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Got inspired by today's session. Trying out color for once. Slight headcannon that Impulse's eulogy was also a threat

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That sadness when talking with your best friend feels like a drug whose high fades before the conversation is even over.

A high you internally swear you shouldn't have, a pain you'd best avoid.

Yet no one else knows you, because you don't know how to really communicate, because you're a perfectionist whose social skills come from video games, and are thus terrified of messing up the slightest thing that you have.

So you ramble on, the normally quiet thing gushing out words as though a hole had been drilled into a dam.

Then you wonder why they were silent, why only your words have been carried through the air for the last 30 minutes.

And you feel so terribly alone.

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© plutoxoxi via x/twitter

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feeds angels communion bread like i’m an old person on a park bench throwing crumbs to birds

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amazing lesson ive been learning lately : turning down help, favours, kindnesses, free samples - is not any more polite than accepting them. i always believed one was supposed to turn these things down - I thought it was the obligation of the other person to offer them, (so they didn't particularly want to provide) and that it was thus my obligation in the social contract to say 'oh no thank you, I'm fine'. this is not the best way to build rapport!

now this may not be universal, but recently I've been saying 'that would be lovely - yes, thank you!', even to stuff I don't necessarily want badly. the reason this works is there is nothing more fun than doing something kind for another person and by accepting those things we are giving the people around us the opportunity to feel that particularly good feeling. when they then associate that with us, we build stronger emotional connections.

logically, being as 'easy' to have around as possible felt to me the most obvious way to ensure people never felt a single negative feeling about me. two problems with this:

1. people do not remember the particulars - they may not realise that you always say 'no' to a cup of tea, or a biscuit, or a lift home. and they almost certainly don't realise your intention is to make them feel positively about you. they remember the feeling they get around you, which is pretty much gonna be 'neutral' if you always refuse their offerings. leads me to my next point:

2. the absence of negative feelings is a very boring baseline and it doesn't build relationships. the presence of positive bonding emotions creates relationships. no friend will think 'we are friends because you always accept a cup of tea from me', but you will almost certainly be set on the route to friendship by accepting offerings, showing gratitude, and offering things in return, because these things produce positive emotions between you that lead to more opportunities to be emotionally close.

i lay this out because it took me until a few weeks ago to put it into words, and I have found it so much easier to do once I articulated to myself what it is, why it works, and why I want to do it.

ok love u all mwah!

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myths about sinking britain

“there is no historical precedent for sinking britain!” doggerland, which connected britain to the european mainland, was submerged by water in 6500BC. there is precedent for sinking britain.

“it is unfeasible to sink britain!” britain is strategically located to allow many nations to co-operate in its sinking

“sinking britain would raise sea levels!” the netherlands already has dams

“sinking britain would cause more problems geopolitically than it would solve!” we simply won’t know this until we sink britain

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Reblog if

It’s 104% okay to come to your DM and just say, “Hi, can we be friends?” And then start asking you random questions.

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Polyamorous as in movie night snacks and cuddles piles, Polyamorous as in walks through a park and we see slides and swingsets with no one using them and we make a day out of it, Polyamorous as in we're walking downtown laughing on the way to our favorite food shop/store/vender, Polyamorous as in having a genuine connection to the people you love and care about because Polyamorous doesn't mean just lots of sex with multiple people. I mean, it can. But you get my point! Campfires and tent cuddles! Roasting smored with your partners and laughing at stupid joked or spooky stories. Give Me Some Domestic Polyamory.

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Mood board but it's lyrics from songs that the character would sing at the top of their lungs

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Battle Against a True Hero

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Friends younger than me are getting married.

Friends older than me are struggling with house payments.

Meanwhile I still feel like a teenager

Being 22 is weird as fuck. Someone 5 years younger than me is effectively 3 sniffs old + just born. Someone 5 years older than me can have a PhD. I know someone my age who recently realised that by buying a bed they can sleep on something more comfortable than the floor but other people my age have kids. there are people younger than me becoming world-famous musicians and athletes. what the fuck is going on

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yeah i dual-wield

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my blog is a safe space for me. the rest of you are in danger i think

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*hiccup*

Rumors and mysteries of the true language of humanity. That spoken by babies before we indoctrinate them in our society.

You fail to consider that you've been so thoroughly corrupted that you would be rejected outright in the eyes of your ancestors for you too were corrupted beyond measure before you knew they existed.

*hiccup*

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