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Thank you for including the link back to the list xD it helped me find the questions so much easier

❤️‍🩹how good is your communication with the rest of the system? does it vary much between different alters?

I would say it definitely varies not just between alters but also depending on things like pain level, etc, which can make focusing on communication while actively trying to dissociative pain harder for some of us. But overall I'd say we have pretty solid communication with each other. We also use things like notes and reminders to help assist communication.

💔are different alters part of different subcultures? which ones?

Yes and no I suppose. There are different areas, for lack of a better description, in our inner world which different people tend to call their home bases but there is also alot of travel between those areas. Especially as our community has increased. There are also headmates from subsystems and a few headmates with their own systems (this gets complicated) Hope this answers the question 😅 Realizing we may have misunderstood the question.

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BIPOC Plural

PT: BIPOC plural. End PT

ID: a rectagular flag with 7 straight stripes, from top to botttom they are: dark blue, blue, teal, green, pale yellow, light brown and brown. On the center of the flag is the treblesand. End ID.

A flag for plurals who are BIPOC.

@radiomogai

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Just finished Queer Palestine and the Empire of Critique by Sa'ed Atshan. I highly recommend it. Its a very insightful autoethnography that seeks to highlight the complexity of Queer Palestine and how the empire of critique has harmed the growth of the solidarity movement. Definitely a worthwhile read.

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System ask game stolen and edited from r/systemcringe

❤are you medically recognised/diagnosed? if not, do you plan to? (no judgement either way!)

🧡if you are comfortable sharing, what is your headcount? do you keep track of it?

💛do you switch frequently or do you go longer periods between switching?

💚does your system have introjects of any kind?

💙do you have any subsystems?

💜who are your frequent fronters?

🤎do you have any non-human alters? if yes, which species are they?

🖤do you make/buy gifts to other alters in the system?

🤍does the taste in music vary a lot between different alters?

🔴does your system have any type of in system relationships? (familial, romantic, platonic etc.)

🟠how much amnesia do you experience?

🟡do you experience black out amnesia?

🟢what does switching feel like for you? does it vary between alters?

🔵do you experience quick switches or does it take longer to switch usually?

🟣do you get frontstuck often? what do you do to try to get 'un-stuck'?

🟤do you ever not notice you've switched, and suddenly realise that 'you haven't been you' for a while?

⚫can you switch 'on command" or is that something that is hard for your system? does it depend on the alter?

⚪do you have a headspace? if yes, describe it! if no, do you want one?

🟥how easily accessed is your headspace? (If you have one)

🟧is there a place in your headspace where dormant alters go?

🟨do alters have their own rooms/areas in your headspace?

🟩is your headspace big, or smaller? is it complex/less complex?

🟦do you have specific alters that cannot access headspace at all?

🟪did you have to build your headspace over time, or was it just there?

🟫how did you pick your system name?

⬛how does your system handle in system disagreements in general?

⬜is there anyone specific in your system you don't get along with?

❤️‍🔥are you 'out' as a system to anyone? (online friends/partners etc. count!)

❤️‍🩹how good is your communication with the rest of the system? does it vary much between different alters?

💔are different alters part of different subcultures? which ones?

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I love you Two Spirit Systems. I'm glad you're here

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Feeling extremely privileged recently to have been given several opportunities to advocate not only for the Two-Spirit community but for the plurality community as well. We deeply thank Spirit for bringing us these opportunities and giving us a tangible outlet to utilize our gifts in service of our communities. 🥹 We are very much at a loss for words for how much recent events have meant to us.

To other Two-Spirit, Indigenous systems/plurals out there:

You are seen.

You are valued.

You are sacred.

You are loved.

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The older you get the more you will realize that your friends are people who have made mistakes and bad decisions and even just fucked up and hurt people.

And obviously your boundaries with your friends are completely up to you but you do need to recognize that if you cut off everyone who has done something wrong, you’re going to end up with no friends (and you yourself will have also fucked up in your life, and not lived up to those impossible standards either).

I’ve found it’s much more constructive to learn how to say “hey dude, that was massively fucked up of you,” because most people are really willing to say “yeah, it was, I need to work on it/not do it again/apologize and make things right” ESPECIALLY if they are hearing it from you as their friend.

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i learned about two labels from the soulbounding community and i thought it would be nice to introduce them to the wider plural community!

insourced: when a headmate is sourced from inside your head.

outsourced: when a headmate is sourced from outside your head.

a fictive that's an introject of your original character would be considered an insourced fictive. a factive that's based on yourself at a younger age would be considered an insourced factive.

a fictive based on an anime would be an outsourced fictive, and a factive based on a celebrity would be an outsourced factive.

i thought these were cool so yeah! have fun.

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Finally finished with The Hundred Years' War on Palestine by Rashid Khalidi. It was definitely worth the read and I highly recommend others take the time to check it out.

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Is the Indigenous systems discord community you mentioned open to new people? One of our IRL good friends is Lenni Lenape and a system; she’s not on tumblr, but we showed her your posts, and she said that it sounded really cool and she’d love to join if it was an option.

Yes it is. 🙂 The discord is open to systems/plurals of all kinds but has space specific for Indigenous systems as well 😁 We'd be more than happy to share the link. Just send us a DM and we can send y'all an invite.

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Redesign of Mothim. Reflecting an Atlas Moth this Mothim’s wings mimic the silhouette of an Arbok

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*we are a system of color, this poll is for non white systems! Dont vote or add on if you aren’t.*

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We need to uplift our systems of color!

Our physically disabled systems!

Our nonamerican systems!

Our poor systems!

Our nonverbal/semi nonverbal systems!

Our schizospec systems!

Feel free to add more types of systems we need to uplift in the comments/reblogs! /nf

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We wish there was more of a presence for Two-Spirit, Indigenous Systems/Plurals on this site but we fully understand why there isn't.

We're extremely fortunate that we've found a small community of Indigenous systems/plurals on discord.

For any Indigenous, Two-Spirit plurals/systems out there:

Your experiences are important.

Your culture is important.

Your voices deserve to be heard.

We cherish you.

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Is your system interested in final fusion, singular identity or is that something your therapist is insisting y'all pursue?

We'll preface this by saying final fusion was never a viable goal for us. Our system has reached a point we consider functional multiplicity after years of working to break down dissociative barriers while holding space for each of us individually.

We made it very clear when interviewing therapists that final fusion was not our goal and any insistence on not recognizing headmates who make attend our therapy sessions as themselves was antithetical to our healing process. We understand setting boundaries like those aren't easy but if your therapist is insisting on viewing your system/insisting you view your system in a way that doesn't seem conducive with your mental health its important to not just go along with it.

The claim that viewing systems as a singular identity being 'typical treatment' is honestly an archaic view of recovery. It completely dismisses functional multiplicity as a viable healing option and often hinges on the focus of a central identity arbitrarily chosen by the therapist (usually whomever they were first introduced to). This happened to use with several therapists even after we explicitly stated that the headmate who brought us to therapy had only very recently became host. We were ignored and the therapist ostracized any other alter who tried to introduce themself to speak on trauma or issues they specifically were experiencing. This lead to exasperated dissociation, depersonalization, and derealization. It almost wrecked what functionality our system had had at the time.

Thankfully we've since found a therapist that takes us and our system as we are. Several of us attend therapy as our unique selves. We've had our therapist witness and help moderate arguments between headmates. They treat us each as people worthy of respect and attention and it has been monumentally healing.

For us personally the approach to therapy that helped us the most collectively was acknowledging our individuality and acknowledging that each of us were experiencing our C-PTSD differently, some of the manifestations of which were directly at odds with others. If we didn't approach each of us as individuals and learn to acknowledge and identify how our trauma was affecting us each differently I'm not sure we'd have ever gotten to the level of functionality we have managed to reach.

Apologies this got kind of rambly.

Tldr; don't just go along with something that is being described as 'typical treatment' for DID if it doesn't mesh with your goals or your system. Your system's boundaries and experiences are important. Therapy, especially for systems, should never be treated like a cookie cutter experience.

i'd like to talk about a question i've had on my mind regarding DID recovery.

when informing one of our therapists about seeing ourselves as multiple people, she insisted that despite the identity diffusion, we were truly 1 person. which is part of "typical" treatment so, whatever, we'd rather not have that forced on us, but it's fine.

however, she also seemed to be fixed that the person she was talking to was the person we mask as IRL, we'll call them "J" so we don't have to use what's basically a deadname. (not even the starting letter of the name we use, BTW.)

J is not a person. J does not exist. when informing her that who she was speaking to is not J - because J isn't real - she seemed to understand, but continued to insist that we all combined to make J. but none of us want to be J.

i wonder, if final fusion is about combining into 1 identity - who even gets to choose that final identity? we don't have a host anymore, and J doesn't exist as a person, so it wouldn't be either of them.

if we wanted to fuse, would we be forced to take on this mask of J as ourselves, despite not wanting it?

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Syscourse Question of The Day: What's something you'd like to see talked about less in syscourse/ that you think is 'overdone' in syscourse?

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Inspired by a post from @otiksimr

A redesign of Dustox to honor its roots to Lunar Moths a tad better.

Had a lot of fun with this one