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welcome to my farm where I keep my dark horse my black sheep my scapegoat and my underdog. my canary in the coal mine died ages ago

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In my experience as a third culture kid who travels a lot the best indicator that you as a non-x is appreciating x culture is if the locals actively invite you to participate in it with them

Yes, you are allowed to buy those handmade Inuit winter clothes if an Inuk is literally selling them to you. They would not be offering you a price point if they didnt want you to buy and wear them. And you might discover that theyre the best winter clothes youve ever worn because of COURSE they would be if theyve kept this culture warm in harsh winters for thousands of years.

Yes, you are allowed to join those Cambodians in that local holiday theyre celebrating during your visit if they literally invited you to it. They would not have invited you if they didnt want you to participate. And in the process you might learn a lot about a culture you never wouldve interacted with and you can all have a laugh together about your clumsy but genuine attempts at getting your footwork right in one of their traditional dances.

Yes, you are also allowed to ask if you can participate in something from the local culture you are visiting. Sometimes you will get "sorry, thats a closed practice" but in my experience most of the time you'll get "of course, let me show you how to do this!" And in my experience people tend to appreciate when others make an active effort in sharing their culture and wont stone you to death if youre clumsy about it while youre learning. I guarantee that the local children doing all of this for the first time too make the same mistakes you do and they can tell if youre being disrespectful or genuine.

So much "cultural appropriation" discourse really starts to sound like "you cant participate or visit any other cultures if youre from a Colonial Culture and have to stay in your little box and never relate to other people"

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em dash is so fucking sexy. puts her in a paragraph 8 times.

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Just realised I follow three different nonbinary people named Maia. The nickels keep rolling in.

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everyones fave thieves

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ok but what if we normalize having a party where you dress up & are the center of attention & all your friends congratulate you on your divorce. more unhappy couples would hurry up and pull the plug, i will bet you

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“catastrophizing” is such an annoying personality flaw. like yeah, don’t mind me, i’ve decided to architect my own dread for the afternoon. yeah, this gives me a false sense of control and security. i shouldn’t be doing this. it will happen again

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Somebody should make a chart of Spongebob episodes based on how many meme templates came from each.

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I don't think the Trinity is that hard to understand or explain. o:

I usually think of it like this:

You have a friend; they have 3 jobs.

They have a job as a engineer, a cashier, and a janitor.

You wouldn't go to your friend in each job and ask "Are you the same guy I know????" - You know it's the exact same friend at each job, even though they're doing something different at each job.

Or think of it in gaming terms:

It's like someone with three different characters in a game. They switch between each character whenever needed, but you know it's the exact same person controlling each character, despite the different skills/class abilities.

Heck, even further think of someone who changes their hair color + style every day. You don't question or ask if they're the same person from when you first saw them. You know it's the same person, just different presentation.

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The thing with Harry Potter is that if Daniel Radcliffe can walk away from it then so can you. No one else on the planet has their identity more tied to that series than him and he walked away. So to see the actors for the new show saying JKR isn't doing anything wrong, to see the actors involved in the new audible super production supporting her, when she has explicitly, loudly, and proudly said she's gonna use that money to fund taking away rights from trans people is ridiculous. No sense of morals if people pay you enough and this is insane.

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if you work with kids 80% of your job is just this

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