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Confidence comes from putting yourself out there and stepping outside of your comfort zone despite being scared. If you wait for confidence to precede the action, you’ll be waiting for ever. Moving from fear to faith is what is going to carry you through. Realizing that the fears created in your mind are there to protect you and keep you in your comfort zone, is how you change your perspective.

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Sometimes, the biggest act of self care you can accomplish is to cry your eyes out. To a point you can barely breathe and your tissue is soaked in tears. And once you calm down, there is a feeling of exhaustion in the whole body that aches for sleep. When you get up, you may feel numb. But that is just one step of many. Then you can get up again, because you have the privilege to. And move on. Not all that is necessary is comfortable, but nevertheless fundamental.

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the ability to see more beauty in the world is a skill. the more beauty you see, the more comes to you, the more you create yourself. so much of the disempowerment people feel is because they are trained to see the ugly and negative in everything. you have to unpick your mind from the lure of negativity and train yourself to find beauty. if you want a beautiful life, it starts with learning to find the beauty everywhere.

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A person who values themself has standards and remains exclusive

They don’t need attention from the masses because they know their worth

They understand that being accessible to everyone lowers their value

They are selective with who they date because they know it’s a reflection of them

They aren’t seeking superficial validation online because they don’t need it and most likely get it in real life

They make career choices that align with their passions and beliefs and don’t comprise their morals for a dollar

They understand that quality friendships are more important than a large circle of acquaintances

They love themselves and take care of their body, they don’t partake in hobbies that are unhealthy

They invest in their personal growth and education because they understand that expanding their knowledge and skills increases their value

They are mindful of how they spend their time and choose environments that nurture their growth rather than drain their energy

They don’t settle for mediocre and always strive for excellence in whatever they do

They avoid toxic relationships and environments

They are intentional with their energy and choose to share it with people that align with their values

They practice self discipline

They like being alone and understand that being alone is a time for reflection and recharging

They have very strong boundaries and demand respect in all interactions because they respect themselves first

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cherishing the things that bring you peace is so important. doodling ugly creatures. listening to brown noise. rereading the same books. rediscovering hymns and religious texts from your childhood. doing your makeup just to erase it. not everything has to have a deeper meaning or purpose, and not everything you do has to be for a more complex reason than how it makes you feel in the moment.

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Do more of what makes you happy. Prioritize yourself, put yourself and your health and wellbeing first. You're not selfish, this is how you survive. How you feel better. You can do whatever you want. You don't constantly have to slave away to make others happy because that's the "noble" thing to do. You're not "very kind" or "super caring" at this point, you are neglecting yourself, you are ruining your health. Start putting yourself first today.

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I miss when things used to be a bit ugly…. That’s when people had so much fun… now everyone is beautiful and untouchable and boring and sterilized…. Maybe fashion was weird back in the day and no one took proper care of their skin n whatever but at least people were having fun, at least people tried to be original and weird and fun instead of just being online . Maybe Sumtimes U have 2 go out on a summer day and have so much fun that u forgot to reapply sunscreen…. Maybe that’s what life is about ! Hmm….

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stop delaying your healing process by opening doors to toxic people. everyone is worth forgiving but not everyone is worth reconciling with. don’t hinder your progress to make others comfortable. you owe it to yourself to heal. make this season personal and continue on with evolving.

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quick reminder that it’s ok to say that you love reading and that reading is your passion without reading 30+ books in a year. if you connect with books and love the power of the written word, you’re bookish. you don’t need to justify your love of reading.

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build a circle of friends who are genuine. who are safe energetically. who are mature spiritually. who hold space and not animosity. who hold compassion and not judgment. who take time to check on you and your process. who grow through life with you + wish you well.

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100 Things To Do Instead Of Doom-Scrolling Through Social Media

Read a book.

Write in a journal.

Learn to cook a new recipe.

Practice a musical instrument.

Start a DIY project.

Draw or paint.

Learn a new language.

Do a puzzle.

Exercise or do yoga.

Listen to a podcast.

Watch a documentary.

Play a board game.

Try a new workout routine.

Meditate.

Start a garden.

Plan a future trip.

Volunteer online.

Write a letter to a friend or family member.

Learn to knit or crochet.

Take online courses.

Practice photography.

Organize your closet.

Play video games.

Learn a magic trick.

Write a short story.

Create a vision board.

Make a playlist of your favorite songs.

Try a new hairstyle.

Experiment with makeup.

Learn to juggle.

Play a card game.

Do a home workout challenge.

Explore virtual museums or art galleries.

Do a digital detox day.

Learn calligraphy.

Rearrange your furniture.

Create a scrapbook.

Learn to play chess.

Write and perform a song.

Practice mindfulness.

Learn origami.

Plan a themed dinner night.

Do a home spa day.

Learn to code.

Play a musical instrument.

Build a blanket fort.

Take online dance lessons.

Research and try a new type of tea.

Learn about astronomy and stargaze.

Try a new board game.

Create a podcast.

Learn to solve a Rubik's Cube.

Start a blog.

Make homemade candles.

Research your family tree.

Practice a new type of art (e.g., watercolor, sculpture).

Learn to speed-read.

Write a poem.

Make a list of personal goals.

Learn to play a new card game.

Create a budget.

Build a puzzle or Lego set.

Learn to identify constellations.

Try a new fitness class online.

Make homemade pizza.

Experiment with DIY face masks.

Learn about a historical event.

Create a bucket list.

Learn to tie different knots.

Try a new type of workout (e.g., Pilates, kickboxing).

Create digital art.

Plan a themed movie marathon.

Learn to juggle.

Explore a new genre of music.

Write a letter to your future self.

Take up a new hobby (e.g., birdwatching, geocaching).

Research and try a new type of cuisine.

Make homemade ice cream.

Practice deep breathing exercises.

Create a photo album.

Try a new type of dance.

Write and perform a short play.

Learn to play a new board game.

Take a virtual tour of a historical site.

Make a time capsule.

Learn about different types of architecture.

Plan a virtual game night with friends.

Write and illustrate a children's book.

Try a new form of exercise (e.g., HIIT, Zumba).

Learn about different types of plants.

Create a DIY home decor project.

Plan a themed picnic at home.

Research and try a new type of dessert.

Practice positive affirmations.

Try a new type of puzzle (e.g., crosswords, Sudoku).

Learn about different types of birds.

Experiment with DIY skincare products.

Take up a new form of art (e.g., pottery, glassblowing).

Create a list of things you're grateful for.

Learn about a new culture.

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at a certain point you just get tired of your own shit. you have to force yourself to meditate, workout, eat mindfully and read the books to form a routine that gives you a sense of happiness within yourself again. it’s exhausting i know, but you gotta keep fighting for yourself because no one will take care and love you the way you can for own being. this life is not something to go bout so casually, everyday is your first and last time to embrace this moment. this life was gifted to you with a planet to explore and souls to experience. so show up for yourself.

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10 HARSH TRUTHS YOU HAVE TO ACCEPT

1 . People only value you for the value you bring. There's no such thing as 'love you regardless and people that use this phrase are either ignorant or manipulating you. The amount of love you receive is directly propotional to the value you bring/ how much value they estimate you are at.

2. You live life according to your position not your value or wishes. The broker you are the more values you are forced to overlook. The Bible literally says the poor have no choices & are slave to circumstance. You want success, play into your position. The only thing that will allow you to uphold your values & live a good life is 💰. Being broke is actually the root of all evil.

3. No one cares unless you're pretty, rich and influential enough. You want people to care? Have status. People will preach morality and virtue signal to you but Riddle me this, what more do they do after that? Your friends care more about the fact that Selena Gomez was cheated on than the fact that you were. What, pray I ask. Is the difference? That you're someone they hang out with and Selena is pretty, rich and has status. Be honest with me if they could hang out with with someone richer & prettier would they still choose you? It may be hard to stomach but keep this in mind. We are social animals. We are status seeking and hierarchical. And no you're not the exception that's why if Kim K ever liked a post we'd all know but your mom has been liking for ages and none of us know

4. Nature does not bow to virtue and evolution does not care bout sociology. You want success? Work within your natural boundaries first then venture outside. Women are women, men are men. You'll get the most success by treating women as women and men and men because millions of years of evolution & adaptation does not care about your 587689 word virtue signalling pity ploy. The higher power is learning how we evolved to survive and work within that, regardless of gender. Politics is a waste of time & the most misleading crap we invented. Human beings only have control over max 15% of their minds. The rest is purely run subconsciously, mostly by evolutionary adaptations.

5. No one cares about your pain past self righteousness. This might be the hardest to hear but vulnerability especially in public is self sabotaging. It's natural especially as women to need to vent, get a therapist or coach or internet friend 2 continents away , your day to day friends respect you less by every little form of weakness you show and what says I'm weak here harder than hey look I was hit and I hurt? This is really hard to comprehend bc we care about our maimed ones that's probably what makes us human, this is literally the marker of the human species- we care for our weak. we just don't respect them if they're over 16. We care for them. We want to help them. We will riot for them. We just lose respect. It sucks but it is what it is.

6. It is within the nature of a social species to attack their weak. " So you're saying if I'm getting attacked it's because I'm weak" no, we all are weak you're just showing yours. Have you ever had someone attack you for no reason? Like you literally can not pinpoint what it is you did that made them come at you like that? Now look at the people that are Hella shitty but never face backlash. What's the difference? Exactly. Survival for the strongest sorry. People don't come at you because you're bad or you messed up or you did something wrong- the only reason is you're showing weakness. Evolutionary speaking weaklings put the whole social group in danger and either they bossed up or got killed by their own and sadly we still function primarily on the lizard / & monkey brain. No Saber tooth tiger will anhiliate the whole tribe bc Alice is being wussy but your brain sees Alice being wussy and goes attack. Maybe not jump at Alice but why is she wearing that? Ew. & no its not about muscle it's about non verbal cues.

8. Life is a dying process, not living. Living is the process of getting closer to death. Never put to tomorrow what can be done, today.

9. "Loyalty" , "girlfriend" ," casual sex" and "male dependence" are the most misogynistic things ever invented 100% by men to keep women used. Do with this what you must.

10. You are not better off alone. Safer alone probably , but isolation is a fools game. "Lone wolf" lol no you just need therapy. It's no "sigma" whatever it's a trauma response. There have been countless experiments dating back to BC showing that the literal basic need of any member of a social species is community. When you lose community you seek death. Either directly by attempting suicide or indirectly ie you can't bring yourself to support life, you can't eat or drink or even get out of bed- you lose community & your body seeks death. Your best bet at a healthy happy life is to find community in as many places as you can bc if your bf is your only community if he breaks up with you you'll lose meaning of life bc the meaning of life in itself is community. The human basic need is community. That's why you scroll online for hours - seeking community.

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Literature is the window to the soul.

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Getting out of a rut

Time to get out of our sad girl era ・゜ʚɞ゜・゜

Don’t indulge in depressive behavior. it’s hard, I know. But I promise you will feel so much better the second you force yourself to get up.

Take little steps. Don’t force yourself to do a 20 step skin care routine. Instead, take small steps. Cleanse your face, drink some water, or stretch for 10 mins.

Get outside. Sitting outside for a few minutes can help clear your mind and wake you up! It’ll make you 10x more motivated to get your day going.

Shower. I know it seems obvious, but a simple shower goes a long way when getting out of a depressive state. Clean all that negativity off!

Dress up! Been in the same PJs for 3 days straight? It’s okay. Try something new! Even if it’s sweatpants, it’ll make you feel much more refreshed.

Movement is key. Get your blood pumping. Stretch, walk, exercise, dance, anything works! You’ll feel the energy coming right back to you.

Make plans. Being around loved ones always makes a difference. Friends, family, pets even! Go see them and appreciate the happiness it brings you.

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watching the sunset, going on late night drives, soft radio noise, looking at the stars, light warm breezes, and closing your eyes and being content with where you are at that moment.