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y'know what? fuck it! shout out to all my fellow "stereotypes!"

shoutout to my fellow autists who do feel like a kid in a child's body because their mind works differently. shoutout to my fellow systems who have alters that lash out, and/or alters of fictives from popular media. shoutout to my fellow bpd folks who get clingy and have abandonment issues. shoutout to the autists who act "robotic" and love trains or dinosaurs. shoutout to the people with OCD/OCPD who do get obsessions with cleanliness and orderliness, who do wash their hands over and over, who do lock and unlock the doors a specific number of times. shoutout to the people struggling with intrusive thoughts that do get the violent ones and the sexual ones, not just the self-injurious ones.

shoutout to my fellow flamboyant gays. shoutout to the lesbians who wear flannel and have buzzcuts. shoutout to the aces who like space and cake and dragons. shoutout to the aces who are stoic and don't have an interest in bonding with people even non-romantically. shoutout to the nbs with neopronouns and names like "star." shoutout to the queers(or otherwise lgbt+ folk if you don't use that term for yourself) who have dyed and cut hair, wear a shitload of pronoun pins, wear a rainbow binder that can be seen, and love talking about how much they love being part of the community.

shoutout to my fellow activists who yell and get mad. shoutout to my fellow activists who bring up the problems in things, even if it means "always making it political." shoutout to the feminists who don't wear bras or shave, and don't get along with men.

shoutout to the men who struggle with emotions. shoutout to the men who love blue and camo and trucks and fixing things and sports and hunting. shoutout to the women who cry easily. shoutout to the women who take hours getting ready. shoutout to the women who love pink and shopping and shoes and cooking and taking care of kids and cleaning.

i'm very white so i'll summarize the next one: shoutout to all the BIPOC fitting into "stereotypes" as well. if anyone who is BIPOC wants to give specific shout outs, go for it!

to anyone who fits these or any other "stereotypes":

You are not a stereotype. You are a person with traits and qualities. You are not doing anything wrong by being true to yourself, whether that means fitting expectations or not.

Anyone who hates whatever group you are in for these "stereotypes" would hate your group regardless; anyone who accuses you of "giving your group a bad name" is deflecting the hate onto you because it's easier to pretend that it's nothing they are doing that gets that hatred; the truth is, bigots are bigots and they will always find a "reason" to be hateful. You trying to avoid "stereotypes" will never change that.

(do not fucking clown on this post. you will not get a debate from me, you will get blocked.)

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Why romanticize depression when you can romanticize recovery, learning how to enjoy things again, trying to forgive yourself and build a life you are satisfied with

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Reason to Live #8174

  Forgetting about a snack I bought and feeling happy rediscovering it. – Guest Submission

(Please don’t add negative comments to these posts.)

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It is normal not to be able to recall your trauma. Your memories may be foggy, disorganized, inaccessible, or blank. You are not wrong, you are not dramatic, you are not dishonest. The mind is very powerful, and it will take measures to protect us for fear and harm even if we don’t choose to. Take the time you need to heal what you can feel even if you cannot name it.

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Healing isn’t instantly forgetting what happened and suppressing your feelings.

Sometimes healing can look like getting worse then gradually it gets better day by day. You’ll start noticing you stop talking about things less and less, your anger subsides. You’ll notice you’re doing things you love rather than posting on social media or constant scrolling.

You may notice you’re not on your phone as much. You may notice you’re checking the person who you’re trying to heal form’s social medias less and less.

When you recognise these changes, that can be a sign you’re healing. Sometimes it’s not just a linear thing, but over time these little changes you see in yourself are signs of growth. You may not be where you want, but these are signs you’re getting there.

Be proud of those things you notice and continue as you are, whatever it is that’s keeping you busy and learning to live life again. Bit by bit it gets easier.

Heck, it’s why I haven’t posted on here at all. That’s a sign of my healing, I’m posting today as I noticed I hadn’t made any posts about my ex Favourite Person in a while whereas not long ago it was daily. Multiple times a day in fact.

It’s okay for your healing journey to take time, if it’s taking time that means you’re processing it properly. Never suppress your emotions, they need to be processed so you can work on the whys and moving forward. Never invalidate yourself even if you feel like you need to “just get over it”. Some things you can’t get over, some things you just have to ride through and it’ll get easier each day.

Will you still feel sadness and pain when you think about it? Sure. Heck, I mourn for the friend I lost, but now I can say that grief isn’t crippling. Do I still check his socials sometimes, do I still have days where I cry? Yes. That’s part of it. I’m doing those things far less than I was a month ago.

It’s taken me almost 4 months to get to where I am. Wether it takes months, weeks or years it doesn’t matter. As long as you acknowledge your own growth and those little achievements you’re doing great. You’ll heal when you’re ready. It’s a journey.

I’ll get there in the end, I’ve still got some healing to do of course I have. But life seems a little less bleak and hopeless than it did months ago

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cluster b culture is apologizing to your friends for the experience of being friends with you.

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trauma does not make me stronger. trauma forces me to use all the strength i have on survival - to the detriment of my health and happiness. and now, i'm fighting for a life where i don't have to divert all of my strength on that - a life where i can use my strength on the things that genuinely fulfill me, instead of just getting through horrific things. so i can be happy and safe.

so. you can bet your fucking ass that i was just as strong before as i am now. i'm just showing that strength differently. trauma does not determine my strength - i do.

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Cluster b culture is not being able to tell if people actually love you or if they’re just pretending to manipulate you into doing what they want and getting angry at hypothetical scenarios of being manipulated because you’re paranoid and can’t trust people to mean what they say

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Lunchtime🦎🌺🦎🌺🦎

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so much love

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I can see myself being crazy and throwing fits and making people angry and I just can't stop. why can't I stop? it's like I'm watching myself from behind a window, I can only witness this, not control it.

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bpd culture is trying to use a dbt self-help book, but feeling alienated by it, because the book keeps assuming that you're sad and in pain, when really you're trying to deal with your envy, jealousy, and rage

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