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i need someone who will love the depressed me, happy me, growing me, worst me, and indecisive me. Without calling me crazy or toxic for not being able to understand me.

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I'm starting a collection

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You are loved.

Reference here

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Bunch of the 2d style Gifs I made on my first full binge of the series lol

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i miss my gf. i don’t have one right now but if i had one i feel like i miss her so much.

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when i was a teenager it felt very revolutionary to be cruel to myself. like some kind of slow passive protest against how much everything hurt. i starved myself of sleep and food and tenderness because it felt right. it felt sharp and angry and radical and i wanted to be those things. adulthood is the realisation that the world is already working to cut into you well before you learn how to do it yourself. caring for yourself and others is the real protest

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foxglove by Hans Ripa

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In hindsight it's very insulting to be told that flunking out of college due to adhd is actually "quite common"

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“oh but kamala harris was a prosecutor!” my siblings in hashem, the guys bringing charges against the january 6th insurrectionists are prosecutors. the guys trying to hold donald trump accountable for his behavior are prosecutors. prosecutors are necessary & vital for the functioning of our justice system.

i think what you’re actually pinging, here, is the system that often encourages people like district attorneys to use their power in unethical ways that often end up further victimizing & marginalizing vulnerable people. we should talk about that! we should be working to disentangle the laws & processes that often make police departments & district attorneys close collaborators in cycles of violence and disenfranchisement.

but, like. none of that was made by kamala harris? it was like that before she got there & was like that after she left, and there are two important other things that need to be said.

a) from everything i’ve read, kamala harris’ record as district attorney & then attorney general was actually pretty good. she oversaw some important, positive changes. is it a mixed legacy? of course. any person in any position of power, especially in a system as fucked up as ours, is going to have a mixed legacy. which brings me to my second important thing.

b) you will never, not even once in your life, be voting for someone, at any level of government, who is perfectly morally pure & beyond reproach. this is both because people are people, and because—as the good place illustrates in an accessible way i highly recommend—there is a base level of fuckery involved in most people’s lives. she could’ve decided to not become a prosecutor of course, i suppose. but then all the valuable & positive contributions she has made could very well have not been made, and things would be even worse, because somebody would have been making the decisions anyway. & even after all that!! she still wouldn’t be morally pure! because that!! is how living in a complex society works!!!

like this is such a deeply complicated series of ethical questions with no clear answers, which is often why ethicists are so infuriating to be around.

but ultimately, guys, we could all do worse than a proven public servant who cares deeply even when her decisions aren’t perfect. and that’s how being human and living in a society works.

vote.

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This is how many bullets they shot on a fucking kid.

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I’m paying to force seven thousand strangers to see a photo of my late husband having fun with his dog. Tumblr Blaze is totally worth it. XD

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That audio processing disorder issue where you are listening to a movie and it sounds like its in another language so you get annoyed with yourself...

Only to realize it is in a different language

What the fuck

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Hard pill to swallow, maybe, but sometimes you are the problem. You may not have been initially, but people around you can only have so much endurance for understanding why you're "like that" and how you got to where you are now. Even if you were the one who was victimized, hurt, or abused to begin with, your behavior affects those around you. There's a point at which personal responsibility needs to kick in, or you will become toxic. You can become toxic even if you never become an abuser yourself. If other people are constantly having to help dig you out of the holes you made but you keep slapping their hands away, you cannot expect them to have an indefinite amount of patience and energy to keep trying. If you're not putting in the work to recover from what damaged you; if everyone else in your life is consistently the only one making a real effort to effect change for you--you're the problem.