#plus there's the power imbalance and honestly you can tell me till the cows come home that you're all equal

[aish-rai]

can you expand on your thoughts about how 'polyamorous' makes your eyes roll back lol? like i dont disagree with the post, theres always these extremes with both sides how some monogamous ppl think poly ppl are sluts/promiscuous and vice versa where poly ppl always think monogamous ppl are prudes/outdated. but thats diff from polyamory lol so id like to know your thoughts on that

My policy, generally, is that what people do in their bedroom is their own business. But don’t try to convince me that it’s a good idea lmao like literally every single discussion I’ve had with people on the topic of polyamory has been about how monogamy isn’t natural and there’s scientific basis for that assertion and being with one person for the rest of your life is somehow regressive. I’d argue it’s the other way around? The need to follow your libido into fucking multiple people is like, the definition of catering to your base instincts. What separates humanity from other mammals is our ability to control which instincts to follow and which to ignore for the betterment of not only our own lives, but for society as a whole. We have logic and emotion and control for a reason. And if polyamory is the way of the future, what about the past few thousand years where marriage was only a social contract and polyamory was the accepted form of relationships? Monogamy as a general societal expectation is a fairly new phenomenon, and it seems to me that it’s actually much more progressive than having multiple partners?

By all means, do whatever you want with whomever you want, but don’t try to bullshit me with pseudo science about how it’s anything other than a lifestyle you’re choosing to follow as opposed to some sort of social revolution that will change relationships as we know it blah blah blah. And anyone who DOES start that conversation, usually completely without provocation, is (in my experience) pretty eye-roll-worthy already.