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hey sexy. I can tell by the frequency of your blog updates that you are once again avoiding it all

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bitches be like "living my best life ^_^" meanwhile they haven't felt like a person since they were twelve (i'm bitches)

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‘narcissists don’t suffer.’

an irritatingly false rhetoric that i constantly see being pushed online, usually by those who believe in narc abuse.

this statement is severely misinformed, as it blatantly disregards all internal struggles that come with having Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).

‘but the internal struggles aren’t mentioned in the DSM-5’

you’re correct. they’re not. however, this isn’t due to these symptoms not being present within narcissists.

the internal symptoms of NPD are mentioned more in previous iterations of the DSM criteria, but it was removed from both the DSM-4 and DSM-5. this is due to the fact that, when writing the DSM-4, a survey was released asking people with NPD if they experience these internal thoughts of self-loathing and inadequacy.

to ask this question to people with a disorder that makes it difficult for a lot of narcissists to admit any vulnerabilities such as this, obviously led to a lot of people with NPD refusing to admit to these symptoms on the survey, hence the removal of any recognition of these symptoms from the DSM.

‘so what problems do narcissists actually face?’

aside from being severely demonised and discriminated against both amongst the general public and within medical fields solely for having NPD, narcissists also face a plethora of complex psychological distress and internal conflicts regarding self image.

these issues with self image often lead narcissists to compensate for these problems with feelings of grandiosity, this is something the brain does to act as almost a shield against the struggles happening within.

unfortunately, this barrier that the brain has created can be broken down with criticism, failure or anything that fuels the internal thought process, shattering the sense of reality that the brain’s defence mechanisms created. this can lead to a crash and complicated feelings towards others.

the bottom line is that narcissists aren’t inherently dangerous, we are people who struggle from a severely complex psychological disorder and as a result we also have developed complex defence mechanisms. it’s important to remember NPD is a product of repeated trauma and narcissists are people who have been hurt. we do suffer, this is considered an illness for a reason. it is not fun to be ill.

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NPD ≠ abusive

NPD = thinking about creating literally anything and then immediately fantasizing about how famous it will make you

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Tumblr, please make sure to show your NPD mutuals and friends love in these trying times (living in a world where Psych2Go exists).

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the biggest betrayal. bffr

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"OmG NaRCISsiStS aRe sO eViL aND wIll mANipuLaTE YoU" Vro. I literally kiss my plushies goodnight and apologize to them when I accidentally make them fall off the bed. Be for real.

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so called ‘mental health advocates’ when you have NPD or ASPD:

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fight flight freeze fawn and faggot

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"Mental health matters!!" mfs when they see a person with NPD

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Not many people talk about how deep emotional neglect hurts you.

I’m afraid to want things. I’m afraid to ask for help. I’m afraid to tell someone something if they seem in a bad mood. I can’t process when someone is nice to me. I can’t handle rejection, but my brain literally short circuits if someone gives me a compliment to the point where sometimes the rejection is better.

There are lots of overlap with emotional abuse, but emotional neglect hurts just as much. And it’s even worse that it usually goes undetected, so a lot of people can’t tell they’re being neglected until it’s too late.

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I might not even be their FP dude I may be totally overreacting but oh my god the responsibilities <3

"I think I'm my friend's FP. this is great for supply and I can be such a better FP and friend than their last FP. I am worthy of this and I won't squander my opportunity to Be A Good Person"

VS

"I think I'm my friend's FP. This is awful, I'm just going to hurt them and they'll be afraid of me. I don't know what to do with this responsibility I don't want to hurt them."

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"I think I'm my friend's FP. this is great for supply and I can be such a better FP and friend than their last FP. I am worthy of this and I won't squander my opportunity to Be A Good Person"

VS

"I think I'm my friend's FP. This is awful, I'm just going to hurt them and they'll be afraid of me. I don't know what to do with this responsibility I don't want to hurt them."