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I'm on a dig and there's a student from America here too. They identify as non binary and their middle name is Anne, and when I found this out I said "thats a really nice name".

Their response, "I want to change it to Anthony."

I said, confused because Anne is such a nice name and they're female, "whys that?"

And they fully, unironically said, "because it makes me sound like a girl."

I just responded with "Oh okay."

My thoughts were "okay, then change it to Sam, Jaime, Alex, Nicki, a unisex name. Whats wrong with sounding like a girl? If you don't want to sound feminine then change to something unisex...but why go full steam opposite to male? This is reaffirming the sexism that womanhood is bad, feminine things are bad, etc."

Fucking pisses me off.

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It’s always “listen to Woc and gay women’s voices” until one of those voices is a terf.

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Is it "gender wars" or are women just WAKING UP and men don't like it (as they never did) and will do anything they can to stop it?

C'mon guys, do you think men held the suffragettes' hands when they fought for their rights, or do you think they called them crazy and beat them?

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"I hate feminism because I have to work now..."

Get the hell up you bleached oatmeal barrel, you would have to work either way. The only difference is that thanks to the feminism your salary belongs to you and isn't sent straight to your owner husband.

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This is gonna piss of the male lovers, but it needs to be said:

If you are having PIV sex and do not want to become pregnant, but do not have a plan for when the possibility arises, you are not mature enough to be having sex.

And I mean this with the best intentions. I'm really gonna need women to make choices that are in THEIR best interest. And I know it's not fair, and I know it sucks, and I know abortion access has been declining, and I'm really terribly sorry about that. But that does not mean you have to make decisions that put your life in danger. I am on my knees begging women to make good decisions and every time they seem to get angry about it for some reason.

Please, have a backup plan, have a way to get an abortion or just don't fuck men! Stop shooting yourselves in the foot. He doesn't even make you come, I don't know why women are risking their livelihoods for sex with men.

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Most mothers did not consent to being a mother.

Either because physical force was used, it happened "accidentally" or it is illegal for them to get an abortion. But, there is also another aspect. Most mothers did not even consent to being a mother because they did not have all the information they needed to make a fully informed choice. How many mothers were told is it highly likely that they develop pelvic floor issues, become single moms, get abused, have a disabled child, get a husband stitch etc etc. And after all that, that they will take on the majority of housekeeping and childcare? And do you think the society keeps us ignorant by accident? No.

There would be very few of us if women made informed choices regarding pregnancy and having children. Most women did not consent to having children.

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Grandmas were so right about puzzles and knitting and crocheting and solitaire and reading slow and slippers and baking and watching deer in the backyard send post

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When I was like 15 or 16 I helped conduct an intergenerational LGBT meeting. I presented alongside a millennial nonbinary bisexual woman to a room of gay, lesbian, bisexual, and two spirit elders. The presentation was to inform these elders on what the new generations of local LGBT people are doing, and how we're identifying, and with what words. We ran through a bunch of sexualities and trans and nonbinary gender identities and "queer" identity.

These people who were all 50+ were trying to keep up with the times, but their bodies visibly tensed when we started using the word "queer." They started whispering to each other, becoming less engaged. I remember one flamboyant guy started rolling his eyes and lightly heckling. At the end we took questions, and they started telling me and my millennial mentor about the word queer.

Most of them had been called it derogatorily, like a slur. Many of them were called that while being beaten–that was a story that many of the gay men spoke up about. An elderly lesbian for angry at the presentation and told us that she would never be queer because she's not unusual. One gay man had a homophobic bully that terrorized him as a boy, called him a queer and they got in a fight. The gay man grabbed a brick and hit the guy's head–he ended up dying and the gay man was convicted of manslaughter. He was crying while he admitted all this, telling me that that's how serious the word "queer" is to the older generations. I think it's one of the largest reasons why we are disconnected from our elders.

After the meeting I felt awful. I couldn't stop thinking about how they were talking about not liking what the community is becoming, but back then I was too young to fully grasp it. My mentor assured me that progress takes time, and they will eventually do the right thing and come around to using the proper pronouns, and accepting of "queerness". But I wasn't so sure. Whenever I hear the word queer, I think of all the people that we alienate.

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