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… And you still blamed me.

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This made me tear up over my morning coffee… Fighting hard to break the bars of this cage, no matter the cost… Thank the universe for people like Secondlina! 💕

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Yes. Absolutely yes. There have been so many of those former selves. And the conversations would be long and cathartic.

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Root & Shaw - Person of Interest

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I’m really feeling this today. My life used to be about so much more than recovery… and it will be again.

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For me, it’s been twenty years… 🤔

family dinners be like

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This is where I am going now, in the middle of my life.

I am different, and it has cost me many people, but I am always myself. It is better to lose others than to lose yourself to fit in.

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I LOVE this! 🥰

Portraits of some LotR ladies!

(Arwen, Éowyn, Lothíriel)

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This has been the central lesson of my life these past two years.

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I always loved that outfit Counselor Troi is wearing in this pic. So great, and in one of my favourite colours...

TNG Season 4 Women

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I love this! 🥰

The Road Goes Ever On by Kinko-White

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the thing is that childhood doesn't just end when you turn 18 or when you turn 21. it's going to end dozens of times over. your childhood pet will die. actors you loved in movies you watched as a kid will die. your grandparents will die, and then your parents will die. it's going to end dozens and dozens of times and all you can do is let it. all you can do is stand in the middle of the grocery store and stare at freezers full of microwave pizza because you've suddenly been seized by the memory of what it felt like to have a pizza party on the last day of school before summer break. which is another ending in and of itself

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Ah Wil. Ever the fount of infinite wisdom… If only I could FOLLOW that wisdom… 🤔

I want to speak quietly and gently to my fellow people pleasers for a minute.

We don't believe it, and we will deny it with our last breath, but social fatigue is a real thing. It is not selfish, nor is it lazy, to tell the people you love that you're taking a day, or the weekend, or whatever you need, to rest and recover from how draining it is to be around people.

We tell ourselves that we can't disappoint anyone, that they're going to be mad at us (one of my favorite, relatable jokes is "Hi, I'll be your waiter tonight. Are you mad at me?"), or the most insidious of them all: I don't deserve to rest.

I outrank that voice in your head, and I am here to gently and lovingly remind you that you are worthy, your friends who matter understand, and that you don't owe anyone anything.

For anyone who needs it: I give you permission to cancel that thing you're dreading tonight or tomorrow. I give you permission to rest and recover your HP, so you aren't going into next week with disadvantage.

I love you, friends. Take care of yourselves and take care of each other.

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So much in here applies to me…

"Punishment works!!!" We're drowning in three to four generations of people so pants-shittingly terrified of ever being wrong that half of everyone has constructed a worldview wherein they never even consider the possibility that they could be wrong and the other half behaves like one wrong move will make anything or anyone explode violently into a million irreperable pieces. I don't think it works guys

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I needed this today! Thank you so much… 🥰

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