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WHAT DO THEY WANT?!?

Ladies and Gentleman.....

This is my rant to desperately try to understand the male brain. Now, I’ve taken a Gender Communication class and much like every other school class we have forced upon us, we learn a lot of interesting (or not) things, but hardly does it ever prepare us for real like scenarios and this case is no exception.

The issue at hand here is: Do guys like it when girls are tough and can hold their own, or do they like it when they play the “damsel in distress role?” And the reason I ask this is because at work I deal with two types of guy. Type 1, being the nice, gentleman type and type 2, the immature meat head type and they both tend to make comments that really irk me.

We will start with guy type 2......I was looking for things to do to keep busy until I leave for the day so I go up to him, and ask if he needs any help with anything. Without looking up,HE LAUGHS and says “nooooooo, but if YOU Need help, let me know.” I was mind-blown that he actually laughed at me.

Now lets look at guy type 1 scenario...... He on the other hand never minded asking me for help. He would gladly accept my help. The problem is, whenever he would offer to help me, on occasion I would accept (which is not something I do easily) and then he would come back with a comment making it clear that it’s not something he can do all the time for me, as if I was mooching help off of him or taking advantage. Again, I was mind-blown at the fact that because I accepting his help once or twice, he assumed that I was constantly relying on him for help.

Now after considering what I learned in my class, I can understand type 2 guy’s response because he is a guy who is very much a hands on manly man and I was emasculating by asking him if he needs, so there is basically no way he would accept my help even if he needed it. However, type 1 is a little bit more tricky. My guess is that while he is a little bit more secure with his masculinity, he might of thought that I was taking advantage of my “feminine role” and taking advantage of him? Maybe?

Regardless.....I’ve come to discover that guys are tricky, especially when it involves their masculinity so my question to the ladies is.....have you ever delt with anything similar? and to the guys....What are you looking for? A lady who is the damsel in distress or a lady who is tough and can hold their own?

A Penny for your thoughts !

Toodles xoxoxo

H.

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The start of something new

Hey guys!

I have to decided to create this blog for three reasons.....A. Because I’ve always wanted to have a blog......B. Because my family kept bugging me about getting an outlet to get my writing “out there” and C.....Because admirably (not that I’d ever admit that to them) but they are probably right. So.....Here I am.

I bet your probably wondering what this person is going to be writing about and well for now, just about about anything and everything that’s on my mind. I work on a horse farm and a lot of the issues I encounter on a day to day basis can be translated to everyone’s daily frustrations and I would like to shed some light, or maybe just some comical relief to the situation. And then hopefully once I get more followers, You all can ask me questions and I can help you answer them the best way I possibly can. That is, to say, I get more followers.

If, by chance, I get no followers, then I’ll just be here, writing to myself. PLEASE don’t let me be that person!! :P

Toodles!