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Father was an unusual man. He would point out the beauty of blossoms or clouds in the sky with the very whip he had cracked a moment before. With the same knife he had just used to rive your innards, he would slice up a wedge of some delicacy for you. No one else I knew could perform such feats. There was something solid about him. I felt all at once like a contrite sinner and a puppy dog who is eager to please. I wanted to cut all ties with him, but at the same time I needed him to recognize me as worthy of his love.

Kōda Aya, "The Medal" from Mirror: The Fiction and Essays of Kōda Aya

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I get that this is mostly a me thing but seeing so many posts making fun of "holy blood cannibalism pomegranate deer" style writing just makes me sad ;-; . guys that's a lot of people's first stab at poetry that's hobby art that's a vulnerable thing to post those are passion projects...

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Why isn't "too scary" a good enough reason to never drive a car

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“If I put a gun to someone’s head, say, a 30-year-old healthy male, pull the trigger, and kill him, assuming an average life expectancy of, say, 84, you can argue that possibly 54 years of life [were] stolen from that person in a direct act of violence. However, if a person is born into poverty in the midst of an abundant society where it is statistically proven that it would hurt no one to facilitate meeting the basic needs of that person and yet they die at the age of 30 due to heart disease, which has been found to statistically relate to those who endure the stress and effects of low socioeconomic status, is that death, the removal of those 54 years once again, an act of violence? And the answer is ‘Yes, it is.’ You see, our legal system has conditioned us to think that violence is a direct behavioral act. The truth is that violence is a process, not an act, and it can take many forms. You cannot separate any outcome from the system by which it is oriented.”

— Peter Joseph, from this lecture. (via universalequalityisinevitable)

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something i think that gets missed in discussion about male privilege and who benefits from it is that male privilege is modular with a lot of moving parts. there isn't some massive Male Privilege Monolith of benefits that gets conferred upon you the minute you pass as a man to broader society. it's a bunch of tiny things that all add up, and i'd wager theres no singular person in the world that benefits from male privilege in its theoretical entirety. and even those privileges individually have very conditional access. like

-a woman with a masculine name may experience the male privilege of being taken seriously by default when communicating over email — but that privilege will likely be lessened if that name is obviously nonwhite

-it is male privilege that has caused safety gear and infrastructure over the centuries to privilege the typical male body type, but men falling outside that body type norm will not fully benefit from these designs

-the most passingest trans man who's had every surgery and passes perfectly and uses his masculinity to be a dick to all the women in his life is still going to suffer from decades of medical science not properly investigating disorders/diseases that primarily affect those with estrogen-dominant immune systems/born with a vulva and uterus

-....and even a cis man suffering medical problems won't be able to access full male privilege in the medical field because our society is shit to disabled people

-white men will have access to the male privilege of police officers and the legal system overlooking their abuse of women. men of color will not have full access to the same privilege, especially if the victim is white

-the same trans person might pass to one group and not pass to another depending on how they're presenting that day and how it interfaces with that group's understanding of gender. this will affect how they're treated by those groups.

like, just take me as an example. i pass in some groups but not to others. i use a masculine name over email, which is how i make first contact with a lot of people, so they first think i'm a man and then am introduced to someone who is Not Quite A Man or maybe doesn't pass for transgender at all. i have a genetic predisposition towards diseases of the uterus/breasts, and live within a medical system that, because of misogyny/transphobia, restricts my access to many of the treatments/transition surgeries i may want. however, a doctor with whom i hide my AGAB or who sees me as a man at first sight may take my concerns more seriously. do i "have" male privilege? bit of a nonsensical question. male privilege is not a one size fits all tag that someone either Has or Doesn't it's a massive set of situational injustices

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Hello everybody!

I updated my pridesaur list and added some respectable entries for Intersex, Abrosecxual, Greysexual, agender and butch lesbian. I am proud to say we are at 21 dinos!!!

But I am still very much open for more suggestions, so if you find any fitting dino pun, that I have not covered yet, please feel free to let me know ^.^

My goal still remains to have the most inclusive prehistoric pride dinosaur collection out there, so feel free to help me out a bit with fun ideas ;D

Happy pride to y'all!

I also got all of them as stickers on my etsy shop, so if any of you feel like supporting my silly dino art, please come by:

my prehistoric pride stickers:

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Starting a collection

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Always a good time to burn down yet another village!

Patreon

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cuddling

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uncertain about eels

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Uh oh. I don't think masturbating is going to get us out of this one

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youre monogamous? oh… it’s ethical, right? ethical monogamy? okay good for you! i mean pretty much every monogamous couple i’ve met didn’t work out but maybe you guys will beat the odds! haha. so is it a sex thing? you guys have sex with- just each other? huh. how does that work? i could never do monogamy, i’m too jealous, i’d worry my partner would leave me for someone else instead of dating us both… how do you deal with the jealousy? is it hard? like, how hard? extremely? do you think you’ll break up? i mean in the long run these things rarely work out,

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just realized that himmel frieren is simultaneously frieren's manic pixie dream girl and her dead wife. no one is doing it like him

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"getting laid" is very hot and sexy. "getting off"? great news as well. so you would think "getting laid off" would be wonderful news for your penis. but alas

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飛べ !! 🧡🐦‍⬛🏐

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