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i am a silent traveler

i ride on the wings

of the wind

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16 cute porcupines

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The fun thing about Queer as an identifier is they cant chop you off or reorganize you into obscurity. Queer is for everyone. You cant cut the T off of a Q.

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i wish you could tell cats your food is poison. he seems to think the issue is i've forgotten that he is my kind and loving friend. the issue is Hospital

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why is bass so expensiveeeeee

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Genuinely I think repeatedly making "I'm so brave for (doing mildly uncomfortable thing)" jokes is actually really building my resilience, because when I accomplish an actually difficult task I'm then suddenly euphoric and then chasing the high of accomplishing more tasks.

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Eternally quietly fuming that the accepted meaning of Hanahaki Disease got turned into unrequieted love from the original of unadmitted love.

Because oh my god the beautiful metaphor of having to try and keep everything locked inside only for your body to physically turn those feelings into beauty that slowly choke you to death?

Fucking Sublime.

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It will never cease to irk me when people look at devices and tools made for disability and call it a "scam" just because it doesn't work for them.

Of course, kinesiology tape doesn't work on you if you don't have connective tissue or soft tissue damage. Your body doesn't need help holding itself together. Mines does.

"Posture braces are a scam, you should just exercise more." Okay, what if you can't? What if no matter how much you exercise, your body will always need extra support.

"Foam rollers don't actually do anything, just do exercise." Again, see the above.

"Neck traction devices? Pft, stop being lazy and exercise." Again. See. The. Above. Also, speaking as someone with a severe neck injury, sometimes you need those devices to exercise. And yes, sometimes moving half an inch is considered exercise depending on the nature of your injury and limitations. My current goal in physical therapy is to hold my neck up on my own for longer than ten seconds while lying on my back. It's taken me a year of intensive work to manage it. The traction devices have been a part of this, as recommended by my physical therapist.

"Balance boards, omg what are you, a baby who can't walk?" IN SOME CASES, FUCKING YES.

Like I get it, I get it. You've seen the infomercials and they look goofy, or you just plain cannot think of a situation where you personally might ever need some sort of assistance with your body. But good news! Disability is the only minority group you can become a part of at any moment through sheer bad luck, age, illness or a genetic ticking time bomb hiding in your DNA. May the odds be ever in your favor, and if not, may you encounter kinder people than yourself.

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Day 29 - Psychosomatic Bullshit

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usually when you have a stomach bug your body is like yes sir we'll get this punk out of here, 48 hours tops. then you get a cold and your body is like I dunno ... between a few hours and eleven months ... maybe a week minimum .... you gotta understand we're short staffed

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hey bro can i ask you a question that will reveal a deep and fundamental gap in my knowledge of the world

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it is just genuinely upsetting to my subby little ass to see people malign doms in the way they do. you think the guy who works so hard to take care of me and make sure I'm happy and safe is ontologically evil for.. what? doing exactly what I want them to be doing? fulfilling the fantasies that I have? how exactly do you think it'll work to say you're kink positive and then keep treating doms as monsters and subs as victims? what do you think you're doing there

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I think a lot of people who make mpreg jokes do it because they consider pregnancy something that 'tames' a person and 'knocks them down a peg'. They think pregnancy is something that marks a person as inherently submissive. Getting pregnant means being submissed to them.

They also think that male pregnancy is a feminist concept not because it recognises trans and intersex men as men, but because something 'feminine' and 'submissive' is forced upon a man. Because that's what pregnancy is to them - something that is done to a person. They think pregnancy is emasculating. Remember this meme?

To people like this it's a feminist line because a woman dominated a man by impregnating him. This is an incredibly fucked up and misogynistic view of pregnancy, and it also reveals the shallow understanding of feminism a lot of people have: masculinity is dominance and femininity is submission, so the idea of a man in a feminine position is inherently feminist, because he is submissed. Especially if he was put in this position by a woman, because then the switch is complete - the woman is the dominant one by forcing him into something.

And yes, I said the idea of a man in a feminine position is inherently feminist to them, NOT the man himself. The feminine position he is in makes him an object to be viewed and discussed, not a subject with thoughts and beliefs. The pregnant man is not a feminist, he's a feminist concept. That, I think, is the core of the problem with mpreg jokes - to people who make them, a pregnant man is an idea, a symbol, a fictional situation, instead of a real human being. They ignore the existance of actual men that can get pregnant in favour of the idea of them, because the first one has agency, and the second one has no agency (because he exists in their head). To people like that, pregnant men = blorbos jokingly impregnated by defying biology, or blorbos in omegaverse AUs, not the living, breathing trans and intersex men. They imagine pregnant men for many reasons: as a sexual fantasy, to make a joke, to declaw and tame them, but never to actually consider what it's like for real life men with uteruses. Pregnancy is just another situation they can put their blorbos in, not a real thing some men go through. So there's no space in their minds for the discrimination we face in gynecological and prenatal care, or the fear of being forcibly impregnated as a way to detransition us. Pregnant men are theoretical to them, just like catboys, so they get annoyed when we remind them that we exist and shoo us away claiming they're not talking about us.

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These are so fun to make