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i made some knives for pride month 🌈

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I WANT TO YELL AND HIT THINGS

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So if there's no difference between "bisexual" and "pansexual," why does it matter what labels people use? Not trying to be critical, just curious about why this debate needs to happen.

the truth is, no one wants to be bisexual. we’re not blind, we know that everyone thinks we’re lying, we’re sluts, we’re attention seekers, we’re stupid, we’re apolitical, we’re here to fulfil their fantasies and then be discarded, we’re gross, we’ll give you STIs, we’ll cheat on you, we’re unstable, unreliable, we don’t know ourselves, we’re unwoke, we’re fake gay, we’re fake straight, everyone is fascinated with us but no one likes us, no one takes us seriously, no one believes our pain and our struggles and we don’t belong anywhere

we know exactly what kind of ideas people will associate with us as soon as we call ourselves “bisexual”, we know how hated and tainted that word is and that’s why so many of us shun labels, say vague things like “i just like people” or “I’m queer”, that’s why there are 200 new labels than mean bisexual but use different words, because we’ll do anything to run away from the pain of how the world sees and treats bisexuals

even in leftist spaces, bisexuality is the one issue that is still a fair target, that you can say anything about, people can say we’re just scared of fully coming out, we’re perpetuating patriarchy, we’re transphobes, we’re binarist, whatever, you can literally say anything and no one will stand up for us, including bisexuals because we’ve internalised all those messages and don’t believe we actually deserve respect or care, we don’t believe bisexuality is political or important or worthy  

it takes years of intense work and dedication to accept you’re bi let alone to feel pride in your bisexuality

and that’s why having another label that means bisexual but isn’t bisexual is so fucking harmful, because it prevents us from addressing and tackling biphobia - both internalised and societal - by distracting us and by pretending we can run away from it by simply using a shiny new label

making up a new word for bisexuality means you think bisexuality is disposable, worthless, optional, not worth fighting for, it’s disrespecting and discarding decades of bisexual history and activism and it’s alienating bisexuals from the existing bi communities all over the world

it’s shallow in the long term and will have incredibly harmful long term consequences

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a bisexual person saying “i think it is beautiful that i love those of all genders. bisexuality is freeing and revolutionary” is not putting down another persons sexuality. it is pride in one’s own sexuality.

a lesbian saying “my sole attraction to women is not regressive, but instead revolutionary. recognizing that im a lesbian has allowed me to be truly free” does not imply that lesbianism is the only “good” sexuality. it is pride in one’s own sexuality.

a gay man saying “I find freedom in my attraction to men. love between men is just as beautiful and revolutionary as any other love” is not saying that being gay is inherently better than other sexualities. it is pride in one’s own sexuality.

and quite frankly, a trans person taking pride in their sexuality (regardless of what that may be) is always going to be revolutionary, especially love between trans people. trans people absolutely have the right to take vocal pride in their sexuality without being accused of putting down other members of the lgbt community. this is absolutely true for straight trans people as well, who should not have to diminish or deny one’s sexuality when expressing their pride in their identity.

unless someone is saying “[ ] is the only free sexuality” or “[ ] love is the only revolutionary love,” there is no reason to assume that pride in one’s sexuality is an offense to another’s. and quite honestly, if you find yourself angered by another persons expression of pride, that may be a bias you need to evaluate.

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i find it so poetic and sexy that for my entire life i was force fed christianity, blind patriotism, and reagan-republicanism, spent most of my youth and adolescence forbidden from watching/playing/listening to certain things bc they were ~bad~ and would ~distance me from god~, and was always expected to marry a man and produce children

and after all that i STILL came out an agnostic bisexual socialist who straight up believes in astrology and reads tarot! i really love that for me

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i love the internet 

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on one hand i know that people self-id’ing as ‘heteroflexible’ or ‘straight but fluid’ or whatever are most likely dealing with internalized biphobia so i do have sympathy for that but on the other hand WOW is it annoying to hear that shit

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might be a controversial opinion but i think we should stop explaining to biphobes that their “bi means two, pan/omni means all” rhetoric is harmful and just start beating them up

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cishets will really be like “I’ve never had a problem with gay people!” and wait for applause

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man. every day it’s harder to sit and take the homophobic shit people say bc they can’t fathom than there’s anyone but straight ppl in the room. it’s so fucking exhausting

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thinking a lot lately how much time I could have had to love myself if I hadn’t been drowned my whole life. how much I could have known and experienced and the freedom I could have felt with this burden off my shoulders.

it feels too late for me now. like half my life is over and I’ve spent it all in fear. I might have loved so much if I could have just left god at the door and let myself grow as tall and wide and deep as I could be. I have spent decades crouching, sucking in, and filling holes, and I am tired.

as long as I’ve had thought I have known there was something inside me, colorful and expansive and light, desperately trying to emerge. it stretched me, bursting at the seams trying to bubble up.

it feels like a song on the tip of your tongue, or the restless legs of a dancer, or laughter threatening to burst free, or tears on eyelashes at the risk of falling. forever I’ve been crushing that beneath hands heavy with the hatred of those around me.

there is something beautiful at the bottom of this well but she has emptied herself from trying to climb. I would give my life to go back in time and throw her a rope.

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this is still so fucking funny to me?? 4th grade me drafted up a lengthy story about a party where 2 women eventually sneak out into the hot tub and fuck, promptly had a whole meltdown thinking my parents would somehow find it even once the file was deleted from the trash bin, and then refused to verbally acknowledge to anyone that I was genuinely attracted to women until age 21. LMAO

10 year old me really wrote hot girl on girl stories for zero reason at all and then spent the next decade pretending she was straight

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(op was a transmisogynist so my post now)

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Hey queer! A fellow queer here to say hi! Queers are cool! The word queer is also very cool and inclusive! Queer is not a bad word so don't try and make it be! Don't force more hatred on us queers! We've done nothing wrong and our identity being a slur is just offensive to us! Queer is cool and queer is okay!!!!

Matthew Shepard was tortured and pistol whipped and then tied to a fence, where he was left by the side of the road to slowly die. After six days in hospital, he passed away from his extensive head injuries.

At his funeral, Westboro Baptist Church as well as other hate groups protested his funeral with signs saying “F*gs go to hell” as well as signs saying “No tears for queers.”

This happened in my life time. I am 25 years old and in my life, a gay funeral was protested by people screaming about queers deserving violent death.

LGBT people saying that the word queer hurts them, triggers them, and traumatizes them is not comparable to the offense meant by cishets using that word to hurt, humiliate, and dehumanize us.

This is like if you walked around with a sword by your side all the time and said it was your “comfort” item. Sure, good for you. I’m glad you found some comfort. But if other people are threatened by it, harmed by it, you gotta leave your sword at home. Which means most of the time you gotta leave it at home when you’re in public because most people see swords as a threat, implicitly. That’s how queer as a slur works–we see it as a threat first.

So, you need to analyze why you’re prioritizing a slur and how shiny you think it is over cries of hurting, victimized LGBT people. Empathy is free and easy once you stop being a selfish piece of shit.

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10 year old me really wrote hot girl on girl stories for zero reason at all and then spent the next decade pretending she was straight

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I have decided that once they make a plain pink heart emoji I will have to come out bc then there is no excuse to not have the pink purple blue heart emoji combo all over my social media

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if you’re a wlw, reblog this and tell me your identity and whether or not you can cook. it’s for science

i’m a lesbian and i can microwave chicken nuggets really good