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Hotwifing is growing in popularity. 58% of men secretly admit they would like to share their wives. Imagine that! Half the men you know are into that and many of yours girlfriends are likely already doing it. A Hotwife is a married woman with permission to play but she makes the rules. Her husband must remain faithful. This lifestyle is a huge turn-on for many men. It’s not about jealousy and bi-curiosity. It’s about control. It’s about sharing the woman he loves, getting off on her enjoying other men, her being a personal porn star. Men who are into this kink tend to be hardworking, intelligent leaders. Alpha males, they are used to being boss with a take-charge personality and this lifestyle puts the control in the Hotwife’s hands. The more fun the hotwife has, the more her husband enjoys it.

It started for me when I found Hotwife porn on my hubby’s computer. I was shocked, offended. I thought he wanted to fuck other women. This was far from the truth. It took some time to realize he wanted to share me. It turned him on and he did not know how to tell me. Would I think he wanted to cheat if I did it? Would I think he’s bi? These are fears he had and it took some time for me to realize it was all about him being turned on by me being naughty and in control. It was all about me and him finding me attractive. Me being naughty makes him want me more. It’s brought us so much closer.

Most marriages get very boring in the bedroom. Hotwifing spices it up 100x. It’s important to focus on the physical aspect of sex with your dates and the emotional connection with sex with your hubby. The extra sex with other men isn’t the main focus, ITS THE RECLAIMING SEX WITH YOUR HUBBY. You just enjoyed a great, liberating experience and hubby gets you in the end every time. You’re going to be having a lot more sex and you will find yourself saying “can you do what X did to me?”.

Some of my list below ventures more on your hubby being more submissive. Others less so. If your hubby does not want to do the extra submissive ones, that’s ok. You might not either. It’s important to be respectful to hubby. Your date should always be respectful if your hubby is there for the encounter. He should never ridicule your hubby. That will ruin the experience. Depending on your relationship, you may say more submissive things like “what do you want him to do to me” or “is this what you wanted to see?”, or more dominant things like “watch how good he fucks me”, or engaging in more dominant activities that you will find below. Many couples are afraid to try the light dominant acts, but you might be surprised how much you’re both into it once you do.

Here are some tips, challenges, and dares!

Starting out:

1. Point out men you’d like to fuck. Tease the idea.

2. Tell your husband you know men who want to fuck you.

3. Flirt with men, even in front of your husband. Make it obvious you’re flirting. Even say something like “you and I should get together for drinks sometime. This is my hubby but he’s working tomorrow. How about we get together then?”

4. Tell men you’re married and need extra cock. A lot of men will fuck you harder knowing you’re married.

5. Talk about your exes. Especially sex with them.

6. Tell your husband you want to fuck other men during sex.

7. Tell your husband you won’t fuck him again until you fuck someone else.

8. During sex, make him admit you deserve more cock. Not just from him, but you deserve to be well fucked by other men, often.

9. Tell your husband of fun you’ve had with men while in bed. Be honest and tell him of occasions you’ve never told him. He WILL be turned on. I told mine of some past infidelity from years back and he was turned on.

10. Tell your husband you want to fuck your ex (and do it)

11. Tell your husband you want to feel another man fill your pussy with cum.

12. During foreplay, tell your husband you want to leave to go fuck someone you know. Have your husband take a pic of you to send to him right then.

13. Go to a hotel bar with your husband and flirt with guys. Try to get invited to his room.

14. Dance with guys and grind on them in front of your husband.

15. Have your husband tell a guy you’ve been flirting with that he wants him to fuck you.

16. Have drinks with your husband and a guy you want to fuck and tell the guy how you want to be fucked. Touch him, get close to him, guide his hands.

17. Get a guy’s number that you met with your hubby and secretly sext him in front of your hubby. Pro tip: Use the message app Kik.

18. Go on a girls night out and go home with a guy. Best if you have single friends. Make sure to dress slutty and have your husband watch you get ready. He’s hoping it turns into a late night.

19. Carry condoms in your purse and make sure your husband knows.

20. Sext other men and show your husband.

21. Have your husband take pics of you in your underwear for you to send to men.

22. Make a dating profile (Ashley Madison, Tinder, etc). This is a must do. Show hubby the guys you want to fuck.

23. Have your husband pay for lingerie your lover will enjoy. Say things like “Do you think he’d like to fuck me in this?”

24. Have your husband help you get ready for a solo date. Make sure to trim very well. Very little or no hair. Clean yet sooooo dirty :p

25. Go out and send updates and pics. Start clothed at a bar or restaurant with his hand on your hips or butt. Your hand on his crotch, etc. First kiss.

26. Go to his place and have your date send a pic of you bent over in your underwear. If it’s new underwear say something like “recognize the new panties you bought me? I found someone who will be the first to make them wet”

27. Send pics of his hand on your panties, rubbing your crotch. Suggestive pics. Don’t go full nude. Tease him.

28. Send pics of his face in your pussy.

28. Send a selfie with his dick in your mouth (very hot)

29. The pics stop as your hubby knows you are getting fucked.

30. Alternative: Live video or speakerphone your husband while you get fucked. Moan loud and beg for cock. Make sure to audibly tell your lover you are married and need to be fucked harder than your husband fucks you.

31. If you choose to send pics of the action, use low light. Tease him with it.

32. If no condom, scream for him to cum in your pussy.

33. If using a condom, use a new one each time you fuck and bring them all home to show your husband.

34. Tell your lover to make your panties soaking wet so you can show your husband.

35. Play with the idea of having your hubby eat your pussy after your date or kiss you after a blowjob. You might not think it, but when in the act both tend to find it very hot.

36. BONUS: Let your lover cum in your pussy and put your panties on immediately. Go home, lay on the bed, and spread your legs showing your husband your cum soaked panties.

37. Tell your husband every detail. You decide if your husband deserves a blow job, hand job, let him fuck you, or make him jerk off.

38. Make your husband use a condom to fuck you. Or don’t. Make him be your sloppy seconds.

39. MAKE HIM WATCH: It’s not going to be easy to find a guy who is okay with hubby watching. This is often best done if it’s someone you have been fucking so you and your lover are both comfortable. The three hottest moments of the first encounter hubby sees is watch your date slowly undress you, watching his cock enter you for the first time, and cum dripping out of you.

40. Introduce your lover: “Hubby, this is Mark. He knows how to fuck me and he’s going to show you how I like it.” Or “what do you want him to do to me?”

41. Have him sit outside the bedroom door and listen “Sorry, you can’t watch but we’ll let you listen”. Then make it loud!

42. Have hubby hold you while you get fucked.

43. Have your husband pull aside your panties while your lover eats your pussy.

44. Have your husband take off your panties for your lover.

45. Alternative: Make sure your panties are wet and put them on your husband’s head.

46. Or fuck with your panties on so they are wet and cum soaked. Visually, women look hot fucking with the panties pulled aside. Plus, you’ll get more cum in them for later tips.

47. Ride your lover’s cock so your hubby can see from behind. Great in video too.

48. Tell your husband he can’t touch himself. BONUS: strap him to a chair.

49. Look in your husband’s eyes as you’re fucked from behind.

50. Moan loud. Tell him how good you’re being fucked.

51. Wear your wedding ring and have your lover cum on it.

52. BONUS: Have your lover do something to you that your husband doesn’t: “Fuck my ass”, etc.

53. Have your hubby rent a hotel room and send him out for drinks when you have a “guest”. He’ll come back to you getting fucked.

***Other adventures:

54. Fuck several men. Make some more frequent but keep options. Fuck other men AT LEAST once a week. Your hubby will want to fuck you immediately, so be prepared for lots of sex.

55. Have your husband drive you to your lovers house.

56. Fuck your lover all night and call your husband to pick you up in the morning only to fuck your lover once more while he waits.

57. Kiss your lover as you leave and tell him you can’t wait to fuck again.

58. Tell your husband to thank your lover for fucking you.

59. Have your husband wait outside your lovers house while you fuck.

60. Tell your hubby to undress you for your lover.

61. Fuck your lover at home and leave your panties, a condom, or other memento on his side of the bed.

62. Fuck your lover on your wedding anniversary. Bonus if you’re wearing bridal lingerie. I planned this for a weekend getaway. My husband watched as I wore white panties that said “bride” on the back and white leggings for three rounds of fucking in our hotel room.

62. Fuck your lover on your husband’s side of the bed while he’s at work. Send pics and video.

63. Suck your lover’s cock and send a pic of the cum in your mouth to your husband.

64. Have your husband rent a room for you and your lover for the weekend. Count the number of times you cum and tell hubby. Must send pics!

65. Tell your husband he can’t fuck you until you’ve fucked X number of guys or X number of times.

66. Let your lover do things to you that you don’t do with your husband (cum in your ass, threesome with two guys). All the reason for private sessions without hubby.

67. Speaking of 3somes. Try two guys at once.

68. Wear panties with slutty messages (Return to Husband Full, Make a Mess My Hubby Will Clean It Up, Fuck Me Harder Than My Husband). Show this to men you’re flirting with in front of your hubby: Unzip and show message “what do you think of these?” I have some that say “my hubby won’t mind” at the top of the butt that I let guys see when in bars or a dance club.

***ADVANCED:

69. BIG BONUS AND VERY HOT. HE DOESN’T KNOW IT YET BUT THIS IS A BIG TURNON: When you come home with your panties full of cum, take them off, put on something sexy, and put the creamy panties on his head so your lover’s cum drips on him. Just do it. Nothing tells him you got well fucked like cum in your panties. VERY HOT.

70. Or…lay him on the ground while wearing the panties and rub your crotch on his face. Very very hot. He might just eat your pussy. I’m getting wet thinking about it.

71. Or…if using condoms, empty them in your panties and put them on his head.

72. When doing this, rub his cock and tell him how good you got fucked and tell him he needs to see and feel how good the cum was that was inside you. Tell him to feel your well used pussy.

73. When fucking in front of your hubby, make him wear your panties.

74. Blow your lover and swallow, but leave some on your lips. Tongue kiss your hubby.

***If your hubby REALLY deserves to be teased. You are in control and he WILL do what you say.

74. If your husband is watching, tell your lover to make a mess of your pussy because your husband will clean it up. Then sit on him when you’re done and let it leak all over him. His legs, chest, even his face.

75. BONUS: make him eat your pussy whether or not you used condoms. If you came home from a date, tell hubby to pull your panties aside and eat your pussy, especially if he cheated with X. Tell him how good you got fucked. Just tell him to do it and he will do it. YOU MAKE THE RULES.

76. Make a list of consequences. Checked a girl out: You get a Tinder date. Watched porn: you’re free to be a porn star with another man for the day. Flirted with a girl: You fuck five guys. One nighters, all weekend, your ex, someone you both know. Anyone you want and you make the rules. Even if he has to fly you somewhere to fuck someone all week. Updates and pics are required.

77. Spanking.

***Clearly there a humiliation factor that you both will get off to. Men knowing they are fucking his wife, you fucking men you both know. Maybe a friend knowing. Spanking (naughty boys deserve it). Your lover’s cum on hubby. Your lovers being told to show hubby how you like it. Have fun with this. It will make the experience stronger.

78. The hotwife 69. Get in the 69 position with your hubby but have your lover fuck you so your hubby has a great view just inches from your pussy.

79. ADVANCED: Strap-on play.

80. Wear a Hotwife anklet. Guaranteed to get attention of men in the know.

81. Have a friend spank your hubby. I have a friend who is a bit kinky and knows about our lifestyle. She felt my hubby needed punishment for flirting with a mutual friend years ago. I brought a guy home on girls night and she spanked my hubby, with my lovers belt, as I was getting fucked by my lover. I came out with the belt and handed it to her. After a while I came out with my soaking wet panties for him to wear and she sparked him. Of course you need a friend you can trust for this one.

***This Hotwife activity has brought us closer. We are more open sexually and satisfied. After all, I get many times more sex than ever. Sex with my husband is frequent. HAVE FUN!

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Terms & Definitions:

Swingers: Typically a couple in which both partners are allowed to engage in sexual activities with other men and women outside of their relationship, often referred to as “full swap.”

Hotwife: A wife who has her husband’s permission to engage in sexual activities with other men. Also the term used to describe the fantasy with the same scenario. In this relationship all extra marital activities are approved of by the husband. Trust, respect, and the couple’s love for each other are central to the relationship.

Cuckold: A man in a relationship with a woman who engages in sexual activities with other men and women outside of their relationship, usually with a level of cheating and or humiliation. -Cuckolding

Cuckoldress: The female half of a cuckold relationship. A woman who engages in sex with men other than her husband, usually imposing a level humiliation on her husband about her extra marital activities.

Vixen: One term used to describe a woman in a Hotwife relationship.

Stag: One term used to describe a strong male figure in a Hotwife relationship.

Cucky: A humiliating term used to describe a man in a cuckold relationship.

Bull: The name often given to a wife’s repeat lover in a hotwife or cuckold arrangement

Reclaim: A term used to describe the passionate sex couples often experience the first time they have sex after one of them has has sex with someone outside of their relationship.

Hall Pass: Often used to describe a onetime “free pass” given to one of the members in a relationship to enjoy one sexual encounter with a person outside of the relationship.

Half Open Marriage: Used to describe a relationship in which one member of the relationship has the other‘s permission to enjoy complete sexual freedom, while the one remains completely faithful.

Shared Wife: A wife whose husband “shares” her sexually with other men.

MFM: A three some involving two men and one woman. In this arrangement the men are straight and focus on the woman.

MMF: A three some involving two men and one woman in which the men are bi-sexual and engage in sexual activities with each other as well as the woman.

FMF: A three some involving two women and one man. In this arrangement the women are straight and focus on the man.

FFM: A three some involving two women and one man in which the women are bi-sexual and engage in sexual activities with each other as well as the man.

Humiliation: A sexual kink which usually involves the woman verbally abusing the man about his inadequacies and inability to satisfy her, most often because of his penis size or his lack of stamina.

Tease and Denial: One partner sexually teases and leads the other on, only to get them excited and then deny them sexual gratification.

Edging: Binging a person right to the edge of orgasm and then slowing or stopping sexual activities thus denying them the pleasure of orgasm.

Ruined Orgasm: Bringing a person right to the point of orgasm, and then stopping resulting in a weak orgasm. This is usually achieved through the use of oral sex or masturbation.

SPH: Small Penis Humiliation, verbal abuse used to humiliate a man about his lack of length and or girth.

Male Chastity: A kink in which the man is most often secured in a chastity device, referred to as a cock cage, and is denied the pleasures of sexual intercourse as well as masturbation. Couples who engage in this kink often try to push the boundaries of how long the man can go without sexual release. This fetish often includes a level of humiliation as well.

Cock Cage: A metal or plastic device which locks to secure the penis. It is used impede the man’s ability to masturbate as well as achieve a full erection without being release by his key holder.

Key Holder: Most often the wife of a man confined to a cock cage. The key holder has full authority over the man’s ability to and the frequency of orgasms allowed. Often the key holder will use time in the cock cage as a punishment for her dissatisfaction with something the man has said or done.

Pegging: Used to describe a fetish in which the female uses a sex toy or strap on to perform anal sex on her male partner.

Wife Breeding: A fetish in which the wife is involved in unprotected sex with men other than her husband. The men ejaculate in the wife, thus presenting the possibility of pregnancy by men other than the husband.

Clean Up: An activity in which the man cleans up a woman after she has had sex with another man. Most often this is done after a lover has ejaculated into the woman’s vagina and the woman’s partner performs oral sex on her licking up as much of the other man’s sperm as possible.

Sloppy Seconds: A term used to describe the act of having sex with a woman after she has already had sex with another man. Most often after the first man has ejaculated inside of the woman’s vagina creating a “sloppy” situation for the second man.

Size Queen: A woman who prefers man with very large penises. Often with minimum size requirements which must be met before she will engage in sexual intercourse with a man.

BBC: Big Black Cock, used to describe the oversized penis of a black man.

BWC: Big White Cock, used to describe the oversized penis of a white man.

Queen Of Spades: The name sometimes given to a white woman who prefers sex with black men, often with above average penises.

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