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How Pickup Changed My Life

I’ve always had a somewhat natural ability to attract women, but I struggled to attract the type of women I desired. You know the ones. The type of women ALL men want. You may know them by a numerical value. The 9s. The 10s.

About 5 years ago I got divorced. I was in a seemingly picturesque marriage, but it wasn’t what I wanted. I had multiple affairs I kept hidden to save face, but eventually I couldn’t go on, so I told her I wanted out. I assumed being single again would be fun, but I didn’t at the time realize the amount of emotional and intro-personal work it was going to take to get myself back in the game. Being very resilient and considering myself a blank canvas, I took to the internet to see what I could uncover.

Enter Arash Dibazar and Seductive Instinct.

I remember being immediately drawn to Arash after watching one video on YouTube. “This guy really knows what’s up.” I thought to myself. He became an unknowing mentor to me literally overnight. I began binge watching all of his countless videos and interviews on multiple channels.

I make no claim to know everything the man thinks, but he teaches pickup as an art form, and with any art form, the individual must make it his own. I immediately went out and purchased the books The Mystery Method and The Game. I also scoured the internet for everything I could find on the subject. There are a lot of Players out there teaching gimmicks and routines, and some of them work. I’ve tried them, but they always made me seem dis genuine. Arash’s teachings however, focus mostly on something called “inner game”, and this is where the man really shines.

Inner game is all about self, where as “outer game” is all about the girl. I suppose there are many ways to define inner game, but the way I understand it is the molding of who you are into something which automatically attracts what you want. Sort of making who you are and your life so attractive, woman are simply drawn to you as moths to a flame. If you look at Arash’s life its very apparent he is a Master of Game.

In Practice

I laugh now as I look my back at my early days. There were some successes, but there were lots and lots of failures. Some of them quite entertaining to tell. As with anything, learning Game is a process, and that means you’re going to have to embrace failure and rejection in order to grow.

Studying pickup from an inner game perspective, completely revolutionized my entire life for the better. Most of the evolution I’ve experienced is too in depth to go into now, but I can honestly say I no longer suffer from a lack of women in my life. I value myself and my relationships with people much more. I can interact in any social setting. I can read body language, social cues, and oh yea, I can still attract the hottest girl in the room when I choose to do so.

Over the past several years I’ve had relationships come and go. I’ve had really high highs and really low lows. I’ve made plenty of mistakes with this art form, but I’ve grown from each one of them. I owe much respect and gratitude for the expression of Arash, and I will forever carry and pass on the wisdom and knowledge of pick up, and teach it as an essential life skill for all men.

If you want to know more about the man simply go to YouTube and type in “Arash Dibazar” and let the journey begin.

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Fix Me!

There is nothing wrong with you.

From the very beginning there was never anything wrong with you,

But then you were born into this body and your parents, because they are imperfect, told you from a young age how wrong you were.

They told you how you should behave in “polite society”.

How to say “please” and “thank you”.

What to do or Not do.

What to say or Not say.

How to share,

But it’s all wrong because you never really wanted any of it.

You were perfect from the start but,

You were modeled by THIS society to fit THIS societies ideals.

And an Ego was born.

A false self.

A survival mechanism.

An idea of who you are and what your place in this world should be.

And if that wasn’t bad enough, when you got older you fully bought into the idea. You modeled yourself to conform to whatever ideal.

Christian.

Hindu.

Muslim.

Democrat.

Republican.

Gay.

Straight.

American.

Pick one, and by picking one you become separated from yourself.

Separation by inclusion.

But you see the Truth is, there was never anything wrong with you at all.

You never felt a feeling that wasn’t true. You’ve never desired anything that you didn’t want.

Where you are, is exactly where you should be.

The only thing wrong with you,

is you cannot accept nothing is wrong with you.

Don’t look for change.

Instead, seek acceptance.

The acceptance of Self.

Forgive yourself for being a blind fool.

And then, have a good laugh at your own expense.

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Control Freaks

What is it about this experience in these flesh suits which makes us worry about things out of our control?

Wait... There it is.

We desire to have Control of everything.

That’s called Your Ego.

...and that desire of control can Never be satisfied.

It only leads to frustration and bitterness and anxiety and ill health.

You see, because if you look deep enough, if you really think about it, you’re suffering.....

suffering because You Know you’re going to die.... and there isn’t a damn thing you can do to control THAT,

and it seems hopeless... so you grasp at anything... anything you can get one up on.

But suffering isn’t “bad”. It just IS.

No need to put a label on it.

That’s just another way of attempting control.

“Maybe if I label this thing I can find a cure.”

But it won’t work.

Give up trying to control and just SEE.

See what IS.

Life is suffering.

The rich man suffers just as much as the beggar,

but in differing ways.

... and perhaps if you can give up trying to control everything and just Let Go.

Maybe. Just maybe. You can appreciate Life for what it is...

Not what your Ego would like for it to be.

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Just Breathe!

Recently I’ve discover just how important controlling your breath is.

I consider myself to be sort of a constant science experiment. I’m always trying new things and attempting to integrate new ideas, in an effort to evolve beyond my current consciousness.

I’ve been doing a tremendous amount of meditation and yoga and, as most of us know, focusing on the breath can help you to center yourself during these activities.

I also know from my jiu jitsu studies and my superiors in class how important breath is.

Up until recently I’ve been just pushing through. I’m in good enough shape that I can outlast most other people, BUT this past week I decided to slow down and focus on controlling my breath, and WOW, what a game changer that was.

Opponents who typically own me didn’t quite own me in the same way.

By controlling my breathing I was able to think ahead and be proactive instead of reactive. I found myself in dominant positions and instead of getting there and forgetting the next step, I was able to transition into submissions.

It’s TRULY AMAZING how much impact this one technique can have.

I guarantee it would work for almost any situation. If you can control your breath, you give yourself the best chance to win on the battlefield, in an arena, on the field, on a stage, in the boardroom, and I’m sure in the bedroom as well.

All you have to do is once you feel the anxiety creep up and your breath shorten, just focus on breathing more deeply. Focus on completely filling your lungs with air.

Then boom! You’ll become instantly sharper and more focused.