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Jared Padalecki | fanexpo Boston 2025

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Awwww

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This is great!! 👍👍

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was looking for something else but this was cute to come across

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ACL, 2014

A Story About Jared A HERO "So check this out. I’m standing with Kaitlyn watching Lana Del Ray (who was actually really great live). I look to my left and I see a familiar face. Short lady, dark hair. But I couldn’t put my finger on who she was. Then, someone’s head moves out of my way and who is standing next to her? Jared Padalecki. Mhmm. I was watching Ruby and Sam take in some Lana for they’re own enjoyment at ACL. So as the show ends, I start making my way to the gate to see if I can get ahold of him to say hi. Unfortunately, Eminem fans SUCK and the entire crowd was getting smushed against the gate. I noticed a little boy right against the gate and his sister behind him screaming. So I start trying to push back so the boy could get away from the gate, but they were too strong. Then Jared, who was taking pictures with other fans, runs over and asks if he’s getting smushed, then reaches into the crowd and pulls him up and makes sure he’s okay. He got him some water and I was still pushing against the crowd and apologizing to the sister, saying I was doing my best. Jared then touched me on the shoulder and said "Don’t be sorry. It’s you against like 14,000 people man." He asked for my phone and then this happened… #Supernatural #JaredPadalecki #ACLFest #ACL2014"

SOURCEhttp://instagram.com/p/twgCQhMfB9/#

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Very well described...

As a person who's constantly battling with trauma responses, alienation, depression, anxiety, and a load of other chronic pain, I can say that it's hard sometimes to separate the show from reality. To not feel the hurt as though it's real. And, to not feel like a scapegoat as well when most of the fandom does the same to someone you relate to very much...

To be honest, I am more like Dean (at least, how he comes across to me) victimized, volatile, guilt ridden... I aspire to be like Sam or how I see Sam - forgiving, patient, and empathetic and an embodiment of mental strength.

This show is flawed. That's why it's been years since I rewatched it because the level of unfairness resonates profoundly with my own life and it just makes even more restless, enraged and at the end of the day... just sad.

That's why I turn to the real people behind the characters. If I am truthful, I can say that I see them as my escape (especially Jared). But, thankfully, I can separate their lives from mine. And, when I don't agree with them, which happens many times, I don't go out of my way to point that out to them or as an extremely obsessive fan - send them death threats!!!

It's okay if you don't like a character, I like but you can and you should put that aside and remember, even if it's our comfort show, it is a show - a fiction...

What's your opinion on the take that Sam is always running away?

The short answer is I think spn's ethics are insane.

The longer answer is that if you did a rewatch and counted up all the times that Sam objectively "runs away" from a problem/his family/etc and all the times Dean "runs away" from the same, I'm not sure who would actually win. But I do think the narrative frames Sam as the one who runs, and that, over the long term, it treats "running away" as his cardinal sin.

For example, when Dean runs away from his mistakes in Road Trip, the narrative does frame that as immature and self-destructive, and punishes him with the Mark of Cain. But by s11, this is reframed briefly as a "we" problem in s11a (Sam: "if we don't change, right now, all of our crap is just gonna keep repeating itself") and then never held against Dean personally thereafter. Whereas Sam's equivalent attempt at running away--the s4 demon blood arc--continues to be held against him by the narrative until at least 13x21 (Cas: we let Lucifer out of the Cage.)

Even more interestingly, at least to me, with the exception of Stanford, the narrative also tends to treat Dean's episodes of running away from Sam as "abandoning" him, but Sam's episodes of running away from Dean as "betraying" Dean.

This is Dean abandoning Sam to his fate as Lucifer's vessel. The narrative punishment is extreme, but not only does Dean get a do over in the same episode and it never comes up again, but the quote is remembered by fandom primarily as a quote about how close they are. And I do think that's borne out by the narrative. If Dean abandons Sam, the world will literally end.

Meanwhile though:

When Sam screws up with Dean, he's betraying him. The problem isn't just that Sam is an addict or that he ran away from Dean's attempt to forcibly detox him for his own somewhat questionable "good", but that he did so with a demon whore. It's portrayed as a personal betrayal in a way that Dean abandoning Sam to Lucifer is not.

In some ways, Sam is even the more steadfast brother. He may physically leave Dean at times but he never stops believing in Dean's capacity for good. When it's his turn to lock Dean in the panic room because Dean gives up and runs to destruction at the hands of Michael, he doesn't do it. And in the Mark of Cain arc, he affirms that even if Dean kills him, he accepts it as necessary and still believes Dean is a good man.

Which brings me to spn's ethics and fandom's response.

If there's one single thing that spn is entirely, completely, one hundred percent consistent on, it's that tumblr is wrong. You can't just walk out; leaving is always wrong and will usually end the world. It's wrong if it's temporarily for the evening because you'd like to have Thanksgiving dinner and your family doesn't do that, or for four years because you want to go to college, or for forever because all your remaining loved ones have been killed before your eyes, or if it's only a partial withdrawal because you want better boundaries in the face of years of violence and autonomy violations. (To be clear, spn thinks the violence and autonomy violations are wrong too; it's just especially adamant that the only appropriate response is self-sacrifice.) The only reason Sam is finally allowed to temporarily leave in the finale is because he so obviously no longer wants to.

And all of this, to be completely blunt, is batshit fucking crazy. And I mean that in the clinical technical sense of the word. As a system of ethics it's an enormous mess, as a behavioral guide it's guaranteed to result in inappropriate assignment of blame and unnecessary suffering, and it's hard to interpret it all for me personally as anything but a response to trauma.

I do think that on an emotional level there's something wildly compelling about it though, and it's fiction, after all, so there's nothing wrong with it as a fantasy. The idea that if only you could prove your loyalty strongly enough your family would finally accept you, flaws and all, is an impossible wish many of us have spent a lot of our real lives trying to actualize. And seeing it happen on screen when it can't happen irl can be cathartic, much like revenge stories can be cathartic even though irl revenge is a terrible idea. The vibes are, in short, without flaw.

The thing that's hard for me though is remembering that everyone irl grows at their own speed. Not everyone is in a position to cleanly separate their emotional enjoyment of a plotline or theme from their intellectual calculus about whether or not it makes any fucking sense--especially when those plotlines or themes are about violence, betrayal, abandonment, and abuse. And it's hard for me to remember sometimes that huge swathes of meta aren't actually the result of [insert negative judgement here] but are just reflective of a different series of experiences than the ones I happen to have had.

Honestly I find it frustrating. I wish people would be better about separating out what the story is saying from what they think of that message themselves. I feel like the format of fandom meta is often kind of a disaster. It adopts an authoritative, academic tone, but is usually actually used to express personal feelings and wishes without acknowledging that it's doing that.

It's not that I think people should have to disclose their personal experiences to write meta--on the contrary, sometimes that's helpful but sometimes it just makes it worse. Rather, I wish people would get in the habit of using more "I" statements and acknowledging their subjectivity more overtly. Back in the days when dinos roamed the earth and I was an undergrad, I learned that the use of the third person passive voice in academic writing is a political choice. It grants the illusion of more authority and objectivity than actually exists. I wish fandom would take up my professor's call to abandon it to some extent and say "I feel hurt that Sam left Dean alone with John to go to college" rather than "Sam is always running away".

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To anyone who cares...

I need HELP!

I have created another Tumblr account to share my art stuff... There will be some that are Supernatural related and many won't...

But, if you like looking at drawings/sketches/illustrations, you can check out my art blog here...

To all my fellow SPN family members, I am asking for your support. There's no pressure from me that you'd have to follow my art-related account. It might not be one of your interests. That's okay. But, kindly spread the word...

Okay. I'm done grovelling for today...

Be well 💙

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Still thinking about the first time I met Jared, he fucking introduced himself to me. Like???? I paid $250 for that photo op, of course I know who he is, I know his name is Jared (he was just being polite for the sake of being polite! 😭) I was quite literally trembling in his presence (overwhelmed by his utter beauty- I was rendered speechless), I was just a teenager, clearly overcome by the pressure of the moment- meeting my favorite celebrity of all time and I was so obviously nervous- he puts his hands on my shoulders, looks me in the eyes and says “Hi, I’m Jared,” and I’m like giggling “I know!” And I said “I’m Kayla,” and he says “alright big hug, Kayla?” And I nod and he squeezes me so hard I thought my eyes were going to pop out of my head. And my face was right against his soft sweater and he smelled sooo good, like a luxurious beach, and after the hug he has the audacity to say “thank you, darlin.” I’m not kidding when I say I had to cry for 3 hours straight after that moment. Random convention bystanders kept checking on me, asking if I was okay because I could not stop sobbing and I had to explain “I’m okay, I just had the most magical moment ever with Jared and I can’t calm down because it went so perfectly and I was so worried something would go wrong but it was everything I wanted it to be and more.”

Actual angel on earth: Jared Padalecki

Gave me the best moment of my life.

Honestly he gave teenage Kayla a reason to live.

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College professor or college-goer? 🤔

Oooo...maybe working at the gym during the day and taking night classes... Math classes!!! 🫨

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Yeah... I've heard something about character development... I admit I am not very intelligent like many avid Dean fans are.

S1 Dean - when hurt, lashes out

S15 Dean - when hurt, lashes out

Major character development!

To my small brain, Kaia's seemingly forgiving Dean felt more like a character jump than character development, especially after one sorry and years of enduring torture in that au.

But that's just me. You are entitled to your understanding, and so am I.

Just because someone else sees or feels things differently, doesn't mean you have to inevitably get, "mad as fuck!"

I get it. You love Dean, doesn't mean you have to embody Dean... take a deep breath and let the anger out.

Be well...

13x09 »15x12

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I don't have anything to ask... I just love that you love Jared just the way he is... Thank you... 💓

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Sam is the best father anyone could ever ask for!

“Kill me. You can stop him, Jack.”

↳ requested by @flightsofwonder

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sam winchester + snoopy [insp]

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I am in awe of you, big brother...

I feel inspired by you and at the same breath, I feel like I am letting you down...

It's been seven years since I have found you... I have been able to reduce a lot of my insecurities, shortcomings and a lot more have replaced them... I am still here though...

It feels like my brain and my body are conspiring against me to strip away my spirit. You are part of my spirit.

I never knew I could love a stranger like my kin. I never knew all your perfect imperfections, unabashed quirks, your bravery, beauty, kindness, empathy and your dad jokes would become a part of my survival strategy and a little bit of comfort that I can provide for myself.

It must be a great burden to put on a human being and I apologize but all I can give you is my unwavering loyalty, gratitude, and affection.

We've completed another year and I am so glad that I can still see you, hear you... I just wish I could hug you and tell you that I wish you get all the peace, joy, appreciation, and love this world has to offer...

Happy Birthday brother...

"you'll always be my only guiding light..."

Love,

Shree

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Yes! It's an awesome panel! 🩷🩷🩷

Jared's birthday week!!!!!!!!!! (That's it. That's the post. heeheehee)

Yay!!! Happy Birthday Jared! I think I saw the theme for today was Jared at conventions, so I'll share a few candid shots I took when both Jared and Gen came to Salt Lake for FanX!

It's hard to talk about Jared without Gen because both of them were so hilarious and charming during their panel, and they not only made the audience of nearly 5,000 laugh, but each other, as well.

If you haven't seen the full panel, I highly recommend watching!

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I don't think Dean has helped Sam, especially with the emotional toll it takes to feel this monstrosity inside... Like you are getting rotten... Dean never helped him with that. He blamed Sam, guilt-tripping him time and again, made him feel like a burden... When Sam himself was going through such a burden of feeling like becoming evil, fighting against everything he's been taught and use his power for something good, even as misdirected as it was... on top of dealing with Dean's death in s3... Dean was never on his side at that time, even though his decision to sell his soul set everything in motion... Dean started showing his faith after the whole Michael possessing Adam happened.

And... As far as Castiel goes, he never helped him with that as well. He called Sam an abomination!

So... It's the writer's inconsistency/carelessness/trying to engage and manipulate with the dramatized "family" feeling that resides inside us...

The only positive thing in this is Sam's growth... From believing himself to be evil to accepting that it doesn't make you evil if you are not "normal." And, just like life, he goes back and forth, believing himself to be a monster...to do something good with his power...to feel impure even after making the biggest sacrifice (going to Hell and getting tortured for 180 years...) to feeling like he's good even with the seemingly bad parts...

We all do that... We keep reminding ourselves, trying to believe, almost constantly, even if we feel like an evil person (reacting instead of responding to impossible situations' demands), there's still good bits left in us...

P.S. Great job making the connections on this edit. 👏👏👏

Do you even know how far off the reservation you've gone? How far from normal? From human? // (...) To be scared of who you are, what you can do. Dean, Cas... my family helped me through that.

Supernatural S4 x S8 x S12 x S13