because i dress femininely) or “masc aligned” (because im on testosterone) and none of that has to do with me.

[demontrender]

Actually I'm just upset that "gay" has become a synonym for "gay man" (On the internet, at least). It's been an umbrella term since the early days of the lgbt/queer community but constantly I see the gay flag being used as the mlm counterpart to the lesbian flag.

I don't know if I'm explaining this right but it's really upsetting being unaligned and nblall and seeing your attraction as "gay in a nonbinary way" and IDing as gay and then seeing so much content simplifying the term. I understand that nb gay men (for lack of a better term) might not want to be called men for the same reason nb lesbians don't want to be called girls but it just hurts feeling excluded from my own identity.

I know the term "gai" exists for this very purpose but like, I'm gay. The gay flag is mine to use. I don't have to specify my identity like that to make it palatable to people (though i think ppl who ID as gai are great)

[catgirltitties]

How do you describe your sexuality to other people? I have a similar feeling towards mine (if your recent posts and pinned are still accurate about unaligned nb lesbian or nblw) and havent been able to really say what i feel to others uwu

Ok yeah, ive struggled with this too, since again : i am not sure what it is but i also dont care. But here’s how i usually go with it

Most people : im not actually a boy, but i like girls

People that are rockin with the lgbts a bit : im nonbinary, and lean agender. I like women mostly, but i also like other nonbinary people as well, basically i just like pretty people.

Gay people : ok so i identify as an unaligned nb person, right, and i only like girls/unaligned nb people/fem aligned people. So since nblw isnt as developed culturally as a sexuality, i identify as a lesbian. I also feel comfortable labelling as queer, since i feel like i dont fit other sexualities, but a lot about what it means to be a lesbian really rings true to me. Again, a lot of this is really insignificant to my identity as a person as a whole, which is why i decided to become nb in the first place, and id rather not deliberate on it too much. Calling myself a nonbinary lesbian is the thing i feel most comfortable doing, and other nonbinary lesbians tend to be very similar to me both in demeanor and in their experience within the lgbtq+ world.

Gay people that are cool : where da wlnbs at