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august--and-everything-after · 5 months

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Was expressing to my mum that in addition to being confused and stressed about what to wear to my friend's wedding (it's the first Indian wedding I've been too, plus it's in Cancun so I have to pack for beach weather) and that one of my anxieties is that I want to find clothing that I will feel comfortable in with my body hair. Her well-meaning suggestion was that I should just shave cause it would make everything else easier, but I haven't shaved in years and years and doing it just for the wedding means I'll have to buy a razor and shaving cream/gel, deal with probably nicking my skin, ingrown hairs, razor burn, for an entire week at least, and then the growing-out again after and I just really don't want to do all that. If the men will be there in shorts with their hairy legs then so will I.

I'm already gonna stick out like a sore thumb as one of the only white woman, likely the only woman not wearing heavy makeup, and very likely dressed entirely differently than everyone else. I know I'm gonna feel like a freak next to all the other women :(

#im usually totally confident about my choices to keep my body hair and not wear makeup #until im in a setting where the other women are all dressed up #cause people treat all the femininity crap that i dont participate in as being required for looking well-dressed and presentable as a woman #im worried my friend will think im disrespecting her by not 'dressing up enough' or whatever #i dont think she'd ever tell me to my face but idk if she'll be upset with me for not shaving or wearing makeup #she's not particularly traditional but idk about her family and the other guests #there's so much uncertainty around all the elements here and im worried ill make a fool of myself or upset people #idk what to do #august talking

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