strayshaz

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this post literally just reminded me I have leftovers in the fridge that I need to eat now else I'll forget again, ty stranger

ADHD

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people will hear you talk about struggling with mental illness and say “you can do anything if you just put your mind to it”. brother what part of the body does the mental illness happen in. what do you think is the problem

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born to infodump forced to constantly worry if the other person actually cares or if im making sense or if i said something wrong or if im embarrassing myself or if they want me to stop talking or

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literally me 25/8

more adhd things

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this is your gentle reminder to stop fighting against your adhd and instead structure your life around it

buy a pack of chapsticks and put one in the pocket of all of your coats and jackets because you always forget to bring one and chapped lips is sensory hell

leave important things where you can see them. if they go in a box or a drawer you will forget they exist

put any appointments or deadlines in your phone calendar As Soon As you get them. set a reminder for a week before, a day before, an hour before, as many as you need as often as you need them.

when that little voice in your head says "i dont need to write that down, ill remember it" that is the devil talking!!! write it down anyway!!

plan for down time. have a few hours at the end of every day to just do fun stuff like engage in your hyperfixations. even if you didnt get all of your work done that day, have the rest anyway. you probably spent the whole day beating yourself up for not doing what you Should be doing, so you still need the break.

if you never eat vegetables because its too much effort to chop and cook them, get the frozen or canned shit. it doesnt go off for ages and you just have to microwave it. theres no point buying fresh vegetables if they just keep going off and being left to rot in the bottom of your fridge

if you struggle to decide what to have for dinner every day, take the decision out of it. choose a set of meals and eat those on rotation until you get sick of them, then choose some new ones and do it again.

its not stupid if it works! our brains literally have a chemical deficiency. you are allowed to accommodate yourself. go forth and stop making your life more difficult than it has to be because "this shouldn't be this hard". it is hard, so make it easier.

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There's a bunch of adhd advice out there that's like "people with adhd tend to work better under deadlines due to the anxiety so here are ways to artificially induce a stress response in order to get you to get work done" and it's like well what if I don't want to be stressed out all the time in order to function

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me: *yawns*

My partner: you've been literally just sat in bed doing nothing all day, how tf can you be tired?

uuhhh....would you like the long answer or short answer?

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i love when neurotypical people claim to headcanon a character as having ADHD (or even worse, claim to be ADHD themselves) and then list a bunch of traits that are quirky and cutely forgetful.

oh yes ADHD is SO ADORABLE. the cutest part is the subtly soul-destroying way it creeps into every facet of your life like stagnant water, not a deluge that other people can see and understand, but beneath the surface of your barely-held-together functionality, eroding your time and energy into a massive sinkhole, rotting the foundation of all your self worth, infecting your every success and achievement with rancid flaws, so you are called careless and lazy, no matter how much blood and sweat and tears you have poured into something, until you are a shell of a person, wondering why you can't just do things the way other people seem to, why you always make a mistake somewhere, why you always forget, no matter how much you promised you wouldn't, and wrote yourself notes and set alarms and reminders, only to watch the ADHD swallow those things in the sand like they never even existed, leaving you with the soul-crushing sysiphean labor of trying and failing again and again

oh sorry, is that not the adorably hyperactive character headacanon you have? do tell me about yours! 😊

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I lost my momentum, ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

So, like, if you lose your momentum with ADHD it's super hard to get started again. Momentum is extremely important. Okay. BUT, and here's the kicker, if you carry that momentum too long, you burn out and can't do anything... WHERE IS THE BALANCE.

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My parents: *abuse me as a child and normalise bad behaviour*

Me: *as an adult realises those things are bad and I actively voice my opinions against those things*

My parents: "why are you so weird? Cant you just act normal for once"

Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't realising hating abuse and being traumatised coz of it is 'weird' 🙄 the fact that you hate my opinion of being against it says more about you, than me. Thanks for being shit parents 😀

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