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Actor Jonathan Joss was just murdered for being gay and married to a trans man. On the first day of pride 2025. He was best known for playing John Redcorn on King of the Hill.

I had no idea he was gay but he was married to a man named Tristan Kern de Gonzales (on valentines day 2025!)

They lived in San Antonio Texas where his family is from and he grew up. He was 59.

In Janurary 2025 his home was burned down which made news. It killed some of his beloved dogs. He didnt elaborate beyond he believed it was arson (gofundme is still up and i suggest donating to help his funeral costs and his husband

Update: de Gonzales says hes fine he just wants justice but i still think its nice)

Now we know he and his husband had been threatened by several neighbors for being queer. They told pigs, pigs being pigs did nothing before or after it happened.

Yesterday Joss and his husband went to check their mailbox wherein they found one of their dogs skulls (statement from his husband

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As they weeped and mourned in shock, a neighbor, Sigfredo Alvarez Ceja, came out and aimed at de Gonzales…but Joss jumped in front of the bullet and was instantly killed.

Ceja, homophobia murdering coward, tried to take off but de Gonzales had called pigs who vaguely tried to do something. He was arrested and his bail set for $200k. Or as my sister said who the fuck sets bail for a murderer?

San Antonio.

De Gonzales is clearly mourning, posting pics on Hoss’ fb page. This one really struck me

This is why we need pride people, and not rainbow capitalism. Please donate to the gofundme and let san antonio cops knows what you think. De Gonzales said multiple neighbors had threatened them…id like to see those people investigated for arson.

Go into pride with rage and knowing. Have joy, kiss puppies, dont bow to homophobes. And maybe enjoy a little king of the hill.

UPDATE

Jonathan Joss’ husband Tristan kern de Gonzales identifies as trans on his facebook page.

Which explains the ramp up of hate and why the murderer shot at de Gonzales (Joss pushed him out of the way). So this is also a transphobia related murder

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Mediterranean apathy metaphors

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we happen upon a fellow human being, beat down, tormented, suffering in agony, and we think, “poor thing, hope someone helps them out,” then go on with our day as normal. it’s not our responsibility to help or even to care. the mere expectation that we should care for and about anyone we’re not legally obligated to is seen as exceedingly unfair. caring for and about others is a burden, thankless drudgery, a job someone else should get paid to do for us, someone who is qualified with the proper training and credentials.

those who find themselves in desperate need of others to care for and about them will eventually come to find out that it’s no one’s job to help them or care. so no one does. but everyone they encounter is fully confident that there’s someone, somewhere, whose job it is to do something to help. this unshakable faith that the markets provide an adequate substitute for human social connection allows them to go on with their day, free from any burdensome sense of responsibility toward their fellow human being.

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something something I wonder if children routinely want to grow up faster not because of things like "I can have cake for dinner if I want" or "I can buy myself the stuff that I want", but more specifically because they view adulthood as the only way to access things like autonomy and respect, which are the things that they actually want. And if we routinely treated kids like PEOPLE and empowered them to exercise their thoughts and opinions, would they still have that intense desire to grow up faster? Or would they be able to slow down and enjoy their childhoods more because they aren't clawing for basic respect?

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(That's not her Mama, it's her babysitter.)

Video description and transcript under the cut.

A conversation between a nine-month-old baby in a pink onesie and a skinny short-haired Black girl lying on her front on bed. The babysitter speaks earnestly to the baby in a thick Scouse accent. Baby babbles back in a perfect call-and-response, somehow with a hilarious syrupy Scouse intonation even without intelligible words.

Baby, wide awake and chatty: "Gah"

Babysitter: "Don't you want to go to sleep?"

Baby: "Nuh"

Babysitter: "Okay. Why don't you ever want to go to sleep?"

Baby: "Awu ke deeaey"

Babysitter: "You got energy?"

Baby: *turns and gestures behind them* "Lookasubababu"

Babysitter: *points over her shoulder* "I got your bottle, I got your teddy and then you started to—(unintelligible)"

Baby: "Ibuddku"

Babysitter: "I changed your bum"

Baby: "A dju ku jdooob!"

Babysitter: "I thought that's what you wanted to do."

Baby: "Awu ku shoo shi kwawu."

Babysitter: *matching the sing-song cadence* "Yeah but we've had a nice day together, and then you're taking a nap now."

Baby: "Awula ku sholey!"

Babysitter: "But why?"

Baby: "Awlu ku waai?"

Babysitter: "Yeah?"

Baby: "Aiw tuh paayi!"

Babysitter: *shaking her head playfully* "Yeah but you need to go to sleep 'cuz you're a baby."

Baby: "A'll ku shwaab ka daarkh!"

Babysitter: "Yeah, but you're a baby so you're meant to listen to what I'm sayin'."

Baby: "I'll ku showley!"

Babysitter: "Yeah but you're meant to be going to sleep because you're the baby."

Baby: "Au ku shooshe daaagh!"

Babysitter: *cracks up and faceplants on the bed*

Baby: *looking in confusion* "Awz we—" *then smiles widely at grown-up's laughter*

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What do you think about trans children?

That’s an interesting and nuanced question, because “trans kids” brings to mind a diverse set of kids with a diverse set of needs. Are we talking about a 17 year old being forced into strict gender roles by their church who identifies as non-binary? Are we talking about a three year old whose parents are starting their social transition? Are we talking about a bullied eight year old whose peers are recognizing the signs of homosexuality? Are we talking about a socially transitioned male and the girls’ changing room?

My belief is that children do not have stable identities, and this is good and normal. I think that there are important developmental milestones where *everyone* goes through identity related changes. For instance, around age 7-8 is where many children first start grappling with more complex emotions including anxiety, and we see interesting identities come from new complex emotions—hobbies and interests often take on new meaning. Adolescence around 11-13 brings a seismic change of switching from primarily family identified (I am part of my family) to primarily peer identified (I am one of my peers), which brings conflict, power struggles, and identity crisis within the larger society (where do I belong?).

Likewise, I think that many people seek to influence children in ways that disrupt identity formation—gendered socialization is one of these things. Treating boys and girls like different species with different expectations for behavior and ability is designed to destroy normal and healthy identity formation by forcing us into very specific roles. I think many trans kids are reacting to this societal pressure and coercion in very understandable ways; dysphoria is an understandable symptom of a society with *cultural* sexual dimorphism that overlays physical sexual dimorphism, also known as “gender”. We are assigned victim or predator at birth. We are assigned servant or master at birth. We are assigned decorative or functional at birth.

In my experience, many kids who identify as trans are smart, creative, longing for connection, disconnected from themselves, and trying their best. Many of those kids are same-sex attracted, like me, and I see the ways that gendered socialization made coming out a process where I needed to set fire to my beliefs about the world and men and women.

A sixteen year old girl whose parents support and pay for a nose job or breast implants would be, in my opinion, a victim of a sexist society and caregivers who encouraged her own hate of her body. I don’t think a child should be able to access surgical changes to her body because this will always end in exploitation of girls in a sexist society. I apply the same logic to all surgery done for cosmetic reasons, including breast removal, shaving down facial bones, ear clipping, or facelifts. An adult can make the choice to do what they want to their body regardless of whether I find it ethical, although I do not. A woman having her face peeled down to shave off part of her nose to make it fit a certain aesthetic is not a healthy part of a healthy society.

We have no real knowledge or understanding of what happens when we don’t go through puberty. It is a complex physical and emotional process that affects us our whole lives—any student of the mind could tell you that adolescence shapes our adult selves in ways that are infinitely complex. We do know that disrupting this process can cause immense harm.

I don’t have to look to trans people to see the evidence of “puberty blockers” as harmful. Lupron was largely given to girls to let them get taller before puberty (height is, of course, cosmetic). Many of those girls, and later, women, found bone density issues and other lifelong problems. I personally know someone who has bone damage from these drugs outside of a trans application. These drugs are also used in treatment of chronic illness; I am not saying they have no uses. There were class action lawsuits, however, against the use of these medications to delay puberty for social or cosmetic reasons for girls and for the treatment of endometriosis, brought by the women affected.

I think it’s a sick society that needs to be fixed, I don’t think kid’s bodies should change to fit a sick society. I don’t think we should have any sort of medical intervention that disrupts puberty, makes permanent non-necessary changes, or takes someone off of the same developmental track as their peers. I think that medicalizing and pathologizing a child’s gender nonconformance, giving them a label and drugs, is deeply othering and reinforces the harsh gendered expectations of our society. They become the exception that proves the rule. They are an expected outlier. Their experience “proves” that harsh, gendered socialization works for most of us, and that otherwise we need medical attention.

If someone becomes an adult and desires medical intervention with plastic surgery and medications to look the way they want to, okay. I disagree—the same way I disagree when I read about women dying from infected breast implants. I disagree the same way I disagree when someone goes back to a sexist religion. But even if I wouldn’t stop an adult woman from marrying an asshole if she chooses, I would stop that same asshole from marrying a child because we have rules about how children get different protections.

But I think children should be allowed to explore and be complex without being pathologized. I wish we had more avenues to better explore ourselves and I wish our society wasn’t so hellbent on gender and the nightmare of a hierarchy it is. I’m a gender abolitionist and I would love to live in the world where being female was simply a fact about me, like the color of my eyes, rather than an endless excuse for my oppression that I have to think about every day.

What I do know is that when someone I knew told me their daughter at two years old came out as nonbinary, it was far more about the mother than the child. Two years old, and her mom already decided she has limits. Playing with gender is like playing with a scalpel. You’re going to get cut, and it isn’t a toy.

I would love the world where everyone can wear what they want, act how they like, achieve as they desire, and have none of this be tied to their sex. I don’t think that the way transitioning children plays out is the way to that world. I think that it is a temptation that looks like a shortcut. If nonconformance gives you a new identity without questioning the validity of the old one, then nonconforming people don’t change the system, they just become a new model on the line.

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Ahmed & young daughters Messo & Rawand

Vetting: Personal IG content with kids going back to 2015 & Personal IG Video #1 Instagram: Khalel.a7md Tiktok: khalel.a7md Fund Currency: $ USD

Ahmed is hoping to save his sweet young daughters Messo & Rawand from the starvation & harsh conditions they're currently living in, & to give support to his large family that includes 12 small children! He's doing his best to get the word out to ask for help but is having a difficult time being seen & really needs our help to interact with his content & to share his story-

if you have the means, we would deeply appreciate any size donation to help give these young women a chance at life!

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Thank you so much for your time & consideration

Help my Family ESCAPE GENOCIDE of GAZA gofund.me/92538f2e

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if i had to explain what tumblr is like i’d only show this

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🌿 My Name is Rola, and This is My Story 🌿

I never thought I would be writing this. I never thought I would be begging for help just to keep my children warm, just to feed them one more meal. But here I am, reaching out to you, because I have no other choice.

My name is Rola. I am a mother of two beautiful children, and before October 7th, we had a life filled with love and laughter. We had a home. My children had their own room, filled with their toys and drawings. We would sit together on our balcony, drinking coffee in the early morning light. We had dreams, just like any other family.

But in an instant, it was all gone.

A missile struck. The earth shook beneath us. The air filled with dust and fire. My husband and son ran, stumbling over each other in terror. I stood frozen, the ringing in my ears drowning out my own screams. Our home was shattered—windows blown out, doors ripped from their hinges. And when I looked outside, our neighbor’s house, a place that once echoed with children's laughter, was nothing but rubble and ash.

That was just the beginning.

The bombs never stopped. Every night, I held my children close as the sky rained fire. The sound of explosions mixed with the cries of mothers searching for their babies in the darkness. I covered my children, whispering words of comfort, but how do you comfort a child who is terrified of dying in their sleep?

We had to leave. We walked away from everything—our home, our memories, the warmth of our life before. My children left behind their favorite toys, their books, their safe space. Now, we have nothing.

No home.

No food.

No clean water.

No way out.

I went to buy sugar the other day. It cost $20 for just a kilo. Food is disappearing, and the little that remains is impossible to afford. Every day, I fight to find just enough to keep my children alive.

I am exhausted. I am scared. I need your help.

I never imagined I would have to beg for my family’s survival. But today, I am.

Please, if you are reading this, help us. Help me save my children. Help us find shelter, food, a way to rebuild even a small piece of the life we lost. If we ever have the chance to leave, we need support. If we are forced to stay, we need a home again.

Every donation matters. Every share helps. Every voice that speaks for us keeps hope alive.

💚 Please donate if you can. Share our story. Help us survive. 💚

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every time i see a clip from That show it just. does everyone write like this now? like ur trying to tell everyone 'Hey guys omg this is just a stupid fucking show haha so unserious aren't we sooooo self aware isnt that funny'. God if you want to write a show/movie/anything put your whole PUSSY into it!!!!!! i wrote like that self aware stuff when i was like a young teenager so now it just comes off to me as immature almost

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🚨URGENT🚨

Please stop ✋🚨 you're the only hope to save a child🥺

My son Mohammed is in critical condition after being shot by Israeli drones. He has been taken to the operating ⛺️ and urgently needs treatment outside the Gaza Strip.

I lost most of my family. I'm afraid to lose my son too 🥺 .

I need your help please donate and share, evry contribution, no matter how small, brings us hope in these dark times.

Mohammed deserves to live a happy and healthy life, just like every other child on this earth.

Please Donate now:👇👇 👇

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Trapped family in Gaza appeals for help to survive🆘🆘🍉

I am Monis from Gaza, from a family of 8, I am a cancer patient and my wife is a liver patient

I need to receive treatment quickly, but I cannot because of the war on Gaza. The health situation is very difficult, and I need your help to travel outside Gaza and receive treatment for cancer،

months of war we decided to start a donation campaign to collect $5000 per person to get out of Gaza to Egypt through coordination, my father needs to travel to receive cancer treatment outside Gaza,

A medical report indicates that I am a cancer patient, and this is a referral to travel from Gaza to receive treatment. Now I cannot leave Gaza because of the war. I need your help and support Because my health condition is getting worse every day

is our story - On October 7, our lives changed forever. My family and I left our home to southern Gaza, hoping to return soon, but that did not happen. Our home was surrounded and then completely destroyed. Our home, which was once a bastion of hope, is now in ruins, a stark reminder of our shattered dreams.

I we have nothing left and are unable to secure our basic needs such as food, water and safe shelter، I cannot provide young children with clothes or anything to make them forget the cruelty of war، Winter is coming and I am unable My family's needs

I can't provide a plastic cover over the tent we live in, we drown from the water while we sleep because of the heavy rain. The weather is winter and the atmosphere is cold. We can't live without winter supplies and the prices here are expensive, we can't afford to buy that 🙏

I appeal to the entire world to hear my and my family's sad cries in Gaza. We need a helping hand to In leaving Gaza and receiving treatment for cancer, I hope you will help me

The goal of the donation campaign is to help us secure livelihoods by providing food, water, and shelter (a place to sleep). I am a cancer patient. Medicines must be provided to receive treatment as soon as possible. Medicines are not available in Gaza due to the war. We must travel abroad

It would be so helpful if you could check out my GoFundMe and donate to my family. By sharing and donating, you are helping me get treatment🙏 and helping my family survive the horrors of famine and genocide. It will give us hope to rebuild our home and reclaim some of the life that was stolen from us.

If each person gave $10, you would help us live in the difficult conditions in Gaza

Donation link in bio.Your donation will save us 🙏💔🍉

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