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I agree

happy pansexual visibility day just a reminder that pansexuality is biphobic and transphobic <333

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I'm glad I followed you tbh. Your blog opened my eyes to the reality that not only has the fetishization and utilization of LGBT as a trend hasn't only fucked trans people up the ass but it has ALSO fucked lesbians up the ass. It's disgusting to see so many people are nowadays are willingly to accept shit like "men can be lesbians too and they are valid uwu" and don't see how that is literally helping to invalidate what lesbians have been fighting for for decades

agreed :) I'm glad what I'm doing has made an impact!!

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I can’t wait to put this on twitter, the main source of the bi/pan lesbian discourse, and get death threats in response. I made this specifically for the subreddit r/lgballt, I haven’t posted it there yet but I’m hoping it goes over well.

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people who are (rightfully) against “bi lesbians” but also support “nonbinary lesbians” are strange af to me. like how can you acknowledge that the former is lesbophobic and biphobic but not that the latter is lesbophobic and transphobic? guess what, both are contradictory and harmful identities!

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Yea... Pretty sad

lesbianism isn’t a political stance that can be invalidated if your opinion is “wrong” there are transphobic or really conservative lesbians. I may not like them bc I don’t agree with them but they are in fact lesbians

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man is a binary term.

woman is a binary term.

boy is a binary term.

girl is a binary term.

he and him are binary terms.

she and her are binary terms.

gay is a binary term.

lesbian is a binary term.

mlm is a binary term.

wlw is a binary term.

using binary terms while claiming to be nonbinary(agender) is self-contradictory. you can’t be binary and nonbinary at the same time. that’s not how the world works, and that’s not how an actual genderless brain would work.

actual nonbinary(agender) people who feel neither male nor female are already having a tough enough time being believed and respected. if you feel completely comfortable and not dysphoric at all using binary term and pronouns for yourself, consider the fact that you are most likely a GNC person. simply dressing androgynous and not conforming 100% to gender roles does not automatically make you nonbinary(agender). experiencing atypical gender dysphoria and having a brain that’s neither male nor female does, and that’s probably a very rare thing that not many people in the world actually experience. i think a lot of people are confusing gender non-conformity for being nb, and that’s not a good thing. i’m tired of seeing that happen. do not immediately slap labels onto yourself without knowing what they mean.

‼️please be respectful in the notes if you want to debate about this. this means NO suicide baiting, death threats, rape threats, etc. if you don’t follow this rule, you WILL be blocked/reported.‼️

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the fact that you can tell most trans people are straight because actual gay kids learn from an early age that most people aren’t attracted to us because they’re exclusively attracted to the opposite sex. like, gay teenagers with crushes on straight people have to figure out eventually that the crush is going to go nowhere. it’s never going to blossom into a full on relationship. it’s impossible.

straight people (especially men i feel) don’t really learn that. chances are that their crush will be reciprocated and if it isn’t then a majority of people are straight so it doesn’t really matter in the long run. this is how you get TIMS/TIFS who don’t understand same sex attraction. 

obviously there’s a sense of entitlement there as well. heterosexual men who call themselves women have been straight their entire life. they’ve probably had their feelings reciprocated by at least one women. so they don’t understand why lesbians reject them because they’re “women” now. they’ve never had to reckon with the fact that people who are actually same sex attracted are a minority of the population.

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If you think 'adult human female' as a definition of woman is offensive, you're just admitting that you are a misogynist. That definition is broad that it includes literally every female that has ever been born.

'Not all women have periods or can get pregnant so are they still women??' Yes.

'What about women with non-functioning ovaries or intersex disorders?' Yes, still women.

In order to be an infertile woman, and intersex woman or a woman with PCOS you have to be born female. In order to be a trans man you have to be female. We all know what female means. It's just really disingenuous when gendies act like we think female=baby incubator. There are undeniable differences between the sexes, and the experiences of both are completely different.

I'm sorry but trans men will literally never know what it's like to be a man. They will never have the full grasp of what it's like to be born in a male body, and socialized as men in society. They will never get anyone pregnant, never be able to have a functioning penis, and will never go through a male puberty. Trans men however share the same experience of growing up female as other women do. Trans men go through female puberty, often times experience periods and pregnancy and know what it's like to have a clitoral orgasm. These are experiences exclusive to females. So why is it so wrong to say it?

What is so horrible and degrading about naming the female experience? There is nothing inherently restrictive about being a woman, society is the one that tells us it is. Why do women have to call themselves men in order to cut their hair and wear practical clothing? Why do women have to call themselves men when they are uncomfortable with how men objectify us? Why do women have to call themselves men when they're attracted to other women?

If anything the trans identity is more restrictive because it reinforces the idea that women have to think/behave/like certain things and if you dont then you must not be a woman. If you think that being a woman is something besides just being born one you either have a lot of internalized misogyny to work on or you are just a plain old misogynist.

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performative tumblr post: trans women are so beautiful! theyre lovely goddesses! theyre 100% valid and amazing! they are sweet forest nymphs and spread love and joy into the world!! actual transwomen on tumblr: lol that fucking cunt deserved to get beaten up white women are so fragile i’ll literally slit your throat if you call me a male thats what happens if you misgender trans people i’ll rip your eyes out of your skull bitch

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i am so tired of the word queer. so damn tired, so damn ready for society to drop it from our collective vocab and start using words with meanings instead

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Each year, my fear for proper LGBT activism grows... notice how lesbian and gay are mentioned in HRC and GLAAD’s annual reports fewer and fewer as the years progress.

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m sure there are a few errors from Adobe’s advanced search that generated this data (it could have picked up on data chart captions etc. to extrapolate data or completely miss words because it’s not perfect), but I believe this is still enough to cause concern and start discussion. 

Also, I am only discussing the U.S. orgs because I have donated to them previously and am more familiar with them, here is the source I found this data from.

And before I say anything else, I am not anti-transgender or against the advocacy for transgender people in general or by these nonprofits. I think it’s good for them to be mentioned more, but in recent years, it feels like the LGB part of the acronym is being pushed out of the spotlight for T advocacy.

For me, this especially hurts because, these trusted nonprofits are supposed to advocate for my (I am a lesbian if you don’t know me) and gay men’s rights. 

Ideally I’d love to see both of these orgs mention each letter about the same in their reports because in my opinion, lesbian and gay rights are FAR from being fully equal to straight rights.

Feel free to add other thoughts or ideas, this is an open discussion.

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No offense but when I was in the trans cult they basically…lead kids to suicide or suicide ideation? Like if your parents don’t accept you and use your pronouns and let you transition, you are no longer safe there. Your life is in danger. You have to run away. Where can you run to? Make a GoFundMe. You’re homeless now. Or you don’t have the resources to leave. What else can you do? Idk but like it’s ridiculous but that’s the narrative they put into minors heads (mine) ? They emphasize the whole world validating you and when they don’t THEYRE the problem, they’re why you’re dysphoric and unsafe. They make kids feel helpless and hopeless. They exacerbate issues. No wonder those kids are so mentally fragile??? What kind of community promotes this???

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I love them okay??? I'll protect them with my life-

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Fnaf Security breach: free dad!

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