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This is not an addiction

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Anyone else getting really fucking sick of this support:condemn dichotomy where folks online act like the only two possible responses to anything ever are to wholeheartedly support it or wholeheartedly condemn it?

"Oh you said that you dont think that random stranger should be sent full on death threats and doxxed for their iffy artwork? Why do you support racism" how about we all go outside and interact with real people and see how they react when you say things like that!

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how did we lose the plot so hard with feminism and activism like seriously… are we forgetting that being kind and loving to the men and boys in your life, teaching them as kids if you are a parent to be kind respectful humans, and showing them how to be emotionally vulnerable and making a society in which it is safe to do so was like…. A huge part of feminism, dismantling patriarchal values, and creating a generation of loving men who are held accountable for their actions?

Why is it “kill all men yes even the trans ones and if you say otherwise you’re an MRA” and not “let’s maybe create a world that encourages good men.” Did we forget that feminism was supposed to be good for everyone and that the patriarchy harms men and boys as well?

Like maybe we should care about male loneliness and the male suicide rate BECAUSE MAYBE WED HAVE LESS SOCIETAL PROBLEMS if 100% of the population wasn’t traumatized by gendered expectations and not being taught decent communication skills/how to be emotionally vulnerable. And definitely we would if fucking redpill echo chambers weren’t the places most willing to accept and nurture (groom into hateful ideology) young men.

The problem has never been men, cis or trans, being uniquely capable of evil the problem has always been the fact that cishet patriarchal culture encourages and rewards shitty behavior that makes everyone involved bitter and miserable and calls it masculinity.

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"being antiship isn't the same as being antikink" brotha, you literally advocate for the arresting and harassment of people who write sexual things "the wrong way" on ao3

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It seems like the older I get, the more irrationally angry casual censorship makes me. And it isn't just the "unalive" "grape" alleged filter-dodging vernacular, but the way normal words will be peppered with asterisks, or screenshots will have words like "gay" "hell" "fuck" etc either partially or entirely blurred. Who is this helping? What is the purpose of it, except to reinforce shame and elevate a flimsy perception of purity and safety, however those things manifest. It's so tiresome and I'm sick of it.

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like at this point if I see you hating on men whether cis trans or otherwise I'm just gonna block you cuz why the fuck do you think hating on someone on the basis of their gender identity is progressive.

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saying ao3 needs to censor certain content is like saying a museum can't have still life art that includes strawberries because you don't like them.

these are not real strawberries. you do not have to, and in fact cannot, eat them. no one with a strawberry allergy will be harmed by looking at them. no migrant workers were exploited in the picking of these strawberries. there were no questionable farming practices or negative environmental impacts from growing or transporting them.

because - and i cannot stress this enough - they are not real strawberries.

if you don't like strawberries, you don't have to look at the paintings. in fact, you can get a map of the museum that lists what works are in what rooms and just. not go in there. if you see one by mistake, you can look away. just keep walking. there's plenty of other stuff to see.

yes, real strawberries can cause real quantifiable harm to real people.

but again. these are not real strawberries.

you may have whatever feelings you like about strawberries, and so can i. you can draw and write about whatever fruit floats your boat, and so can i, even if that happens to be strawberries. and we can hang our art side by side in the same gallery, provided you understand that my strawberries are not about you (and your kumquats are, shocker, not about me) and that - and this is true - neither are real.

and when the fascists break down the doors and grab all the strawberry paintings and heap them in the street and set them on fire, please know that they are coming for your kumquats next.

so if you want a place where you can show off your beautiful kumquat art safely, you're gonna have to tolerate having some strawberries in the next room.

and that's okay. because the strawberries aren't real.

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Btw, that idea that privilege makes you morally evil and suffering makes you morally good is just repackaged versions of the Christian concepts of the evils of luxury and the holiness of martyrdom. Hope this helps!

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yknow i really dont feel like i should have to say this but um. stop referring to kinks as degenerate

like really just stop using that word ever but *especially* don't use it here

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Remember to make space for the heteros this month too - yes, really.

Lesbians who became straight men

Gay men who became straight women

All straight drag artists (note that not all of them are cis!)

People with complex identities who thusly encompass multiple orientations (like genderfluid and multigender people who, yes, are sometimes straight, or even simultaneously with other labels)

Hetero aro and ace people. Especially. Seriously.

People with fluid orientations

Gnc people who find joy in their straightness

Many queer people are also straight. Queerness is note solely reliant on gayness. These people too, are a part of pride. Remember that.

[All discourse attempts will be swiftly blocked. Exclusionists fuck off]

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Fandom Problem #9101:

I'm a selfshipper/yumeshipper or whatever it's called now but I never post about it or engage in the community. Not because I'm ashamed of it, but because the community has gotten way too cliquey and strict and they have rules for selfshipping the "right way." Oh no how dare you selfship with villains! Selfshipping with a character a year younger than you, you must be the next Epstein! It makes me feel left out. There's hardly any selfship spaces that I feel welcome in. I guess I should have seen this coming.

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Liking dark and controversial media doesn't make you a bad person. But I think we should talk more about how the reverse is also true - liking cutesy uwu wholesome media doesn't make you a good person either.

We've seen the Nazis in the brony fandom. We've seen the racists with K-ON! pfps. The TERFs on this website with Sailor Moon content on their page. How someone can have a cutesy Sanrio aesthetic and be a complete judgemental asshole. The goddamn transparent Snoopy plush icons saying the most vile shit on this website.

Antis are like "uwu I only watch the Unproblematic Wholesome Media that has the Tumblr Seal of Approval at the moment" (Dungeon Meshi, MP100, Mario, Sonic, Snoopy, Moomin etc) and like, I'm sorry, but that doesn't absolve you from being an asshole and unpleasant person to be around.

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Periodic rent-lowering-gunshots:

Fiction is not reality.

You can enjoy things in fiction that would be awful in the real world. Like playing a murderhobo in a game! In the real world, being or supporting a murderer-thief would be pretty damn awful, while in the game it's just good fun. Same with anything else you choose to do with the pixels on the screen, like kinks that don't affect anyone real, so they're okay in fiction, but would be pretty damn bad in real life.

No one else is responsible for your online experience. They are required not to harass you, but they are not and never will be obligated to not post about ships, kinks, or tropes you dislike just to avoid you seeing them. It's up to you to blacklist words or phrases, block tags, or even block users as needed to avoid seeing content that upsets you.

No one can force you to read anything against your consent. Any content you don't like seeing can be instantly avoided by closing out of the offending post/fic.

You are not owed an online experience free of discomfort.

Nothing that happens in your imagination can ever make you a bad person. Words you write or read about fictional characters will never make you a bad person.

The claim that media consumption influences real-life behavior is intellectually dishonest and serves only to excuse the behavior of real offenders.

Fiction is a safe way to explore horrifying or confusing concepts. Therapists agree that fiction, even (or especially) about taboo topics is a good coping mechanism, especially, but not exclusively, for trauma survivors. Fiction is to adults what play therapy is to children. This doesn't stop being true if the work in question is of a sexual nature.

Sex isn't an inherently worse or better motivation than anything else. A work written to create feelings of arousal isn't dirty, shameful, or in any way less pure than works written to entertain, provoke moral questions, or for other reasons. And worth noting is that multiple purposes can exist in the same story, especially fanfiction.

You aren't entitled to an explanation for why someone reads, writes, or otherwise enjoys certain works, kinks, tropes, ships, etc.

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This!!!!!!!

Credit to: @frienderbee on tiktok

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tw mention of nazis , anti-proship people being nazis

why is it that when proshippers make proship ocs, it’s always a cute little emoji-based character that barely mentions antis at all, and when antis do the same for antiship ocs, they’re always violent nazis about it.

“yeah my oc idolizes a nazi dictator but i think fiction should be censored and all people that like dark fiction should be slaughtered!! its only okay when i do it!!”

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Sometimes I feel like people become anti-shippers so they have an excuse to bully somebody.

“Fixing ur ugly ass proship art bc it’s literally cp🩷🩷🩷!!!”

At that point, I feel this is less about you being a good person but rather just you trying to look like a good person. If I saw real cp and domestic violence photos on my feed, I’d report it. Not screenshot it then edit it to look non-toxic and wholesome.