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One must imagine Sisyphus happy

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Carhops in Dallas, Texas 1940

In the 40s, women carhops had discovered their tips could increase by up to $25 a week, about $460 in today’s money, if they wore significantly revealing costumes. One offended woman in Texas complained to the Fort Worth Star “we women are sick of looking at girls’ legs; we’d rather look at men’s” in an effort to force a change in women’s uniforms. Instead a local drive in responded by hiring “four husky young men… in blue shorts, white sweaters, and fancy cowboy boots” to serve women at the drive through. (source)

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[ID: August 18. And so this August is wasted. END ID] August 18, 1921 Virginia Woolf, “A Writer’s Diary” (1918 - 1941) originally published: 1933

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Writing Sam Wilson

With the rampant racism going on in the Sam and Sambucky tags on a daily basis, I thought I’d put together a list of resources that people can tap into when writing Sam. Because idk if maybe y'all don't know any better but it's it getting so exhausting seeing your favorite character constantly mistreated or seeing hate crimes in his tag all day.

And listen as a white person myself, I HIGHLY recommend that you go through the stereotypes and tropes carefully and with a mindset of learning. I also highly recommend that if you get offended, defensive, or irritated about anything you read here, you inspect that. And if your first reaction is to double down and argue, inspect that too.

Addressing our biases is uncomfortable but not as uncomfortable as some of you have made people in this fandom with the way you treat Black characters and fans.

Do better.

Stereotypes & Tropes

The link in the heading above is a guide to quite a few harmful stereotypes and tropes to be mindful of when writing characters of color by writingwithcolor. I highly recommend you read through their content.

Below is a list of things we see most often in the Sam and Sambucky tags as well as links from sources talking about similar situations in other spaces:

Infantilization of white characters (At PoC’s expense): Bucky being framed as a helpless child who can't think for himself and that always being Sam's problem.

Black Man, Protecting his Traumatized White Wife: Sam always comforting and being concerned about Bucky when the comfort and care is never reciprocal, and when 'caretaker' Sam's only role/purpose in the story.

Writing a Comedic Black Character: Sam being over-the-top funny and saying things that are wildly out of character. Those incorrect quotes that frame him as joking but he's really mean and hateful, sometimes even violent, toward Bucky? Yeah.

Sam being sexually aggressive: why do people insist that Sam is the top in the relationship? That he's a dom, that he's rough in bed. There's absolutely nothing wrong with top!sam, but insisting that he's no-doubt aggressive and dominant in bed? Nah. Same goes for hyper sexualization.

Size Difference: Describing or drawing Sam as bigger or taller than his white partner when canon clearly depicts otherwise.

Villainizing Black Characters/Actors: Sam is always wrong, Sam is unfair, Sam is a bully, Sam is violent. Mackie is a misogynist. Mackie is homophobic etc.

Writingwithcolor also has this search engine that finds anything on their blog.

Resources for writing Sam as a well rounded character:

A lot of the time Sam is written without any depth or nuance. In many fics, he only exists to prop the white dude up. Very rarely is he written as the caring, badass, heartthrob that he really is. Be mindful of Sam's role in your story, is he always chasing Bucky's affection, are you using Sam as a reader insert to lust after Bucky? Do you diminish/ignore Sam's skills and knowledge to make the white dude look good/smart? Do you consider his trauma and mental struggles as well when you write about Bucky's and how Bucky leans on him for support? Remember Sam's POV does not equal a Sam-centric story.

Below are a bunch of links on how cool Sam really is to help you shape his character in your stories:

From the 2019 samwilsonbirthdaybang:

MCU Wiki (link updated by me since Sam is now Cap) Marvel Wiki A folder full of Sam meta Complete Badass (reblog) NCO (non-commissioned officer) and why

Sam Wilson Meta: A Timeline

Sam Wilson's USAF Rank

Sam Wilson is a US Special Forces Pararescueman, and a PTSD counselor. 

Sam's role at the VA was a peer counselor, not a therapist. here's the difference.

A compilation of Sam Wilson’s personality traits

Sam's PTSD

Sam's age & Riley's death

More badass Sam Wilson

Resources for drawing/coloring Sam:

Here's a hint: he's not beige or grey. Too often do we see art of someone who is supposed to be Sam but he's one shade darker than the white dude. These posts go into detail with some great advise:

Creating Black Characters

Whitewashing & Colorism

Coloring gifs of poc

Y'all can't draw or color Black ppl to save your lives.

Color picking

Color theory & darker skin

Some examples of whitewashing skin tone: this, this, this, this and this. Loads more examples on whyaretheywhite!

Here's a visual:

see where this dude's skin tone is on the color picker:

compared to Mackie's skin tone?:

Look at the difference between those two shades! Remember whitewashing doesn't only refer to the lightening of skin, it also includes drawing Black characters with European facial features, and not incorporating the appropriate hair texture etc.

Additional resources & reading:

How to write fic for Black characters: a guide for non-Black fans

Colourblindness

White Authors and Topics to Avoid/Tread Carefully

Physical Descriptions:

Dark skin reactions to cold weather Skin color changes due to health Describing skin tone Skin tone & food comparisons: it's weird. stop it.

Dehumanizinig Sam

Antiblackness in it's many forms

It's not preference, it's racism.

Antiblackness: Even more examples

It's not shipwars, surprise, it's also racism.

More Stereotypes

Interracial Relationships

For now that's it. I might add useful articles I come across to this post as time goes on. Please also add your own resources but fuckery will be blocked.

These resources are by no means exhaustive, they are just what i have used as references throughout the years. You will do yourself (and a multitude of Sam fans) a massive favor by being introspective about your role in this fandom and how it affects Black fans and other fans of Sam Wilson. Go and read the rest of the articles/posts on these blogs and apply the context to the Sam and Sambucky fandoms, the similarities are stark.

xoxo, a tired Sam fan who just wants to see him loved and respected.

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you're so beautifol :) may i sense you with my feelers

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Hi! Love your blog! Who are your main men? As in, the men you crush on/love the most? (Actors/characters). And in what order? Thank you!

hi nonnie, thank you for stopping by and asking this? like omg, can i kiss you on the mouth for this, darling nonnie?

here we go: welcome to my rotisserie of men

(disclaimer: no men are harmed against their will, they love being kept warm and toasty and close to each other since men are social creatures)

(disclaimer 2: i love my fictional men deeply flawed, hurt, traumatized and with more red flags than a Soviet parade. not all of them but a lot of them are)

(disclaimer 3: they are many but, my mind harem, but I am rich in years and i collect them like the youngins collect labubus these days)

1. Pedro Pascal

even though I'm taking a fandom break atm, i still very much adore this man. my favorite characters, and I'm limiting myself here, are:

Dave York (duh)

Max Phillips (an asshole AND a vampire, ding ding ding, jackpot!)

Harry Castillo (I'm not a sugar daddy girl but I'd love to be spoiled by him)

Joel Miller (I'm respectingy the elderly, I'll take him as 60+ version)

2. Jake Gyllenhaal

nonnie, I'm crushing on him since forever. he's just so 😩🫦 once again, I'm limiting myself to four characters, or else the list would be endless

David Loki (HAVE YOU SEEN HIM? the hair, the tattoos, the blinking? the trauma he has 😩 10/10, i love him since i saw prisoners back in the day)

John Kinley (traumatized veteran with a hairy chest and nightmares? sign me the fuck up)

Anthony Swofford (it's the buzz cut, it's that he reads, it's that he's traumatized and was cheated on. i could assist him on his healing journey)

Louis Bloom (yes. he's is such a fascinating character, i have the urge to dissect him or to rile him up until he snaps and lets me get injured for good video footage oops)

3. Aidan Gillen

Aidan who? Yeah, that one actor dude from Ireland. I'm fairly new to this fandom but... oh well. the red flags characters drew me in and now i am marveling at their depravity and intelligence

Petyr Baelish (no regrets here, you can't make me feel bad about him. In fact i only feel good feelings. Tingly feelings, if you catch my drift 😌 I'd let him screw me over and screw me in one go)

Barry Weiss (a cute but sick fuck)

Clayton Cote (drug smuggler, abandonment issues, likes holding a pussy cat in his hand)

Dr. Frank Harte (drug addict, asshole, blood type cynism O negative, yum)

4. an assortment of men - a potpourri of good taste

Frank Castle, Braxton Wolff (Jon Bernthal)

Benny Miller (he's so precious, I'd catch a fictional bullet for him)

Will Miller, Jax Teller (Charlie Hunnam)

Pixel Joel Miller

Arthur Morgan

Remmick

Rust Cohle (omgggggggg, him)

Indiana Jones (first loml in the ripe age of 6)

(And then there is a fridge full with more guys I periodically obsess over but who probably won't make it into the permanent rotisserie, I'll just take a bite out of them whenever I feel like it)

Sooooooo, I hope this answers your questions, deary, thank you so much for letting me ramble. I'd love to hear about your crushes, please let me know who your guys are!!

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purple & yellow pngs ! free to use! credit not needed but appreciated :)

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Just a little something to take the edge off 🚬

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EMMA D'ARCY on instagram, august 8th 2025

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Eric Bana as Kyle Turner || Untamed - A Celestial Event (1.01)

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Eric Bana as Kyle Turner || Untamed - Jane Doe (1.02)

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Oh, we heard tale of a party.

Sinners (2025) dir. Ryan Coogler

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Putting it in your mouth soft and letting it grow down your throat 🥴