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was thinking about infighting and like. they all see us the same. from the wildest queerest fagdyke to a cis gay guy. we are the same to them. the weird queers are not like. ruining your precious community. we're a part of it

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-FUNSIES．   ➷

pt: -funsies. end pt.

⚘   ⌣   definition．

 a label for any identity in which the user identifies as which for funsies! this may apply to temporary identities one takes on for fun, or permanent ones that the user has fun with! the only requirement is that the user's identification with is for fun and because it makes them happy, whether the identity is voluntary or not. inspired by -jest.

pt: definition, a label for any identity in which the user identifies as which for funsies! this may apply to temporary identities one takes on for fun, or permanent ones that the user has fun with! the only requirement is that the user's identification with is for fun and because it makes them happy, whether the identity is voluntary or not. inspired by -jest(link). end pt.

COINER．  voice of the egocentric．  ➷

⚘   ⌣   funsies．

TAGS．  @radiomogai @sevvys @angeltism @jigumis @zoeynovie @eeriecute．  ➷

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there's a discussion on Twitter about lesbian love being somehow different than the way that straight men love women but sooo many of these people are just parroting terf and radfem talking points and being quietly transphobic. either by implying that men or amab people are just biologically incapable of love on a deeper level either because of their minds or hormones (transphobic) or by saying it's just the way men are "socialized" in a patriarchal society and it's more about shared experiences (transphobic)

the following statements can be true at once:

there is no real difference between the way men and women love, because men and women are human beings and we are all capable of love and complexity. love as an emotion or experience is not ingrained or influenced by our sex or gender. love between women is beautiful and pure, and it can be abusive too. love between men and women is also beautiful and pure and it can also be abusive. it is sexist to say that women are less prone to committing abuse or violence, even if it seems like a positive stereotype.

the way that patriarchy puts men in a higher social position than women does lead to a higher rate of abuse from men towards women. many men are raised to believe they are innately better than women and this is a mindset that needs real work to unlearn. solving this requires building a society that raises sons to be compassionate and respectful, not to seek dominance over women.

when you insist that abusive or unloving behavior is ingrained within men or it is part of the male experience, what you do is reinforce the patriarchal expectation of men as inherently domineering and violent beings. gender roles are made up, and do not hold truth to what we really are in the genders we associate with. it is a self fulfilling prophecy. if you tell a boy that he's incapable of truly loving a woman without owning her, he will grow into a man that believes you, and become a man that believes control is how you show love

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Bigotry agaisnt trans men is spreading so I want to send some love to the transmasc community.

I love you trans men.

Love you trans men who don't pass.

Love you trans men who will never pass.

Love you trans men who don't want to pass.

Love you poc trans men.

Love you gay trans men.

Love you lesbian trans men.

Love you straight trans men.

Love you bi trans men.

Love you ace trans men.

Love you Jewish trans men.

Love you atheist trans men.

Love you pagan trans men.

Love you trans men with breasts.

Love you trans men who aren't on T yet.

Love you trans men who'll never be on T.

Love you mentally in trans men.

Love you unmedicated mentally ill trans men.

Love you trans men who self harm.

Love you trans men who've thought about ending their lives.

Love you trans men with cringe interests.

Love you trans men who dress in ways people consider cringe.

Love you trans men who'll never have sex.

Love you trans men who have a lot of sex.

Love you trans men who are sex workers.

Love you trans men who've had abortions.

Love you feminine trans men.

Love you butch trans men.

Love you trans men who still consider themselves cute and pretty.

Love you trans men who aren't physically attractive.

Love you trans men who hate being called cute or pretty.

I love you. I love you. I love you. You are valid. You are a man. You deserve to be seen as a man. You deserve to be loved and cherished as a man. You deserve to be happy. You aren't made worse by your transition, you aren't a burden on the community, we're happy you're here, we're happy you're men, we love you.

Reblog this to send love to your transmasc followers.

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npts that are techy / cyberpunk themed ? !!

just finished reading a cyberpunk/futuristic book series so now i need to change my entire identity for it …

Tech & Cyberpunk Themed NPT

Names- Wyre, Razor, Lex, Ego, Matrix, Rebel, Nova, Future, Proxy, Electro, Gizmo, Virus, Neo, Cipher, Rogue, Echo, Eve

Pronouns- bit/bits, byte/bytes, wy/wire, tech/techno, mech/mecha, ze/zero, vir/tual, net/work, hack/hacks, bright/brights, neon/neons, gad/get, micro/chip, hard/ware, glitch/glitchs (or glitches), error/errors

Titles- The Rogue Machine, The Electric Dystopia, He Who Controls The Machines, The Neon Hologram, His Futuristic Idea, The Nanotechnology, The Greatest Hacker, He Who Paves The Future, The Mechanical Fashion, His Technological Mind

(replace he/his with your own pronouns)

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if it doesn't sound fetishistic to say you're attracted to people with long hair or freckles or wide hips or dark brown eyes that look almost black, then it shouldn't sound fetishistic to say you're attracted to fat people. If it's not inherently a fetish to say you like people with sculpted backs or toned arms or six packs or small breasts or a coke bottle figure, then why would it be fetishistic to like a soft face with a double chin, or a round stomach, or big legs rippling with cellulite or stretch marks on rolls. you can find a fat person attractive. you can love the way their cheeks press up to meet the corners of their eyes, or the way their arms look, or the way their love handles spill out of their clothes. you can just. like fat people. you can say you like fat people. do you ever think how strange it is? how someone may think you're some sort of "perverse" weirdo for just...liking a body? how strange it is to put these precursory disclaimers of "not to be weird, but", "I don't mean it in that way, but", "I'm not a chubby chaser, but", or "I know it's kind of problematic, but..." could you imagine if it was any other body?

"not to sound like a muscle gain fetishist, but I love women with athletic bodies. It might sound weird, but I love short kings. I don't mean it in a weird way, but I love girls with hip dips."

It would seem strange. unnecessary. one may even assume there is some sort of guilt or fear you're hiding because it's normal to have things you like. it's normal to find certain things cute, hot, sexy.

you can sexually desire fat people and enjoy that they are fat. you can do that.

also, if you genuinely have a fetish (or deep sexual attraction if u for whatever reason are uncomfortable with the word fetish) for something that is found on larger bodies (bellies, fupas, thighs, underarms with fat/breast tissue in them, sagging breasts, big arms with skin that wobbles, cankles), or for a bigger body in and of itself (because I know some of y'all still want to sever yourselves from this), there is nothing wrong with that. people have fetishes for hands and teeth and earlobes and kneecaps and butts and shoulders and calves. what makes their thing any more acceptable than yours? there is nothing wrong with being aroused by bigger bodies.

please do not add tags and reblog this with "except when such and such is involved". I am not bringing those situations up for a reason. do not attempt to pivot this post into a thinkpiece on the objectification and/or abuse of fat bodies, ESPECIALLY if you yourself are not fat.

this is coming from the perspective of a Black person. Namely, a Black Nigerian-American person. Where I come from, there is a cultural, pre-colonial practice of gaining weight (and yes, particularly getting fat) to accentuate beauty. my body was handed down to me lovingly by my ancestors. i love my fat.

and if you love it too, that's okay. ♡

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if you have internalized guilt about hoarding, using neopronouns, xenogenders, microlabels as a whole, or for just being queer:

i love you.

i love you with all my heart; whether you're in an / were raised in an unsupportive environment, whether your friends wouldn't be supportive, whether you simply feel like a faker for identifying the way you do: i love you.

you're cared about. there will be people who accept you, and love you, and care about you — not in spite of your identity — no matter how you identify. you are not dirty, you are not a faker, you are not hurting the community for identifying the way you do.

you use a select few microlabels because those describe your identity well enough? that's great! you use an umbrella label because you don't feel the need for a hyperspecific one? awesome, i do too depending on the part of my identity! you hoard tons & tons of labels because your identity is so vast and / or complicated it can't be described in one or two? i have an entire google docs hoard!

i get sappy and emotional at this topic.

because, when i first started identifying with liomogai terms, hoarding labels & npts: my friend group at the time hated it. they made fun of me behind my back, deadnamed, mispronouned & misgendered me, and refused to tell me why they were acting like this.

i realized i didn't deserve to be treated that way — no matter how much i cared about those people, or how much they claimed to care about me. and, even if i got out of those friendships, i still deal with the internalized guilt today.

the guilt that maybe i am faking. or that i'm doing something wrong — no matter how happy microlabels make me, or how comfortable i feel in my identity, or how much fun i'm having in the community. that i'm inherently wrong for being queer in the 'wrong' way.

i hoarded unapologetically for the first time in months last night. i had fun.

so, what i'm trying to say is: you're going to be okay, because you are loved & there is nothing wrong with you for identifying the way you do. being queer is amazing & beautiful & filled with such vast experiences that i'm a firm believer in there is no wrong way to be queer. i love you, and everything's going to be okay.

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this speaking as a cis person. Nothing brings me more joy seeing people find gender euphoria in becoming a mediocre representation of humanity. And I mean that so genuinely. Local boy finds joy and fulfillment wearing a cargo shorts and t-shirt combo. Local girl has transitioned to look like someone's disheveled aunt, has never been happier. Local person experiences gender euphoria rocking the world's worst bowl-cut. Without a scap of irony, this shit makes me see the wonder and whimsy in just, being a human. An average, person going through their day-to-day, is a wondrous thing? That's amazing. And heteronormativity has stripped these experiences of their joy. Like you're right, wearing a basic girlypop skirt should make my heart sing. Why not? Why are these expressions lesser because they're normal? All this to say. Shoutout to all the basic bitches out there. Yes that polo shirt does make you look like a divorced golfer dad. Yes, that too is kind of a slay, now that I think of it.

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Hey, cis women who say "I wish I was a man but definitely not a trans way, haha! I would never be a man :)"

I say this with all the gentleness in my heart: It is okay for you to be a man. If you want to be a man, you can just be one. You also don't have to stop being a woman to be a man. Multigender people exist. You can be a man and a woman at the same time. Or you can be just a man, or a non-binary man, or non-binary, or something entirely different. You can do and be whatever you want and whatever makes you happy.

Becoming a man is not a betrayal of womanhood and feminism. And everyone who makes you feel like it is an absolute asshole, and you should not ever listen to them. You do not have to push your own happiness aside for other peoples' comfort.

If you want to be a man, try it out! See where it gets you. Maybe it turns out that you really weren't trans, or not a trans man but something else entirely, and that's fine, too. Maybe it turns out you are a trans man. In any case, following those thoughts might get you to a happier and better place in the end. And if you turn out to be happier as a man than you were as a woman, that is wonderful.

Please don't feel forced to stay a cis woman for feminism - any feminism that mistreats or hates trans men and transmasculine people is bad feminism. Being a trans man or transmasc is not a moral failure.

Trans manhood and masculinity are wonderful, and you deserve happiness. And if you find that happiness in manhood/masculinity, you don't deserve to be shamed or harassed for it, and you should not be made to feel the need to put yourself down for it, either.

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*grabbing young queer people by the shoulders* listen to me. radical feminism is inherently transphobic. you cannot rehabilitate it or reclaim it or make it trans inclusive, I don't care what the people on twitter who claim to be authorities on queerness say. the foundation of radical feminism is nothing but bio and gender essentialism and biphobia and aphobia and anti-kink rhetoric and intersexism and yes, misogyny. it does not offer a future, not for bi people, aroace people, sex workers, not for kinksters, or intersex people, cis women, or trans people regardless of gender and you should care about those people. it will never result in queer liberation because it is an ideology of exclusion and hatred. you gain nothing by buying into the idea that half the population is evil by birth or by transition. you gain nothing by acting like women are perpetual victims who can't think for themselves and are tainted by their association with men. being a man or being attracted to them is not a sin. if we truly want to stand a chance of dismantling the patriarchy we actually NEED men on our side especially marginalized men. they are our allies.

the problem with terfs is not just transphobia, it never was, the radical feminism is also so unbelievably harmful. you cannot save it and it will not save you, stop drawing lines between queer people and join hands with them instead. remove people who are actually harmful, not innocent people who happen to have the wrong sexuality or gender or job. we get there together or we don't get there at all. we need each other now more than ever. do not listen to those who seek to divide us even if they are queer. we all deserve so much better than the hell radical feminism pretends is a liberated future.

I do not blame anyone who fell prey to this rhetoric, I know it feels good to have a common enemy and lash out at those you think are siding with them however they do it, but men, especially marginalized men, are not your enemies. and it's never too late to realize that and change for the better.

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i feel like many people use "straight"...wrong

it's used a lot to mean cis, het, allo, perisex, etc.

basically just not lgbtq+ at all

but that's not true

trans people can be straight and lgbtq+

intersex people can be straight and lgbtq+

neopronoun users can be straight and lgbtq+

arospec people can be straight and lgbtq+

acespec people can be straight and lgbtq+

polyamorous people can be straight and lgbtq+

genderfluid, bigender, and other gender non-conforming people can be straight and lgbtq+

i know a few people who are biromantic and heterosexual or vice versa, and they are still lgbtq+

and there are so many more identities that can absolutely be both

straight does not mean not lgbtq+

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While separating relationships into strictly sexual, platonic, or romantic or some combination of those is fine for understanding the aromantic and asexual spectrum at a basic level, we must eventually understand that some relationships will never fit into these categories and often queer relationships are more complex than that, and our definition of queer relationships must include abstract relationships.

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Electronic Music, DJs and Parties Themed ID Pack

[PT: Electronic Music, DJs and Parties Themed ID Pack].

[ID: A purple thin line divider shaded at the bottom. End ID].

Names

[PT: Names].

Apollo, Axton, Blaze, Cadence, Cleo, Coda, Cosmo, Cruz, Dahlia, Dax, Daze, Echo, Electra, Electra, Ember, Enzo, Estelle, Faye, Flash, Flux, Glimmer, Halo, Harmony, Isis, Jasper, Jett, Juno, Kade, Kai, Kairo, Keira, Kian, Knox, Larkin, Layla, Lio, Luna, Lux, Lyric, Moxie, Neon, Nova, Onyx, Pax, Piper, Pulse, Quest, Rave, Rhea, Rhythm, Riven, Sable, Sierra, Sky, Skye, Sona, Sonic, Spark, Strobe, Talia, Taryn, Tempo, Trix, Vibe, Vyn, Xara

Pronouns

[PT: Pronouns].

Beat / Beats / Beats, Ba / Bass / Basses, BPM / BPMs / BPMs, Cue / Cues / Cues, Drop / Drops / Drops, Echo / Echos / Echos, Ele / Electro / Electronic, Fla / Flash / Flashes, Glo / Glow / Glows, La / Las / Laser, Mix / Mixed / Mixes, Ne / Neon / Neons, Ra / Rave / Raves, Re / Reverb / Reverbs, Sync / Syncs / Syncs, Te / Tem / Tempo, Tra / Track / Tracks, Vi / Vibe / Vibes, Wa / Wav / Wave

Titles

[PT: Titles].

The Beatmaker, The DJ of Tomorrow's Beat, The Flashing Soundwave, The Master of the Mix, The Music Architect, The Neon Light, The One Who Controls the Beat, The One Who Lights Up the Night, The Party’s Catalyst, The Rhythm Rider, The Spotlight of the Rave, The Vibrant Nightstar, [Pronoun] Who Moves the Crowd, [Pronoun] Who Rules On the Dancefloor, [Pronoun] Who Spins the Decks, [Pronoun] With Glowsticks in Hands

[ID: A purple thin line divider shaded at the bottom, end ID]

Requested by anon!

Also tagging: @pronoun-arc @id-pack-archive

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ID Pack for the Deity of Love and Justice

With themes of retribution, non-sexual carnal lust, paradise and forests.

Names

akroma, alecto, amadeus, amanda, amor, apollo, artemis, calypso, carita, carwyn, charmy, cordula, cupid, destiny, diana, elucia, elwood, eroda, eros, forrest, freyja, gaia, harmonia, ione, jasmine, jezebel, justine, laodice, lilith, lulu, noa, paradis, passeri, satinbird, silverius, sonnet, sorin, triana, valantis, valentin(e/a/o), venus, viper, willow

Pronouns

adore / adoration, affect / affection, atone / atonement, bal / balance, bless / blessed, bli / bliss, bo / bones, cha / charm, correct / correction, crave / cravings, den / dendro, des / desire, dev / devour, ether / ethereal, for / forage, for / forestry, hea / heart, inhu / inhuman, just / justice, ki / kiss, la / lace, lo / love, lux / luxury, moral / morality, over / growth, passion / passionate, punish / punishment, re / revenge, sca / scale, ser / serene, sweet / sweetheart, ta / taste, ven / vengeance, wi / wish, wo / wood

Titles

deity of love and justice, [x] who dishes out criminal's just deserts, the punishment one deserves, [x] who listens to the birds chirp after an act of revenge, the love-filled punisher, [x] who holds more than meets the eye, [x] with the help of the forest, [x] who watches a criminal's punishment from paradise, [x] who rips the loveless heart from evil's chest, [x] who's lost in paradise, [x] who can be trusted to correct the justice system's mistakes, [x] who longs for retribution, [x] who takes respite in the forest, [x] who holds the kiss of retribution, [x] who sends letters of revenge, [x] who basks in the forests of love, [x] who brings flowers to [x] enemy's trial, [x] who watches [x]self in the forest's lakes, first love, [x] who tends to the overgrowth of [x] enemy's grave, the heart of the forest, [x] who carries out the forest's desires, [x] who craves retribution, [x] blinded by [x] lust for retribution, [x] who won't forgive your sins, [x] who scars the tissue of [x] target's [social] life

Genders

affectiondeitic, amoncitte, amouseic, canilovin, deitoram, deityadored, divibunlovedollic, entiforestic, foresrotmoth, forleafian, godsmercyquoteic, holyboy/holygirl, holyutopic, justicedeic, loveripped, naturapurgic

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as an aroace person with limited sexual experience, no interest in watching porn, and poor sex ed as a teen, there IS something simultaneously funny and vaguely tragic about being 28 adult years old and realising how extremely tiny your frame of reference is for genitalia and deciding you should expand this to better understand bodies (yours and others). and then you're just there like "okay so what the fuck do I even google right now, anyway"

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You don’t get to say queer lives matter if you don’t say black lives matter

You don’t get to say queer lives matter if you don’t say disabled lives matter

You don’t get to say queer lives matter if you don’t say First Nations lives matter

You don’t get to say queer lives matter if you don’t say neurodivergent lives matter

You don’t get to say queer lives matter if you don’t say women’s health matters

You don’t get to say queer lives matter if you don’t say ANY other marginalized communities’ lives matter

Intersectional identities are here and won’t go away

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The moment you start claiming that an oppressed group “loves to play the victim” you’ve already started walking down the pipeline to extremism and bigotry.