#that's a joke my voice is atrocious and idk how to stream PLUS im boring to watch

[ghost-proofbaby]

WAIT can you elaborate what you mean by things???

I'm also buying the game and playing because of you and wanting to romance the vampire lol

in the great words of the vampire himself... "sex, darling."

astarion is one of the first characters in the game that will proposition your character to have sex (in act 1 it's him and lae'zel, all other characters take a little longer to romance and get there haha). i cannot stress this enough - turning him down will lock you out of his romance. doesn't matter if you have spoilers for his storyline and don't want to have sex. if you want to romance him, you will have to sleep with him in act 1. i have thoughts on this but it is what it is

putting a read more because it's technically game spoilers below, but just to be a little more helpful...

you can turn him down once. if he propositions you before the tiefling/goblin party (this party will depend on your playthrough! but regardless, it's a party that occurs during a long rest, and it is when most romances are triggered to begin!), you can say no, and i'm pretty sure he'll still offer a second time. so you could say no, and then say yes, or say yes both times.

you'll only get one detailed cut scene/sex scene. if you say yes before the party, and then yes a second time, you won't get to see the sex scene twice. it'll just fade to black the second time!

saying yes to having sex with him and allowing him to drink your blood when you find out he is a vampire are the two most crucial bits to gaining approval and starting a romance with him. beyond that, just... idk be nice to him? there's plenty of specific scenes i can tell you guys about, but i think it's more fun to experience it first hand as you playthrough. there's nothing like the thrill of getting unexpected astarion approval. it's like, did i commit a war crime? was i just a terrible human being? who knows !

all jokes aside you don't need to be fully evil or a terrible person to get his approval. your choices will actually affect him as the game goes on. I.E. whereas he might disapprove of very heroic or kind acts in act 1, if you're consistently a good person while romancing him, by act 3 he might start approving of those things.

just remember he's very self-serving. he isn't a great person - especially when you first meet him. he's traumatized. he has reasons. the player can either literally make him better, or make him worse.

i could go on for way too long about this game but this is the basics. god speed to any of you who are playing because of me because what the fuck but... have fun! i believe in you lol <3