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The start of my 3D art journey!

The image above is my first attempt at learning 3js. Tutorial here: https://youtu.be/xJAfLdUgdc4?feature=shared I’m currently learning this for another project I’m working on (freelance developer stuff), but learning 3js gave me the inspiration to start making interactive 3D art online! I don’t think I’ve seen a lot of it, or at least heard of, such kinds of things online. Maybe I’m just out…

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The Simple Way To Beat Dating Anxiety

What fears have you overcome and how? Let me start this article by telling you about my struggles. Upon first using Hinge, I was a nervous wreck. Still am, mind you. I’d never actually gone on a date in my 25 years of life, so asking someone out seemed ridiculous. I would go on and on with conversations. Trying so hard to keep it going. I overlooked a crucial part of this whole process: you…

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The 24 Hour Text Rule

What quality do you value most in a friend? For me, one of the most important things for me when making friends is communication. Do they actually want to get to know me? Or am I just background noise? The former is what I hope to be true. Now, I’m not going to be unreasonable. I don’t expect someone to get back to me in 5 minutes. Some people do and I’m grateful for that. However, it’s not…

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I don’t need to leave a legacy behind. I only need to affect one person.

What is the legacy you want to leave behind? I was fortunate to be able to see Hamilton on Broadway. It’d be an understatement to say it was good. It was AMAZING. One thing I remember was Hamilton’s obsession to leave behind a legacy. While he did leave behind a legacy, it cost him a lot of things in the present. He was extremely ambitious, and it’s admirable. I however don’t have the desire…

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I will never have it all (and that’s ok)

What does “having it all” mean to you? Is it attainable? It’s not to say that working towards a goal is bad or anything. It’s not a bad thing to want something. To expect things to be drastically different just because you “made it” or “have it all” is what I’m talking about. Life will never be perfect because that’s impossible. When you finally hit that magical goal you’ve been working…

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Green Tea & ADHD:

Now don’t take this as medical advice. This is purely my own experience. On the days when I’m working until the late hours or am just too damn noisy in my brain at night, I drink green tea. Turns out it’s good for ADHD and anxiety. Who would’ve known. Apparently, it’s due to the caffeine (stimulant for ADHD, and at least for me caffeine calms me down funny enough) and L-Theanine, which reduces…

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A life without pain is a stagnant life

Up until recently, I avoided pain. It’s normal to not like pain. It’s an uncomfortable and unpleasant feeling. We naturally try to avoid it as it’s our survival instinct. The type of pain I want to talk about is emotional pain. The one we experience with people. Whether it’s losing a loved one, going through heartbreak, being the one who breaks someone’s heart, etc. It’s very easy to decide…

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I Don’t Want To Have To Fight For Love

Like anyone, I’ve been rejected a number of times. All for different reasons. The common denominator: I kept fighting for their attention despite how awful it felt. I don’t want to do this anymore. I shouldn’t have to try to win you over. I shouldn’t have to prove to you that you should try to love me. I shouldn’t just be one of your many options. I shouldn’t have to try so hard for very little…

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My ADHD is not a gift. It’s a curse.

I would love to think this quirky part of me is a gift. It is to an extent and I love this part of me. At the end of the day, it’s who I am. It doesn’t mean that there aren’t just some things I absolutely hate about it. Time management requires so much energy I’d like to think I’ve gotten better at this. I have calendars and to-do lists for everything I do. Without it, I would not survive the…

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Rome wasn’t build overnight. It was built brick by brick.

Picture this: You’ve just started a new hobby. It’s exciting, new, and you spend multiple hours on it. It’s overwhelming how much there is. Now all you want to do is lie down. This is me half of the time when I start new interests. It’s exhilarating, but I often find myself overwhelmed. Passion is not enough Passion is not enough long-term. It may drive you in the beginning, but it’s a fire…

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Why You Should Stop Making New Year’s Resolutions

I used to like the idea of making New Year’s resolutions. Start the year with a bang, right? As I started not following through with them, I got more frustrated. So, the long search for how to finally “do what I set out to do” began. Eventually, I realized something: Why wait until the New Year’s Day to start making changes? What’s wrong with the other 364 days of the year? There’s nothing…

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Human memory sucks. Write stuff down.

My memory is terrible. Important things get forgotten and unimportant things are burned permanently into my brain. Let’s face it: our memory is unreliable. We will forget things, it’s inevitable. Our brains can only handle so much cognitive load. To-Do Lists Confession: my to-do list is a nightmare. So much random junk I’ve never felt like deleting. However, it still serves its purpose – a…

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Don’t give unsolicited advice. Write for the internet instead.

I have a habit of wanting to help people with their problems. It’s because when I have an issue, I spend a lot of time introspecting and trying to figure out a new approach to my own issues. But, it’s not my job nor my place to help. People can change. But, you can’t change them. I firmly believe that people can change. Every moment we are slowly changing as people. It’s just completely…

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Heartbreak and Cold Showers Are Not That Different

I constantly found myself avoiding discomfort. Whether that was presentations in class, talking during meetings, or mingling with new people. Especially when it came to dating. I avoided it like the plague for most of my life. No one ever told me what was right or wrong. Even with good role models (my parents), I still felt clueless. Why I started taking cold showers I had recently cut ties…

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If you want to start, take action now

I was hesitant on starting this blog. Why? Well, let me tell you: I don’t like writing. Or rather, I never thought I was a good writer. But, I’ve always wanted to help people. If I could help someone have that “aha!” moment, that would mean the world to me. But, there were definitely a few mental roadblocks I had to face first… “I don’t have anything valuable to give to the world” I always…