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hi !

i mostly think im done with this tumblr in part bc i rly dont identify as a stone femme, only as a high femme and it feels silly to post here .... i could change the name but honestly i find myself wanting to share my personal feelings & experiences (which are not necessarily positive) but i feel like i cant rly here bc its a general blog and not supposed to be my personal space for expression. & was made as a space for celebration + positivity. it was a genuinely lovely thing that i started all those yrs ago when i had learnt abt & came to understand myself as a stone lesbian, and a high femme in specific & i will forever be grateful for the joy that i felt in sharing that with ppl thru this tumblr. tysm to everyone who was part of this !!

i have started a personal tumblr called @highfemmeblues which u can check out ig [tho idk how much i'll use it tbh !! but just in case u wld like to follow me] & i also do have a nsfw tumblr that i do also talk abt my personal stuff on [alongside other stuff!] occasionally & mostly in a sad way but thats @loserfemme [but if u kno me personally then plz dont follow me there] <3 <3

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hi !

i mostly think im done with this tumblr in part bc i rly dont identify as a stone femme, only as a high femme and it feels silly to post here .... i could change the name but honestly i find myself wanting to share my personal feelings & experiences (which are not necessarily positive) but i feel like i cant rly here bc its a general blog and not supposed to be my personal space for expression. & was made as a space for celebration + positivity. it was a genuinely lovely thing that i started all those yrs ago when i had learnt abt & came to understand myself as a stone lesbian, and a high femme in specific & i will forever be grateful for the joy that i felt in sharing that with ppl thru this tumblr. tysm to everyone who was part of this !!

i have started a personal tumblr called @highfemmeblues which u can check out ig [tho idk how much i'll use it tbh !! but just in case u wld like to follow me] & i also do have a nsfw tumblr that i do also talk abt my personal stuff on [alongside other stuff!] occasionally & mostly in a sad way but thats @loserfemme [but if u kno me personally then plz dont follow me there] <3 <3

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Madeline D. Davis in “The Femme Tapes” by Joan Nestle, Madeline Davis, and Amber Hollibaugh (recorded 1982)

published in The Persistent Desire: A Femme-Butch Reader (1992), ed. Joan Nestle

but I did touch her manually and made her climax and that was the way she came. It was quite a different experience from the next woman I got involved with about four months later, who really was a stone butch. She put her hand up inside of me and she came! And then I thought, “There was something else happening here.”

And this was a woman whom I was not in love with. She was cute, a short chunky version of Beebo Brinker; they were all dark with blue eyes then! You know it’s been a type I have been after. I didn't find too many, but after a while my tastes expanded. They had to. But I still look down the street after a dark-haired, blue-eyed woman.

Anyway, this was a woman who was obviously crazy about my body — the second woman — and I got a whole other feeling suddenly. I mean the men wanted to fuck me, they liked me, but this was a woman who loved my body. I never really loved my body. I was comfortable with it. I knew where all its parts were and that it was functional. But I was always somewhat overweight. I never thought I was pretty, and to this day, you know, eight hundred people can say you're gorgeous and you're never going to believe it. But here was a woman who, when she touched me, trembled, and god — the world opened up.

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ppl will post butch positivity with like 5 allusions to transmasculitity (binding, t, top surgery, etc) and 0 mentions of transfem butches

i love you butches on estrogen! i love you butches who feel caught between expressing yourself as a woman and as a butch because of transmisogyny! i love you butches who want/have bottom surgery! i love you butches who don’t! i love you butches who feel like butch is your gender and i love you butches who feel like butch is your sexuality!

i love you transfem butches! i love you trans women butches! i love you butches!

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Excerpts from Stone Femme by Regan McClure (Skin Deep: Real Life Lesbian Sex Stories edited by Nicole Foster)

really love these tender description from the pov of a smitten stone butch of a stone femme — how different yet the same we are, how we feel the same toughness and protectiveness, the same pursuit of and nurturing of pleasure for our lovers, how we can reinvent pleasure entirely every time we’re with someone new

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not to be a sociologist on main but the responses of like “of course high femmes don’t ‘not do anything,’ we put effort in through xyz means” don’t really do it for me. like instead i wanna ask why is the idea of sex that isn’t (physically) “reciprocal” morally reprehensible to you? why do you prioritize reciprocity over consent? why is laziness a bad thing, and why do you talk about leisure sex in terms of work? do you actually want to be doing what you’re doing?

anyway high femme 🤝 ace 🤝 sex worker solidarity because i really only see these kinds of conversations happening in the latter two spaces

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yeah sure read Stone Butch Blues to understand he/him lesbians but don’t forget the unionizing your workplace part

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here's a fake interview about my me & my girlfriend that i transcribed from my head. enjoy!

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amazing ty for sharing !

just crying about this lovely butch archive i just stumbled across & the fact there’s a stone section <3

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this post is i think over two years old & i think darcy the person who made the archive stopped updating it like over a year ago.... & people keep saying the link isnt working which there is nothing i can do about ! but if you want to try to access some more info about this darcy made a zine about making the archive/the archive itself which i dont think you can buy rn but you might be able to at some point so here is the link / info to that 

just crying about this lovely butch archive i just stumbled across & the fact there’s a stone section <3

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thinmking about studs

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Happy Valentine’s Day to all you lovely butches, studs, and femmes of every variety. I love you all so much— I’ve never felt so at home as I do with all of you 🖤

(This is part of a series I’ve been working on of soft little butch/femme moments, but the one that means the most to me. Love to my muses 🖤)

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i totally understand that when discussing the sex lives of gay people, there is a very large overemphasis on a top/bottom dichotomy to the point that many people (especially cishets and lgbt people w little experience in the subject) believe that all or at least most lgbt people are exclusively tops or exclusively bottoms, and i understand wanting to correct that misconception, especially because part of the reason it is so widespread is because cishets assume that in same-gender relationship one person must always be "the woman" (who therefore exclusive bottoms) and one "the man" (who exclusively tops). i understand wanting to make people understand that for many if not most gay people, switching is natural and enjoyable and that these roles are not usually so strictly defined.

but ive seen far too many people say things like "we take turns like normal people" or "im normal i just switch" - with that specific phrasing of "normal" or very similar wording - and i really want you to consider that that is a very hurtful thing to say. there is and has been a longstanding disdain for men who exclusively bottom and a specific disgust for men who bottom in sex with other men, as well as disdain for stone butches and stone fems, who are often treated as regressive, selfish, reproducing heterosexuality, or inherently sexually disordered. people (especially wlw) who exclusively top or bottom are often treated as if their sex life cannot be satisfying, as if they are sexually defective, as if their boundaries are unfair to their partners, as if they have some sort of sexual issue that they need to just get over. before you say something about how switching is "normal" unlike the supposedly immature or regressive people who dont switch, please consider that there is no "normal" sex, that it is not more progressive to put norms on how people may have sex, and that what is most unhealthy for all of us is to tell people that their sexual boundaries and the things theyre not comfortable or willing to do during sex make them abnormal. as someone who is a stone top in large part because of sexual trauma, some of you honestly make me feel like shit about myself for not wanting to be topped, and i dont think thats "normal".

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[Text ID: make friends with butches. if you should be so lucky. /End ID]

click for quality + do not remove caption (instagram)

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i had to reblog this & add marf's incredible strap on harness toolbelt which not only fits incredibly with this post but also looks amazing !!!

some stone butches are like “my clothes stay ON during sex”